He is suddenly Lost :(

[ayarusworld]

aah ic.. So that's why it appears two checkmarks but on the top it says last seen yesterday at 2.33am.

Now his phone is active but when I called always no answer. I don't know maybe he can see my number so he won't answer. Or maybe the one who found that phone won't answer, or maybe he is too sick to answer the call. So i have no idea. What I know is he's been lying to me abt FB, the one that i added wasn't the real one.

And what makes me really sad is he was sooooo nice to me until the last second. He made me believe that this is real, that finally there is a nice guy in this world. He even ask what gift he should bring for my parents and my niece when he come visit. Coz he knew I love my niece and my niece really likes him.

But then, he left me when I'm having a hard time.

[libelle]

Can you hide your number and call? This way he won't know who is calling, maybe he will pick up :?

[ayarusworld]

hehe.. i don't know how to do that to call international.

[libelle]

hmm, then maybe you can ask a close friend to give you their phone, just to call for a minute? :?

[ayarusworld]

i was thinking to ask my friend who lives in US to try call him. Maybe if it from US number he won't think its me n will answer it. But I haven't get a chance to ask since my friend is sooo busy at the moment and I don't want to bother him w my relationship problem.

[Ejoriah]

Honestly... I think you should stop trying to contact him. You've made attempts to contact him and I'm pretty sure that, living in the US, there are many ways he could have found an internet connection or found a way to let you know he's ok. It may still turn out that his phone is stolen and he'll be able to get in touch with you later, but I think it's time for you to distance yourself emotionally a little bit. If you keep trying to contact him you'll just keep the wound open and get hurt, which no one wants for you .

[Black_Halloween]

Honestly... I think you should stop trying to contact him. You've made attempts to contact him and I'm pretty sure that, living in the US, there are many ways he could have found an internet connection or found a way to let you know he's ok. It may still turn out that his phone is stolen and he'll be able to get in touch with you later, but I think it's time for you to distance yourself emotionally a little bit. If you keep trying to contact him you'll just keep the wound open and get hurt, which no one wants for you .

I agree with this.

[iHeartt]

I agree with above. If you still haven't heard from him.
And the whattsapp, I just look at the last read time at top to see my message has been read.

[barret95]

I agree with above. If you still haven't heard from him.
And the whattsapp, I just look at the last read time at top to see my message has been read.

the top "last seen today at XX:XX" means the person was last active on whatsapp, so it also means he might be talking to other contacts on whatsapp and hasn't been on your convo. There's no way of telling if they actually have read it :c

[ayarusworld]

haaaa! He took all my knowledge to comunicate w others. It was me who introduce him to whatsapp, dropbox, etc.

But, thanks everyone for helping me and support me. I will stop contacting him
maybe he is just not for me

[MattDavies86]

the top "last seen today at XX:XX" means the person was last active on whatsapp, so it also means he might be talking to other contacts on whatsapp and hasn't been on your convo. There's no way of telling if they actually have read it :c

That's even worse if he's been active on whatsapp and hasn't even bothered to check what messages she ha sent him! Regardless of the fact it means he's used whatsapp and ignored the messages, that's just shit and disgraceful.

Chin up you will be ok, you can do better than someone who will treat you this way!

[lovebunnie1212]

well not sayin this will end well but i did it i called the police in my so's area and they went to his house and checked to see if he was ok just know if he is fine he might be pretty mad for a bit that he had cops at his door but u would at least know he is ok and the cops can let him to know you want to talk to him cause your worried

[barret95]

That's even worse if he's been active on whatsapp and hasn't even bothered to check what messages she ha sent him! Regardless of the fact it means he's used whatsapp and ignored the messages, that's just shit and disgraceful.

Chin up you will be ok, you can do better than someone who will treat you this way!

IKR! my SO has done that so many times I've lost count. it's frustrating when we're having a convo and then suddenly the messages stops delivering because apparently her phone ran out of battery or the 'wifi' went offline.


OP, if he is still not contacting you, dont be hard on yourself it's not your fault. There's someone out there who will treat you the way you deserve.

[ayarusworld]

Really?? Well I can't lie to my self. I love him. if I could call the cops and finds out, I'd like to know the truth.
How can I call the american cops from Indonesia? Do I have to pay for their help?

[SoConfused]

If you know his address, look up the phone number for the police in his area. Tell them that you would like them to do a "welfare check" on your SO, as it appears that he has fallen off the face of the Earth and it's not like him. Tell them that you are in another country and are worried about him. They will go to his house and make sure everything is okay. They won't charge you to do this. It may be a drastic measure, but honestly, what choice has he given you? Piece of mind is priceless.

Before you do that, you could also check the local hospitals to see if he's a patient.

My thought on this situation is that for some reason, he has gone "no contact". I say this because if he was in an accident or is in the hospital, his phone won't magically charge itself and any calls you make would go straight to voicemail. In addition, if his phone was lost or stolen, he would have suspended service.

Either way, calling the police to do a welfare check may upset him, but maybe in the future he won't be so immature as to nurture a relationship with someone and then disappear without an explanation. Do what you feel is right and will give you piece of mind.

Good luck!