Shy about kissing?

[oxytocinbite]

I have been with Mike for about 9 or so months, I still get rather shy and nervous around him at times. I guess he said I could be a bit rude about it and that I should try to learn how to express my words differently. I actually do have a tendency to make myself come off as uninterested sometimes, I try not too. We have met in person once and I was always soo shy and nervous about kissing him. I would always laugh and push him away or say no. haha Which now I get why it could of came off as rude. I am seeing him a little bit more then a couple months. I love kissing him and I hate how shy I get.

Does anyone have any tips on how to come off as less rude if I pull away? Also anyone similar to this, and how to make myself feel less nervous?

I have always been really shy and a bit socially awkward. I just don't want him to think I don't want to kiss him. x)

[Alsfia]

Have you talked about you being shy and nervous with your SO? It took 3-4 visits IRL for my SO to finally relax and be able to act naturally around me, before that he'd always be really quiet and tensed whenever I was with him physically. It was a bit annoying and hard to understand for me but we spent a lot of time talking about it and he said it really helped him. It'll wear off with time I'd dare say but it's important that you let him know that you're just a shy and nervous person and you need time to get used to the physical aspect of your relationship

[Sora1101]

I'm still like this when I'm not alone with my SO during a visit. Sometimes friends are around and he'll lean in for a kiss I blush like mad and turn my head. Sometimes it hurts his feelings and I totally understand that. Not wanting to kiss your SO might be okay with you but to your SO it's almost like a slap in the face, or a major dowsing to their ego.

I think you should explain to your SO that you aren't 100% comfortable kissing him yet and that like any CDR it needs time before you're ready to be sucking face all the time.

[oxytocinbite]

haha yeah, well I have explained to him a bit. He thought it was weird that I am still shy and nervous but everyone is different. If he gets upset about it again I will try to make him understand that I just need time to get more comfortable.