Hey guys. I've been troubled and guilt ridden for awhile.. I've been sneaking around my dad because I am keeping my LDR a secret from him. I hate lying to my dad, and I hate hiding things from him. He's the best dad ever and I just want to tell him the truth, but I can't.
I was also in an LDR when I was 13. One time my dad woke me up in the morning and my phone dinged (text messaged), he saw the face of the cell phone, he said "Who's Steve? You better not be giving boys on the internet your phone number or I'll take away your internet, computer, and your cellphone." Luckily I was still groggy so I just muttered a no, and that was that.
And so that is why I am not telling my dad... I'm afraid he'll do the things he said and I wouldn't be able to talk to my SO. I didn't go out and look for some guy on the internet, I was even in denial that I had feelings for him for monthes, I even pushed myself away from him so I wouldn't fall for him.
But now my SO and I have been together for a year and a half (known each over for 2 years), and I am sneaking around my dad to see my SO. I lied when I told him I wanted to go to California by myself as my "graduation present" (my mom ended up coming). I didn't tell him why I was never home when my SO came to take me to my prom. I lied to him once about my friends wanting to take me on a cruise/Vegas when we tried to do that.
My head tells me the longer I keep a lie going, the worse it will be. I had planned to tell him in 11 monthes that I had been seeing a boy I met on the internet because we grew close, but he lives here now. If I told my dad sooner and he was okay with it, I'd be able to see my SO more often. I don't know what he'll be upset with, that I hid this from him and lied, or that I was seeing a boy on the internet. My sister is on my back constantly about it. She doesn't understand that the things she says hurts me. I suspect its a matter of time before she is fed up and tells my dad myself, she's dropped hints before. "Well, I don't get my men on the internet..." right infront of him.
I know the best time to tell him is when my SO lives here, because I feel it'd be easier to take it more seriously..I just need to wait and have patience and it will all work out. But I don't know what to do... I need opinions. Thanks if you read this all, it was mostly my mind running off at the keyboard... lol
I was also in an LDR when I was 13. One time my dad woke me up in the morning and my phone dinged (text messaged), he saw the face of the cell phone, he said "Who's Steve? You better not be giving boys on the internet your phone number or I'll take away your internet, computer, and your cellphone." Luckily I was still groggy so I just muttered a no, and that was that.
And so that is why I am not telling my dad... I'm afraid he'll do the things he said and I wouldn't be able to talk to my SO. I didn't go out and look for some guy on the internet, I was even in denial that I had feelings for him for monthes, I even pushed myself away from him so I wouldn't fall for him.
But now my SO and I have been together for a year and a half (known each over for 2 years), and I am sneaking around my dad to see my SO. I lied when I told him I wanted to go to California by myself as my "graduation present" (my mom ended up coming). I didn't tell him why I was never home when my SO came to take me to my prom. I lied to him once about my friends wanting to take me on a cruise/Vegas when we tried to do that.
My head tells me the longer I keep a lie going, the worse it will be. I had planned to tell him in 11 monthes that I had been seeing a boy I met on the internet because we grew close, but he lives here now. If I told my dad sooner and he was okay with it, I'd be able to see my SO more often. I don't know what he'll be upset with, that I hid this from him and lied, or that I was seeing a boy on the internet. My sister is on my back constantly about it. She doesn't understand that the things she says hurts me. I suspect its a matter of time before she is fed up and tells my dad myself, she's dropped hints before. "Well, I don't get my men on the internet..." right infront of him.
I know the best time to tell him is when my SO lives here, because I feel it'd be easier to take it more seriously..I just need to wait and have patience and it will all work out. But I don't know what to do... I need opinions. Thanks if you read this all, it was mostly my mind running off at the keyboard... lol
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