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    #16
    Actually we have just an hour difference, but because we are from different countries and cultures, it does change a lot. In a normal day I have to wake up at 7am and he too or even earlier. But by the time I get to answer his good morning text he is already at work and therefore cannot write a lot. I have school so there are days when I have free afternoons, but he is working then, he arrives at work and we skype at 6pm my time. By 8pm, I have to dine with my family because it's ''the rules''. We only have this 2 hours to skype and even less, because of the webcam problems and internet conection. Also, he dines pretty earlier (at 6) so I feel it is my fault, cause if I skipped dinner with my family we could talk more. Because we are so busy and I work during the weekends we rearely skype more than 3 days per week. It really sucks. I hate that I don't have the weekend off as everybody else, but it was my choice to work and study at the same time...

    I think the time difference isn't that much of a big deal if you are in the same country, well depending on the difference, sure! but our contries have totally different timetables and my boyfriend always has to go to bet really early. So by 22pm my time he is almost falling asleep on skype and I am well awake.

    How do we cope? I think we manage the time each new week saying "this day and that day I have plans/or I am busy. Are you free on XYW?". (Like planing weekly). If you can call for free it's nice, but we spend a lot of money when we do that, so we call each other quite rarely. It's about doing sacrifices... Sometimes I felt he was going out with friends and stayed until 2am, but he never did with me. It's different sure, but it really makes me clingy.
    And also, seeing skype time as WE time is very important. I feel we sometimes forget about that, or I felt I needed more skype time, so I told him. We cannot do better, but I think it is important to assume that one of you will have to stay up later eventually, and then change places.
    Take it as a situation where you're doing you're best and I think this helps dealing with the dificulties!
    Last edited by Jess!; June 7, 2013, 01:36 PM.

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      #17
      Originally posted by Louise_B View Post
      me and my SO have a time difference of 6 hours. Im ahead of him. Its barable but sometimes it can get lonely and frustrating. If i work an early shift at work which i do quite alot i have to be up at 4am which his already in bed for work. and the time i wanna go to bed his still at work. i used to stay up but then i become really tired in work and i couldnt keep doing it. So we make do with texting through the day and facetime for 5 mins if we get a chance.

      Dont get me wrong it does suck but its like being in a normal relationship if your working you cant help but be busy

      Jedi hugs! uhhh that must be hard

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        #18
        My SO is 9 hours behind me!! When I am asleep he is up and at work... when I am up and at work he is asleep! When I get up at 7am ish we might send a few messages back and forth before I have to get to work... and then he may message me sporadically when he gets a 5 minute break at work! And that's it. It's hard... it feels like I don't have a boyfriend in all honesty... but what's easier for us than for a lot of others on this forum is we spend 2 weeks out of every 6 weeks together so it's not totally horrendous! We Skype whenever we can but don't plan it... if I am at home by the laptop and know he's awake and not at work I will just call him

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          #19
          I have a 3 hour time difference with my SO too. I'm ahead. I have no problem staying up at night to talk, I look forward to nights now to get to talk with him. It's not always a 3 hour time difference, as he travels so we could be in the same time zone or still different, he's from CA, so whenever he's in CA it's always a 3 hour time difference. I cope the best I know how, during the day he texts me sometimes, until he's really busy & we don't talk until evening or late at night unless he's busy that time too. It's an adjustment because he's a extremely busy guy. Patience is definitely the key in our relationship.
          Last edited by SongwriterInAnLDR; June 10, 2013, 03:45 PM.

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            #20
            I am 3 hours in the future too ) and only one who is staying up late is me but sometimes we are staying up so late that even for him is late. lol

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