My name is Matt, I am 23 and I have Multiple Sclerosis. Gabi and I met via my blog about my MS and we eventually met here in California, she lives in Ireland. We "clicked" and talked everyday after she left eventually upgrading to skype. Then I visited her in Ireland for 3 weeks. Then a couple months later she came back to the states for 3 weeks, Between when I went to Ireland and Gabi came back here we started bickering a lot more often... It felt like we could never agree on anything... In retrospect I think it was a bit of the stress of trying to figure out how to make it work as far as how to close the distance as well as the tech issues such as skype not working and us constantly saying “what? WHAT? I cant hear you, what?”.
Traveling this far is not cheap either and we (especially me) are not rich so money is another issue as it always is... Because of my MS I cant just move to Ireland like I wanted because it looks like I cant get my medication in Ireland and immigration TOO the states is proving to be... near impossible (as far as we know). I admit that it killed my hope more than hers. Stress is not good for MS, it can cause me to wake up tomorrow unable to see or walk so I tend to avoid it at all costs...
I was starting to feel like I was drowning in all our drama and I just wanted a gasp of air. We argued and I broke up with her today. Towards the end of the day we were already pointing fingers and expressing our bitterness... talking nonetheless... I tried to explain that it's not that I don't love her anymore, I just cant go on fighting and hoping a better situation will grow when we can't even see any light at the end of the tunnel. I have been overwhelmed and just needed to escape but once I did I felt so alone... It doesn't feel right not having her to talk to... She has been there in one way or another since I was basically paralyzed in the hospital/rehab till now where I can walk and drive again. When I thought no one could ever love me and be happy with me she showed me I was wrong.
I don't know if I made a mistake and we should be trying to start fresh and approach this differently. When things start falling apart and you loose your hope you stop looking for ways to fix things and slowly just start accepting. But it was just a month ago that we were lost in the parking lot at Disneyland laughing about our situation so hard we were pretty much crying. How does it fall apart so fast? I want what we had but for some reason it all fell apart so fast...
I really don't think we were handling our situation right either. I woke up an jumped strait on the computer and we would chat all day on facebook or skype until she went to bed (10 hours of talking about nothing really). She is currently between jobs and I am coming off a year of disability so no school and no job for me. Even though I have nothing better to do I was kind of going nuts being on the computer all day but what was I supposed to say? As well, we are both suborn so when it came to disagreements it was hard to admit one of us was wrong, for me it was more "well your not letting up so why should I?" then not wanting to admit I may be wrong. I know that was only aiding the problem but I am just being honest...
What are we doing wrong and is this worth even trying to start fresh? Thank you...
Traveling this far is not cheap either and we (especially me) are not rich so money is another issue as it always is... Because of my MS I cant just move to Ireland like I wanted because it looks like I cant get my medication in Ireland and immigration TOO the states is proving to be... near impossible (as far as we know). I admit that it killed my hope more than hers. Stress is not good for MS, it can cause me to wake up tomorrow unable to see or walk so I tend to avoid it at all costs...
I was starting to feel like I was drowning in all our drama and I just wanted a gasp of air. We argued and I broke up with her today. Towards the end of the day we were already pointing fingers and expressing our bitterness... talking nonetheless... I tried to explain that it's not that I don't love her anymore, I just cant go on fighting and hoping a better situation will grow when we can't even see any light at the end of the tunnel. I have been overwhelmed and just needed to escape but once I did I felt so alone... It doesn't feel right not having her to talk to... She has been there in one way or another since I was basically paralyzed in the hospital/rehab till now where I can walk and drive again. When I thought no one could ever love me and be happy with me she showed me I was wrong.
I don't know if I made a mistake and we should be trying to start fresh and approach this differently. When things start falling apart and you loose your hope you stop looking for ways to fix things and slowly just start accepting. But it was just a month ago that we were lost in the parking lot at Disneyland laughing about our situation so hard we were pretty much crying. How does it fall apart so fast? I want what we had but for some reason it all fell apart so fast...
I really don't think we were handling our situation right either. I woke up an jumped strait on the computer and we would chat all day on facebook or skype until she went to bed (10 hours of talking about nothing really). She is currently between jobs and I am coming off a year of disability so no school and no job for me. Even though I have nothing better to do I was kind of going nuts being on the computer all day but what was I supposed to say? As well, we are both suborn so when it came to disagreements it was hard to admit one of us was wrong, for me it was more "well your not letting up so why should I?" then not wanting to admit I may be wrong. I know that was only aiding the problem but I am just being honest...
What are we doing wrong and is this worth even trying to start fresh? Thank you...
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