First Real-Life Date! We did it!
So it finally happened and I went on that first real date with the guy I've been IMing with for months.
Some backstory: We actually met in late 2008 when I was an exchange student in the States and became good friends with his sister and hung out with their family a lot. Then in 2011, we somehow started keeping in touch again (sporadically) and a year ago, he actually asked me out (which kind of came as a surprise for me, because I hadn't really seen him this way before). We knew it was unlikely that it would happen, us living on different continents and all, so we agreed to date people in our own countries and just try to forget about all this. Well... obviously, that didn't work out so well, and when I got a pretty good scholarship in April, I decided to spend some of this money on a trip to see my host family and friends again -- and to go on a date with this guy. Ever since I booked my flight in May, we've been talking almost every day. It was just great. We weren't able to skype very often due to my crappy internet connection, and when we did, it was somewhat awkward, but still good.
So let's come to the actual date part of this post. He came to pick me up from my hosts' place at 6 pm, and man, my pulse was going crazy by 5:58 pm. It just all felt somewhat unreal... when I finally saw him. We hugged briefly, and I barely said anything while he talked to my hosts (people from my host dad's church who've really started to like me in the 10 days I've been here). I could've just stared at him for ages...
So we went out to eat and to play putt-putt golf and it was only a little awkward. In fact, it felt quite natural to be with him, but it was more of an "as friends" atmosphere (except for the lame sexual innuendos we liked to make, haha). Then we still had time until my "curfew" (2 am), so we decided to go to a drive-in movie theater and I think you know where this is going. We just talked and made fun of the movie for the first hour or so until he suggested to go sit in the back seat (very smooth, very subtle, right). And we did and he put his arm around me and I just felt very safe and comfortable (emotionally; physically, not so much, because his backseat is tiny). And we didn't say much and kinda-sorta kept watching the movie until he pretty much predicted the way it would end because if you've seen a lot of movies, you can kinda tell what the formula is. So we decided we didn't need to pay attention anymore and just started making out for, like, half an hour until the movie ended. I was a little surprised that he was moving forward so quickly, and I wasn't as into it as he was, by far, but I guess that'll come in time (thoughts?). Anyway, he drove me home (we stopped at some sketchy gas station on the way back and I made sure I was decent before going back), he talked to my host a little (the host took us to see hummingbirds in the garden, really cool) and I got a hug before he left.
Aaand that's basically it. I had a great time, so did he, and on Sunday I'm going to live with him and his family for the rest of my stay. Just thought I'd let y'all know how it went since I had some people asked me to in my introduction thread.
So thanks for reading and have a great day (hopefully, with your SOs)!
Some backstory: We actually met in late 2008 when I was an exchange student in the States and became good friends with his sister and hung out with their family a lot. Then in 2011, we somehow started keeping in touch again (sporadically) and a year ago, he actually asked me out (which kind of came as a surprise for me, because I hadn't really seen him this way before). We knew it was unlikely that it would happen, us living on different continents and all, so we agreed to date people in our own countries and just try to forget about all this. Well... obviously, that didn't work out so well, and when I got a pretty good scholarship in April, I decided to spend some of this money on a trip to see my host family and friends again -- and to go on a date with this guy. Ever since I booked my flight in May, we've been talking almost every day. It was just great. We weren't able to skype very often due to my crappy internet connection, and when we did, it was somewhat awkward, but still good.
So let's come to the actual date part of this post. He came to pick me up from my hosts' place at 6 pm, and man, my pulse was going crazy by 5:58 pm. It just all felt somewhat unreal... when I finally saw him. We hugged briefly, and I barely said anything while he talked to my hosts (people from my host dad's church who've really started to like me in the 10 days I've been here). I could've just stared at him for ages...
So we went out to eat and to play putt-putt golf and it was only a little awkward. In fact, it felt quite natural to be with him, but it was more of an "as friends" atmosphere (except for the lame sexual innuendos we liked to make, haha). Then we still had time until my "curfew" (2 am), so we decided to go to a drive-in movie theater and I think you know where this is going. We just talked and made fun of the movie for the first hour or so until he suggested to go sit in the back seat (very smooth, very subtle, right). And we did and he put his arm around me and I just felt very safe and comfortable (emotionally; physically, not so much, because his backseat is tiny). And we didn't say much and kinda-sorta kept watching the movie until he pretty much predicted the way it would end because if you've seen a lot of movies, you can kinda tell what the formula is. So we decided we didn't need to pay attention anymore and just started making out for, like, half an hour until the movie ended. I was a little surprised that he was moving forward so quickly, and I wasn't as into it as he was, by far, but I guess that'll come in time (thoughts?). Anyway, he drove me home (we stopped at some sketchy gas station on the way back and I made sure I was decent before going back), he talked to my host a little (the host took us to see hummingbirds in the garden, really cool) and I got a hug before he left.
Aaand that's basically it. I had a great time, so did he, and on Sunday I'm going to live with him and his family for the rest of my stay. Just thought I'd let y'all know how it went since I had some people asked me to in my introduction thread.
So thanks for reading and have a great day (hopefully, with your SOs)!
Maybe it's an acquired taste, like alcoholic beverages or coffee. I haven't really been intimate with another human being before, so... we'll see what happens.
Congrats
2014 - save $$, 2015 - get married, 2016 - make the big move! 
I won't bore y'all with any of the cheesy romantic stuff, but we're happy and we're determined to make this work. A visit is planned for February (he's coming to Germany) and we'll be trying to close the distance in 12 - 18 months.
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