help..

[TooFarAway]

My mom's very abusive...she really doesn't approve of my LDR at all...so she takes out her anger on me by hurting me badly...
what do i do...i mean i love my mom and i dont want her to get in trouble... but ...this hitting...it has to stop...im typing this because i just got beat up and my SO isn't on....i just need some support...im just breaking down...i cant take it anymore...

[Sora1101]

You need to talk to someone, anyone you can trust. A teacher at school, a close family member, or the police. They can help get you out of that situation and make sure that she can't hurt you anymore.

[Ejoriah]

Agreed with the above. What your mother is doing is wrong and you need to tell someone about it. Don't let her hurt you just because you love her.

[kattermole]

You need to talk to someone, anyone you can trust. A teacher at school, a close family member, or the police. They can help get you out of that situation and make sure that she can't hurt you anymore.

If she is physically harming you then you need to do one of the above. There may be a phone number you can call to get advice, but no one should physically hurt another person on purpose, even your parents.

[Black_Halloween]

You need to talk to someone, anyone you can trust. A teacher at school, a close family member, or the police. They can help get you out of that situation and make sure that she can't hurt you anymore.

All of this. I know that you love her but what she's doing to you is wrong.

[Dezface]

The best thing you can do for you and your mom is to tell. If you don't, she'll keep hurting you and thinking its ok. She needs that wake up call to stop NOW. I know you think you're helping her by keeping silent, but it's not a kindness. Please seek help right away. If you need help finding resources in your area, please ask.

[ams.201220]

Sweetheart, I can't stress enough how important it is to get help from someone. Like everyone else is saying, you need to get out of that situation...it's hard and it's going to be...But I don't think any of us want to see you go through something like this again...Really...please message me if you ever just want to talk. I went through a similar situation when I was younger, so I can understand to a point...

[Darth_Taco]

Where are you? If we had an idea of your location then we could give some resource. Hell, if you're nearby a member somebody could hopefully go check on you. Regardless, you need to be in a safe place. I know you love your mom, but she's putting you in danger. You don't deserve to be treated like this.

[Chris516]

My mom's very abusive...she really doesn't approve of my LDR at all...so she takes out her anger on me by hurting me badly...
what do i do...i mean i love my mom and i dont want her to get in trouble... but ...this hitting...it has to stop...im typing this because i just got beat up and my SO isn't on....i just need some support...im just breaking down...i cant take it anymore...

I know you said, that you don't want your mother to get in trouble. But regardless of being in an LDR, you have to make the decision about how much abuse you can handle.

[kteire]

You need to get help, like everyone else has said. Do you have anyone that you can talk to in person, or anyone you could stay with?

I have been where you are, but with my father, and if you need to talk, please pm me. You're not alone!

[TooFarAway]

Thank you all so much (Literally tearing up at all your kindness and support ;-
It feels good that I'm not alone T-T
I don't really have anyone I could talk to except my SO, my best friend and now you guys >_<. You're all so amazing.
This situation I'm in is so frustrating...I know that my mom genuinely cares for me and wants to protect me...But unfortunately the way she disciplines is through hitting. I guess she was brought up that way where hitting your child was the right way to discipline them.
She's been through a lot in her life...from being cheated on by my dad and being divorced and left in Canada with three young kids and no job...So I don't blame her for being so controlling...My mom was really traumatized from what happened...She doesn't want what happened to her to happen to me...She hits me because she's scared of losing me and me getting hurt in my LDR and ending up like her...
She is all in all a good mother...So caring and always there for my and my little sisters. My mom doesn't constantly hit me or my sisters...Only when we do something really bad, but even now she's tried to cut back so it's just mainly screaming and lecturing our ears off. But ever since she found out I have a boyfriend online, the hitting started up again towards me only not my sisters. She would have random bouts of anger towards me (super random) always mentioning how much she disapproves my online relationship. It's like always on her mind and every chance she gets, she brings it up. My mom and me would be fine and then next thing you know it BAM! Back to talking about my LDR...
I really don't want her to get in trouble. Please understand...she's already a single mom with so much stress from money and taking care of us..so I really can't get help or anything.. I'm just trying to get through this, because I will be leaving to go to my dads this summer anyway...But then I have to stay the first year of university with my mom afterwards...I hope the time apart will get her to calm down...

[snow_girl]

Please don't make excuses for her. Hitting you to the point of tears and making a thread about it means you know deep down this isn't right. Can you talk to your father about this? I know it is tough because you love her a lot and she is your mom but regardless of how tough her life as been there is absolutely no excuse to take it out on you. That is NOT okay.

Please call the childrens help phone and at least talk to them and see what they have to say. 1-800-668-6868

[kteire]

Please don't make excuses for her. Hitting you to the point of tears and making a thread about it means you know deep down this isn't right. Can you talk to your father about this? I know it is tough because you love her a lot and she is your mom but regardless of how tough her life as been there is absolutely no excuse to take it out on you. That is NOT okay.

Please call the childrens help phone and at least talk to them and see what they have to say. 1-800-668-6868

This. The help phone can give you anonymous advice and support, and it's a great service.

No matter what hardships your mother has been through, there is never a good reason to hit your child. You don't have to get anything legal involved, but you do need to get out. Trust me. It's unbelievably hard, I know, but you have to choose to love yourself more than you love her. I used to be terrified by the idea of getting free from my dad, and 6 years on, I've never been happier.