Anyone meet their LDR online?

[Captivated]

However, one month seems very soon to be saying "I love you" to someone when that's the entire time you've known each other. Have you talked to each other through voice or video calls? It's not quite the same as being there in person, but it adds new levels of familiarity.

My guy told me he loved me after only a week. Of course he was a bit drunk at the time but he swore I'd be the person he was going to marry. And lo and behold, we're married.

We also met online on a UK/Irish chat site. It happens...a lot. You don't have to be looking for it...when you feel strongly connected to someone, you just know it.

[Pinion]

My guy told me he loved me after only a week. Of course he was a bit drunk at the time but he swore I'd be the person he was going to marry. And lo and behold, we're married.

We also met online on a UK/Irish chat site. It happens...a lot. You don't have to be looking for it...when you feel strongly connected to someone, you just know it.

I'm not saying it isn't possible, but there are many cases where people come in hot and burn out fast. It's not common for those people to feel that something's "off" when they're in the heat of the moment; it always seems to feel good. It's a very big gamble to bring love into the picture if your only contact with someone has been text for a month, because what can be expressed through text alone is limited and nobody needs the pain of a confusing fall out... especially those working to raise children alone.

There is also catfishing to worry about, and a recent thread here on the subject. It can be hard to be %100 sure, but there are ways to minimize the possibility.

[snow]

Stephen and I met online on an FPS called Zombie Panic! Source and we're one year in and going strong
It involves a lot of work on both sides, but if you're committed and honest it can work

[Jazi]

Another Onliner! We met on a microphone based chat program called Ventrilo.

Although we met online.. we were just friends for 2 years - I always considered him one of my best friends and we kept in contact via msn (oldschool!) txting and emailing. We both had other relationships during the 2 year friendship and eventually we were single at the same time and he decided to visit me, we consider our anniversary to be the first day we met in person

Good news for you guys is that you live in the same country! I know that you both having kids could be an issue with closing the distance... but being in the same country is a huge plus for you guys. There are some people on the forums here who have kids and manage their LDRs, it can be done, you just have to make the choice to do it

[Layla312]

So many sounds similar to me! I'm glad I wrote because I felt a bit crazy.

We used to do video chat every night for hours...sometimes twice a day. And we talked on the phone a lot too. But some unfortunate circumstances have me temporarily living with limited Internet access and that's kinda when things started to drift.

We are supposed to meet in June and he's been saying we'll meet in the flesh and go from there. I just hate that he was so serious then backed off because I do NOT play with the L word. If I'm only luke warm about it, I don't say it.

As for only saying it after a month, my ex husband said it after a week and we were together for 12 years...but he was someone I settled for...that's why it ended.

Well, in any event, thank you all for the feedback. At least I know there's a possibility and that's enough for me to give it a real shot. I hope he agrees!

[garnet]

Yes! My SO and I met online, we each have a kid. We've had amazing visits, our kids have even met, and we will eventually close the distance.

[ST25]

Me and my SO met online on a gaming forum. We don't have kids, but we did have a lot on our hands. And yet we're still making it after all this time. So yes, it is indeed possible. It just depends on how much you want to fight for the reality you want with him.

[chizatlauren]

My SO and I met on Omegle, a random stranger chatting site. It was really weird, cause I was just there cause I was so freakin' bored that night. My SO and I live in exactly opposite sides of the hemisphere, but we're doing everything to make it work and we're visiting each other within the year.

[Verojoon]

As for only saying it after a month, my ex husband said it after a week and we were together for 12 years...but he was someone I settled for...that's why it ended.

This is exactly me! (well 11 years, not 12, but still!!) And I know he still loves me (though he went through a period of hating me when I left...) Sometimes we know...

I told my current bf I loved him within 2 weeks... He took much longer... But I felt it surely and it just kinda escaped my lips when we were talking about the concept of love... almost 3 years later... the feeling is the same...

[sarahjane1992]

I met my BF online. Signed up on a website and got a lot of messages. My bf sent me a message and he seemed really genuine. We started talking and we've been together ever since! I'n going to see him again in 3 weeks! if you have the commitment to each other, it can work just great!

[XxFranticLovexX]

I met my SO online, on a forum website, that I had been on for about 5 years before meeting him there. We started chatting as friends, and well.. yeah. I'm sitting in his room waiting for him to come back from the shower as I type this. So, to answer your question, yes it can work out fine. You just have to both be in it for the right reasons and willing to work on a real relationship and being together.

Welcome to the forums btw, I hope you enjoy yourself here. ^_^;

[Chris516]

Yes, We met online.

[Louise_B]

I met my SO on facebook 5 years ago.

We spoke a lot and i supported him through most of his first tour in Afghanistan with phonecalls. But when it started getting strong and deep with us. I backed off because it didnt seem real and i didnt think we would ever meet. I was on 17 and my parents would never allow it. Plus i was only in college with no job .. OH and i was in a relationship!! LOL.

5 years on .. we hit it off again and we cut our losses and just booked a ticket and our first meet was amazing! And i know it will just be me and him from now on

[TooFarAway]

Met mine on MMORPG <3

[kissingbunny]

I met mine on a tiny MMO as well. It can and does happen frequently I believe