How often do you fly to see your SO and who has more time to come?

[pretty ll vacant]

Sounds like my relationship. His job is random and unpredictable so he never knows when he's going to come here, the only solid dates we have for visits are when I go there to see him. Even with me, I have a dick for a boss who doesn't like to let me take time off so we both kind of struggle with seeing each other and trust me, I feel your pain on each and every level because all I want to do is be with him. So far I have gone to him twice and he has come to me once. I don't have much advice except that patience is key here. It's a lot harder to get through the time apart when you don't have a set date for when you're going to see each other again, so I like to kind of make up a date in my head and it helps time move a long faster. I know its easier said than done but stay as busy as you can, that way you're not constantly dwelling on the fact that he's not around. -hugs-

[Ejoriah]

Usually I visit. This semester I had my classes scheduled so that I had Fridays and Mondays off (four day weekends, anyone?). He works full time and makes a pretty decent living, which is the ONLY reason we can afford to see each other so often (every 2-3 weeks). He's come up here a few times (either flying then renting a car or driving the whole 11h) and it's been great having him here meeting my friends and helping me with grocery shopping (I don't have a car so do everything on foot). But he can only stay for a weekend, which doesn't always feel worth it.

[Hollandia]

I usually go over to him mostly. We did meet up once in Ireland and he came here once, the rest of the time I go there. The general idea is that I will end up moving there so it makes more sense plus his job and school make him holidays much stickier. I can work remotely while I am with him and have more travel money than he does. I have a really hard time being away from him, I don't even feel like I am the "whole" me when I am waiting to be back with him. I just take it day by day and try to stay as busy as I can. I like to make plans for things that we will be able to do together when reunited. I also like to practice some recipes and then describe them in detail to him. One thing is for sure, the best coping mechanism I have found is THIS COMMUNITY.

[Peachy]

We also alternate. We're about a 3 hr plane right away... same time zone. At a minimum, we see each other once a month. We try to both see each other once a month... so every 3 or so weeks. I respect those in really long distance relationships with much longer flights and different timezones. I don't know how y'all do it.

[Chris516]

So far, he has never come to me. I can't wait until he can come to me

That is the same in my situation. I have(so far) always been the one to fly out to see her.