I've been told by almost everyone I talk to that when you find the person you want to stick with for the rest of your life you just 'know.' but if one wants that outcome enough wouldn't one get that feeling anyway? I don't know, I can't know the future of my relationship. All I know is that I can see a future with Alex, I can see living with him, I can see marrying him, but if that happens I know it'll be 3 years or more down the road. So how does one 'know'? I'm not against people dreaming or wanting to be with their loved one, though I do think it's a little overboard if one makes assumptions on compatibility too early in the game as I see happening all too often.
But is knowing seeing a future together? Granted, I never saw a future with any other boyfriend, but I know plenty of people who COULD see a future together but it didn't happen for one reason or another. I don't think that knowing is seeing a future together because if that were the case then everyone in a relationship would 'know.' Then is it the feeling you get around them? A relaxed state? A homelike feeling? You can feel that with friends, too. So what is it?
I think I might 'know' but there's always another person's feelings and desires to balance, so at this point I shouldn't make assumptions.
What are everyone else's thoughts on the subject?
But is knowing seeing a future together? Granted, I never saw a future with any other boyfriend, but I know plenty of people who COULD see a future together but it didn't happen for one reason or another. I don't think that knowing is seeing a future together because if that were the case then everyone in a relationship would 'know.' Then is it the feeling you get around them? A relaxed state? A homelike feeling? You can feel that with friends, too. So what is it?
I think I might 'know' but there's always another person's feelings and desires to balance, so at this point I shouldn't make assumptions.
What are everyone else's thoughts on the subject?
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