How did your SO change your life?

[Fudgee]

How did your SO change your life?
I'm gonna share mine 1st.

Before I met him, I just got out of a relationship for almost 4 years. And the guy was the father of my son.
During that time, I was struggling to graduate from College by doing all this thesis work while being a single Mother to my 3yrs old son.
We broke up for about 3 months. Then late 2012 I met my SO on a dating website for foreigners and Filipinos.
It wasn't really an intention to met him, until I liked him and we became good friends.
I wasn't expecting to fall in love again, but I did. Maybe I was attracted with the looks at first.

But honestly as we talk more and knew more about each other I just can't help but love him.
We came to the point where we became open and honest to each other with our feelings.
Damn! I was giggling like a lil gurl while we were chatting at Gmail(I was at work that time)
With the 8 hours difference, it is hard to communicate sometimes.

The 1st month was new for me, really hard to be in a relationship with someone who is a thousand miles away.
Everyday we learn something about each other and cherished it.
He is always there for me when I miss my son.
Since I am working in the city now, and my hometown is in a another island far from here.
He makes me feel happy, never fails to make me smile when I'm down.
He will talk to me and listen to me when I'm feeling sh1t.
He shows how important I am to him. And makes me feel a part of his family.
I met his Mom(filipino) and Dad(British) and his brothers on Skype too.
He makes me laugh at useless things and makes me feel young everytime.
I can always be myself when I'm with him.
I can make ugly faces, burp like a man or being clumsy(like fell of my chair sometimes) with him.
And he does shows how much he loves and cares for me above all that.
There were a couple of times when I have this PMS thingy and we fight with some useless thing.
I almost broke up with him, but then he was there (ofcourse he was mad)
Even if he gets to be sarcastic and very blunt. He always holds on to me and tell me he loves me so much.
Sometimes I think like I don't deserve him, feels like he is too good for me.
But when I saw his smiling face everytime he looks at me and talk to me.
I can't bare to think what we are gonna be without each other.

He is my strength to keep moving on, he is my heart to keep loving.
And my son is my inspiration, my life.
The 2 most important people of my life.

[rach92g]

I love this idea! And may I just say, my step-grandmother is from the Philippines! She and my grandfather met online and she came here to marry him. I have never been to the Philippines, but they visit there quite often.

My SO and I started dating before I even started high school, and 6 years later here we are. He didn't really "change" my life, but he kept me from going down a road that was not safe. If I had not started dating him, I believe I would have gotten into a lot of trouble. My best friend (since birth) started getting into partying, drinking, drugs, casual sex, etc. She was making a fool of herself, and then coming to me with the stories. If I had not been dating my SO, I probably would have ended up with her, doing all of those things that honestly aren't me. My parents would have been so disappointed. He and I share the same morals, but it's because of him that my morals have gotten stronger. I hold myself to a higher bar because of him. He is a wonderful influence on me, and I thank God that He put him in my life. It scares me to think about where I might have been today without him.

[LadyDaemon]

Oh gods,where do I even start? lol. Me and my fiance met during kind of a dark time in my life. My family had lost everything we had a few months prior and I had to quit college again after trying to go back. I was getting used to being in a new place,dealing with health issues,battling depression kinda badly and hating the world at that point. I was angry at myself for my part in having to leave school and angry at the school for theirs. I felt like a failure at life at that point. I was pretty much kinda at a all time low. What had happened was not what I wanted for myself. I didn't want to have to move back home with my parents even if I was only 19.

But anyway,basically I needed something to do on a daily basis to keep my mind off of everything so I started playing WoW (World of Warcraft) again. Soon after that I met my fiance when applying for a GM (Game Master) position on the server and he was my "boss". I think it's funny now but in the beginning he wouldn't really say two words to me. But when we did finally start talking,we got really close over a 2 -3 month period and then started dating. This man had become the glue that was holding me together through all of my pain. He would just sit and listen to me talk for hours about how I was feeling and he would comfort me. But then things happened and we broke up and I felt lost without him. We remained friends the entire time even through our fights and fits of jealousy over the other. I guess it really wasn't quite as over with as I thought. I realized that this man was the only thing that could help keep me together and love me unconditionally without an ulterior motive behind it. We got back together last year in August,had a couple visits,got engaged,closed the distance and going through all of this with him has made me realize that he is truly my best friend. He grounds me and makes me want to be a better person for myself and for him. He's made me realize that no matter how much crap we go through,as long he's with me we can over come anything. I know this sounds stupid,but he really is like the cheese to my macaroni lol. I owe him tons for being the only one strong enough and the only one who has ever loved me enough to put up with my bullshit lol. Believe me,it's not easy. I just can't help but feel so lucky that I'm marrying the best friend I ever had. I couldn't honestly at this point see my life without him.

[Black_Halloween]

You could say that my SO and I saved each others lives. When we met, we were both in very dark places in our lives. We were both suffering from depression. I was broken from a previous love and he hated the world and everybody in it. Gradually we opened up and helped eachother through it all. His grandmother once told me that before me, she had never seen him smile so much. He's still helping me through anxiey. We are each other's rocks. Id probably be in a grave if it wasnt for him.

