How often do you fly to see your SO and who has more time to come?

[katiecat08]

Im wondering because its been exactly one week from today that we met for the first time and it feels like its been forever. I know that even considering visiting again this month is way too soon considering the cost and all and his new job. How can I survive until the next visit when all I want to do is be with him? I'm considering coming to visit in July and it seems so far away now, but given he just started his new job and all, its probably the best time. It's just we only spent one day together and I'm anxious for way more time with him again. Who is the one in your relationship that visits the most? Somehow I think its going to end up being me because of his unpredictable schedule.

[Verojoon]

So far, he has never come to me. I can't wait until he can come to me, because his schedule is much more flexible than mine and because I have a house so we don't have to worry about hotels if he can come here. I think once he gets all the passport stuff figured out, we will be able to see each other more often but right now we only see each other twice a year and it is really, really difficult. The first few weeks after seeing him, it really feels impossible to wait... but then we get in a bit of a pattern and it gets easier off and on... I'm going through a difficult time right now... It's just been too long.

[lyonsgirl]

I typically make the trips. It's easier for me to go than it is for him - and I can afford the travel expenses - and this way if he gets called into work, he can still go in. Plusalso, when I travel there we are able to work on wedding plans. We usually are able to visit every other month, although there have been times when we have gone 3 months without seeing each other.

[JoeyBug]

I've never been to him, well since we started dating. I met him when I was in the US so I kinda saw him then. It's now been over a year since I saw him, but the next time should be the time when he's staying for good so I'm happy to wait

[abna1]

So far, he has never come to me. I can't wait until he can come to me, because his schedule is much more flexible than mine and because I have a house so we don't have to worry about hotels if he can come here. I think once he gets all the passport stuff figured out, we will be able to see each other more often but right now we only see each other twice a year and it is really, really difficult. The first few weeks after seeing him, it really feels impossible to wait... but then we get in a bit of a pattern and it gets easier off and on... I'm going through a difficult time right now... It's just been too long.

YES, this !

And I'm also the one making all the trips, because it's pretty much impossible for him to get a visa for Germany. I'm still trying to come to terms with the fact that the first time he'll be able to come here is when we're married and even then it'll be a difficult process.

I hope you can go see him in July, katiecat08

[Jazi]

when we were in the 'LDR dating' phase of our relationship we would alternate visits - his visits would usually be shorter than mine because he couldn't take much time off work but it was still worth it to alternate visiting so he could really get to know my family and learn about my life here, we are closing the distance here in Aus too and because he has had 4 trips here in 2 years he won't be completely in shock . We both ended up visiting each others countries approx every 6 months.

Right now though we are waiting for his visa to be granted and are meeting up in Hawaii for a bit of a holiday together to make the waiting for the visa a bit easier - the next trip after that will be him moving to close the distance.. and by then it'll be just shy of a year since he has been in Aus.

[Brieasaurus]

So far, he's the one that comes. Our visit in July, I'll be going there for the first time. Although it's more expensive, it's easier for him to get off work to come here instead of me missing school to go there. We only have one or two visits a year so consider yourself lucky! In my opinion, having a set visit makes time go by so much faster.

[Black_Halloween]

We tend to alternate visits, he'll come here during his school vacations and i'll go to see him once in the summer.

[squeeker]

I've always flown to him so far.... it's complicated and based on a number of things I won't go into here. We average about 1 trip a year but they tend to be longer because of that, 2 weeks the first meeting (After a little over a year of knowing each other), 6 months until 2nd meeting for a month, and then 12 months/1 year until our third visit where I stayed for 3 1/2 months and now it'll be 9 months until our fourth and next visit this summer when I stay for 7 weeks. The first few days and weeks after a visit are always harder and then you fall into a rhythm but then every now and then it gets more difficult and then it's okay, and when you have your next ticket booked it gets easier because you have a concrete day you are seeing each other again.. Good luck

[leonsfangirl]

we've had 4 visits in the 2 and a half years we've been together. He's been here twice and i've gone there twice but i can only visit for a week at a time but he came over for 2 weeks each time. It's easier for him to come here as i have the children to consider.
Having not long left my husband i know how your feeling right now, i just want to be with him and not having a date when i will get to see him makes it worse. Focus on the great time you had, talk about what you would like to do the next time and know that you WILL see him again soon.

[lademoiselle]

We tend to alternate, but I spend much longer in France than he does in England. I'm a full time student and he works full time, so I have a lot more days during which I can travel. Our trips are roughly once every other month - they weren't always that frequent, but we've both started earning more over the past year or so.

[snow]

It has been and will be always me travelling
I'm graduating within the summer so I'll be free to leave anytime, he's working fulltime so he has only little time off.
It's hard, OP, but you'll manage! Find a date where you'll see yourself again and try to make a countdown

[Sora1101]

My SO has visited me twice and I've visited him twice. He only visited me because I was so young and wasn't able to fly and stay on my own but now that I'm 19 it's not a problem. I can also stay longer if I visit him because that means he doesn't have to take off work and won't lose money. And I have more time to visit him since I go to school so I have all winter break and all of spring break.

[milaya]

My SO visits me more often. He works for 5 weeks and then gets 5 weeks off, so he comes to visit me every 6 weeks for 4 weeks. I guess we're quite well off, especially considering our long distance and the price of flight tickets he has to pay every month.
I only visit him when something prevents him from visiting me. I'm a university student and I have to attend all my classes or I will fail. I exams are always decided last minute, making it hard to plan around the holidays. So I probably go to Japan twice a year or something.

[ZenZeta]

So far, he comes to me, but our situation is a little different because we actually live in the same city. He lives out of the country for 8 months out of the year for work. He's made sacrifices to see me once already, and it looks like we will be able to see each other at least once a month which I consider a HUGE blessing.

However, I am soooo looking forward to being able to come to him in the very near future. We have the additional blessing of not really needing to worry about the expense of travel. The main thing that challenges us is both our busy schedules.

Where there's a will there's a way, I guess...