Hey Everyone,
I feel bad that I haven't posted on here for a while. It's been a rough couple of months.
Part of it being rough was my "possible" significant other who is going through the divorce process and who is also very introverted needed about a month of alone time. We still corresponded some through texting, but she was very stressed with a new job and still going through the process of finalizing the divorce. It was difficult for me to do so, but I respected her wishes and didn't call her for 3 or 4 weeks. At one point, I almost just threw in the towel on the whole thing. I felt like I was texting thin air. However, something keeps telling me to stick with it. So I have and I'm starting to see some fruit (for lack of a better term) of staying with it.
We had a good conversation the other night. Our first in a while. She apologized to me saying that if I felt she was ignoring me, that wasn't what she was doing. She just needed time to decompress from a stressful job. However, not the job is getting a bit easier, her divorce seems to be wrapping up really well and in her favor, and things are looking better. She seems to feel better about life. Which is a good thing She thanked me for helping her find two great attorneys (I have worked in the legal field and family law). So that was nice to hear.
So I'm just trying to take this relationship moment by moment. Trying to be a good friend for her as she gets past this difficult time in her life. This is all going with what many people on here told me to do and gave me advice on which has been super helpful and again I thank everyone. The key is patients. I can be a patient person, but with relationships I tend to want to rush.
As I've said before. I want to do this right and I don't want to meet up with her until after her divorce. Even if we are just meeting as friends. She has said before she is up for celebrating after her divorce. I won't push that. I'll play it by ear. I don't know how she will be after the actual divorce. I don't want to push it, but I also don't want to miss a good opportunity to hang out.
Last night night she talked about the desire to have someone there to back her up in life. She didn't come off as being co-dependent, but more that general desire (I think anyone has) to want someone there in your corner. There with you. It sounded healthy and good for our relationship in the sense that she shared that and some other stories about her past with me. I'm really really trying not to be the "rebound" guy and I'm also trying to not be the "just friends" guy either. I think we are heading in the right direction. Any thoughts shared is always valuable. Thank you in advance.
-Monk wanting to fall deeply in Love with this woman.
I feel bad that I haven't posted on here for a while. It's been a rough couple of months.
Part of it being rough was my "possible" significant other who is going through the divorce process and who is also very introverted needed about a month of alone time. We still corresponded some through texting, but she was very stressed with a new job and still going through the process of finalizing the divorce. It was difficult for me to do so, but I respected her wishes and didn't call her for 3 or 4 weeks. At one point, I almost just threw in the towel on the whole thing. I felt like I was texting thin air. However, something keeps telling me to stick with it. So I have and I'm starting to see some fruit (for lack of a better term) of staying with it.
We had a good conversation the other night. Our first in a while. She apologized to me saying that if I felt she was ignoring me, that wasn't what she was doing. She just needed time to decompress from a stressful job. However, not the job is getting a bit easier, her divorce seems to be wrapping up really well and in her favor, and things are looking better. She seems to feel better about life. Which is a good thing She thanked me for helping her find two great attorneys (I have worked in the legal field and family law). So that was nice to hear.
So I'm just trying to take this relationship moment by moment. Trying to be a good friend for her as she gets past this difficult time in her life. This is all going with what many people on here told me to do and gave me advice on which has been super helpful and again I thank everyone. The key is patients. I can be a patient person, but with relationships I tend to want to rush.
As I've said before. I want to do this right and I don't want to meet up with her until after her divorce. Even if we are just meeting as friends. She has said before she is up for celebrating after her divorce. I won't push that. I'll play it by ear. I don't know how she will be after the actual divorce. I don't want to push it, but I also don't want to miss a good opportunity to hang out.
Last night night she talked about the desire to have someone there to back her up in life. She didn't come off as being co-dependent, but more that general desire (I think anyone has) to want someone there in your corner. There with you. It sounded healthy and good for our relationship in the sense that she shared that and some other stories about her past with me. I'm really really trying not to be the "rebound" guy and I'm also trying to not be the "just friends" guy either. I think we are heading in the right direction. Any thoughts shared is always valuable. Thank you in advance.
-Monk wanting to fall deeply in Love with this woman.
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