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    Does anyone have their little moments after their SO leave?

    This is so random I don't even know where to post it.

    I am starting my second LDR, and today I have come across a memory from my first one that is repeating itself, so I wanted to know if this happens to you too, or if you have any other post-visit moments.

    Whenever my SO came to visit, I would change the bedding right before he comes, to have a fresh nice bed; but then, as he would only stay for a week max, I would feel terrible about changing the bedding again, as that would mean wash away his smell, specially from the pillows.

    I actually kept my bedding on for a full week after my SO left this time, (couldn't help myself) and only changed it recently; and today, taking it out of the washing machine, I felt all sad for a second because they were fresh and clean, and the pillow didn't have his smell anymore.

    I am a bit crazy, right?
    Last edited by Joeyleery; July 29, 2013, 12:23 PM.

    #2
    Completely normal. I'm a wreck after a visit. He left 2 weeks ago and I'm still sniffing the travel-size deodorant he left behind. Can almost feel the armpit hairs on my face.. (That's crazy).

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      #3
      I think that is totally normal.

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        #4
        You're not crazy at all, I think lots of people do that. After my SO leaves I even sleep in that bed the first night to feel even closer to her. Whenever we leave eachother, I´m an emotional wreck, although I calm down after some days. So hey, if you´re crazy, you´re not the only one

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          #5
          My SO and I are both the same about not washing beds after visits. He only washes his bed after all scent of me is gone.. and he'll cuddle with my pillow, too. One visit he "forgot" one of his shirts (it was intentional, I later found out) and I slept with it every night.
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          too foreign for here.
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            #6
            Originally posted by CanadianGirl View Post
            Completely normal. I'm a wreck after a visit. He left 2 weeks ago and I'm still sniffing the travel-size deodorant he left behind. Can almost feel the armpit hairs on my face.. (That's crazy).
            Lmao. I do the same exact thing. I have a bunch of his clothing (one item specifically that I stuffed into my pillowcase so that as I sleep I can smell him, lol) and perfume. It turns me into somewhat of a looney bin.

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              #7
              Completely normal, I'm usually a complete emotional mess a week or two after he leaves. Have some of his clothes, and he always leaves his deodorant behind because it's almost always used up anyways since he stays a month or two normally. The first time he left and I had to change the sheets I broke down crying. I guess we're all just a bit crazy


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              Met the first time: August 16, 2011

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                #8
                Whenever I'm shopping and I see his deodorant on the isle, I have to sniff it. I've been tempted to buy his cologne too just so I can spray it on my things and pretend that he's there. :\ I never do though because then it wouldn't be as special to me anymore when I do see him!
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                  #9
                  Originally posted by srtd35 View Post
                  I think that is totally normal.
                  Agreed.

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                    #10
                    I agree, absolutely normal. He gave me one of his shirts to take back with me. I sleep next to it every night. Weirdo !

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                      #11
                      it'S understandable. I have his tshirt on me and have been sleeping in it ever since he left.

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                        #12
                        Here I am! Just a day we're apart again, and it feels terrible Gotta stay strong and think someday we'll be together again

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                          #13
                          After my SO left I cuddled with the pillow he used when he was here. Made me feel a bit better being able to smell his scent on it.

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                            #14
                            Originally posted by Joeyleery View Post
                            This is so random I don't even know where to post it.

                            I am starting my second LDR, and today I have come across a memory from my first one that is repeating itself, so I wanted to know if this happens to you too, or if you have any other post-visit moments.

                            Whenever my SO came to visit, I would change the bedding right before he comes, to have a fresh nice bed; but then, as he would only stay for a week max, I would feel terrible about changing the bedding again, as that would mean wash away his smell, specially from the pillows.

                            I actually kept my bedding on for a full week after my SO left this time, (couldn't help myself) and only changed it recently; and today, taking it out of the washing machine, I felt all sad for a second because they were fresh and clean, and the pillow didn't have his smell anymore.

                            I am a bit crazy, right?
                            That is not crazy. Your SO's 'smell'(aroma would be a better word), while something intangible(something you cannot physically touch, hold, and grasp), it is equally important. While it is 'physically' intangible, it is 'mentally' tangible. Because it reminds you of your SO, and washing the sheets feels like you are getting rid of him.

                            First Visit: September 2016
                            Second Visit: January 2017 (Her birthday)
                            Third Visit: June 2018 (medical conference near her home)

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                              #15
                              i Havent had to have my SO leave me yet. And i am not looking forward to is as i feel its going to be somewhat harder than walking away from him.

                              He had to deal with sleeping in the same bed after i left, finding clothes of my around his room and my clips on his bathroom counter. It drove him crazy. But after i left he had to attend NCO school for a month and i left my shower gel at his. So he actually brought it with him to school to feel somewhat closer to me because of the smell!

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