Is it time to move om?

[Joni]

Hello!
So from my last post you guys know that I was talking to a new guy, Jake. Here's some background:
We met last year and we finally became boyfriend/girlfriend in June. However, we broke up in December because he felt he was holding me back. We have been on again off again since that point up to this day.

But my real reason for posting this thread because I want to know if it is time to move on. Jake knows I have feelings for him and I think deep inside he has feelings for me because, he calls me boo, babe,beautiful, every time we talk on the phone at night he says things like "I couldn't wait to talk to you", "I miss you", "I'm glad I finally got to hear your voice", when we video chat he throws his hand up and makes half of a heart and wants me to do the same, he is always there for me, we text everyday, he puts me before himself, he is always complimenting me, supports me through every decision, send hearts in our text messages, says "I love you" when I am sad he is sad, he says he always wants to cuddle with me, he is always saying he wants to buy me things and take me shopping, the list goes on and on. However when I ask him if he likes me he says no, he cant do long distance because he cant touch me, kiss me, hug me, etc. But I asked him if I was in the same state as he was, would he date me? And he said in a heartbeat.

But then when I do talk to other guys and go out on dates he wants to know every detail and then after I tell him everything he starts flirting with me. And he talks to other girls and I give him advice but he is always saying he just doesn't want to be in a relationship with them. Idk.

I guess he just wants what's best for me. He would rather me be with someone in my state. But I plan on going to his state, which is NJ in two years but he still wont budge. And he says he isn't a phone guy and doesn't like always texting me and being on the phone with me which can hurt my feelings but I understand.

I just want to know if I should move on completely? Or is this worth something holding on to? I just don't want to be wasting my time.

[digitalfever]

Either he doesn't like you and likes the attention and affection being around you gives him OR he likes you and doesn't want to do long distance. Either way, it sounds like something that isn't worth pursuing.

[Moon]

Sorry, but I think it's best if you move on, regardless if he likes you or not. He's told you he doesn't want an LDR, so maybe now is just not the right time for you two, maybe you can reconnect when you move, but for now, I think you're wasting your time. It's possible he'll miss you enough to change his mind, but don't count on it, just live your life.

[Zapookie]

Not worth your time. Do you want to be stuck in the middle like this for the next two years? Probably not. He'll just keep stringing you along and saying all these things to you but it's worthless if he doesn't act upon those words. I would move on, be single and discover yourself or find someone who is worth spending your time on.

[Dezface]

All of the above. Either way, he's not interesting in pursuing a relationship with you. Time to get a move on.

[Joni]

Last night he asked me out!