New to LDR, wouldn't mind some help or kind words

[Stokens]

Hi everyone

My girlfriend of 8 months just recently finished her time with me after an exchange year. She came to my home for a month and lived with my grandparents and I before going back England from Canada where I'm from. Since I left her at the airport yesterday I just can't seem to pull myself together, whether I tear up for 2 minutes or 30 I just don't have any control over it. Going to work is 10x harder on me knowing there's not somebody to talk to when I get home and not having her beside me when I sleep just hurts. It's one of the worst feelings I've ever had, as we had a flawless relationship basically and now all it is, is distance causing me to hurt. I'd just like to hear some stories or something of some people in similar situations as me as I've read a ton of those recently and they do really help. I appreciate any help greatly. I do predict I will be spending a lot of time on here asking for help and helping, I do find the internet is where I spend a majority of my free time without her so I figure I should do something that helps me.


Thanks, Alex

[sarahjane1992]

I totally understand how you feel! I'm pretty new to this too. It can be very lonely. My BF lives in Texas, I'm in North Carolina. I flew back to NC on Sunday. We spent a wonderful week together. When he left me at the airport, we were both super emotional. We text and talk and facetime a lot, but it's hard when you can't have them with you. We have a visit planned in just a couple of weeks which helps.
Sometimes it can feel like you're alone. But there are a lot of people who are going through the same thing, which helps a lot. Sometimes I miss him so much I can't stand it. But we won't be apart too much longer. If you have the right person, it's totally worth it!

[Zephii]

Welcome Alex
The fresh pain will at some point fade into a dull throb and you'll get your life back, for the most part anyway. Try to focus on how lucky you are to know each other rather than how hard the distance is. You'll get there.

[Efox]

you can do it, fight for it, if she is the one shes WORTH IT, and if it hurts like hell...it will feel more of a heaven than ever, if you guys see each other again :c

[Jade_Crystal]

Try distracting yourself with planning your next meeting! It will give you something powerful that you desire to brood over.

I personally cant imagine how I'd feel after a month or so alongside my SO, but I already imagine it being quite similarly devastating once I'd have to leave...
In that case I'd probably try my hardest to apply the advice I've just given - planning our next meeting and my path towards moving in together eventually.