[sarahjane1992]

When we first met, we clicked pretty much instantly. The more we talked, I knew he was special. It got more serious and I asked him if he'd date me even though I lived so far away. He said, yes without hesitation. Once I knew he would, I was like, lets go for it. My SO has brought so much joy into my life. I can be myself. He accepts me just the way I am. I have a hard time opening up and trusting people. But after we talked a few times, I felt so comfortable with him. Like I had known him for years.

He just makes my life so much better. He always make me laugh. When I'm stressed or sad, he knows what to say. He is truly my best friend. I couldn't make it through this without him.

Because of him and this relationship, I have learned what it's like to sacrifice for the person you love. I have increased my patience and learned how good things are worth the wait. <3 He is wonderful and I feel so blessed to have him. Never imagined a year ago what my life would be like now and I have my SO to thank for it! <3

[emsimes]

My SO changed my life because he made me realize that I am beautiful, I am worth something, and that I can accomplish my goals and dreams, no matter how crazy they may be!
He came into my life at a time when I was not at my best. My grandad, who was my inspiration and my best friend, had recently passed away. I was getting treated horribly by my boyfriend at the time, and the rest of my family was not always there for moral support.
We became friends soon after we met (I met him when he came to study at my university as an international student for one semester), but I quickly realized that he was a very rare and special person, someone who doesn't come along very often.
As our friendship and later, our relationship, progressed, he showed me that I can believe in myself, even when others put me down. He made me believe in myself, such as I'd never felt before. And for that, I will always love him <3

[Methos]

emsimes, I LOVE your signature!

So .. how did she change my life? Someone once said, "Let me count the ways!" Lol! Seriously though .. it's not so much how SHE changed my life as how much I changed, because of our relationship.

I've become more driven and more focused than ever on building a substantial income (not there yet but, getting there!). Flying to Romania from the US isn't cheap!

I'm learning Romanian so that one day, I will be able to speak with printesa mea in HER language.

My eyes have been opened to a part of the world I never gave much attention to before .. and to a people whose spirit I have come to love. I was born in America, but I now know that my heart is of Romania.

I'm learning (haven't mastered it yet cause this is a tough one!) .. to be patient. Patience and understanding is essential in an LDR .. and it's very hard, especially when we don't get to see each other for a few days.

Probably most of all .. I've discovered what true love really is. Before we met .. I never knew a heart was capable of loving someone sooo much .. of desiring happiness for another as much as I desire it for her .. and being the one to bring that happiness into her heart. To see her smile because of something I've said or done .. I'm telling you, it doesn't get any better than that.

Te iubesc .. printesa mea frumoasa. Inima mea iti apartine .. mereu.

[emsimes]

emsimes, I LOVE your signature!

So .. how did she change my life? Someone once said, "Let me count the ways!" Lol! Seriously though .. it's not so much how SHE changed my life as how much I changed, because of our relationship.

I've become more driven and more focused than ever on building a substantial income (not there yet but, getting there!). Flying to Romania from the US isn't cheap!

I'm learning Romanian so that one day, I will be able to speak with printesa mea in HER language.

My eyes have been opened to a part of the world I never gave much attention to before .. and to a people whose spirit I have come to love. I was born in America, but I now know that my heart is of Romania.

I'm learning (haven't mastered it yet cause this is a tough one!) .. to be patient. Patience and understanding is essential in an LDR .. and it's very hard, especially when we don't get to see each other for a few days.

Probably most of all .. I've discovered what true love really is. Before we met .. I never knew a heart was capable of loving someone sooo much .. of desiring happiness for another as much as I desire it for her .. and being the one to bring that happiness into her heart. To see her smile because of something I've said or done .. I'm telling you, it doesn't get any better than that.

Te iubesc .. printesa mea frumoasa. Inima mea iti apartine .. mereu.

Thank you!
And I totally and completely know what you mean about your heart being in Romania. I am an American as well, but after spending time in Germany with my SO, I feel like my heart is there as well

[Fudgee]

Wow! I read each post. All I can say is that our SO made a big impact or change in our lives.
Being in a LDR is very special, imagine how can we love someone we never met?
Or continue to love someone who is a thousand freaking miles away?
Kinda ironic but it's true, we're all been there and still is.
I just wish everyone a strong relationship and happy ever after.

[Fudgee]

I love this idea! And may I just say, my step-grandmother is from the Philippines! She and my grandfather met online and she came here to marry him. I have never been to the Philippines, but they visit there quite often.

My SO and I started dating before I even started high school, and 6 years later here we are. He didn't really "change" my life, but he kept me from going down a road that was not safe. If I had not started dating him, I believe I would have gotten into a lot of trouble. My best friend (since birth) started getting into partying, drinking, drugs, casual sex, etc. She was making a fool of herself, and then coming to me with the stories. If I had not been dating my SO, I probably would have ended up with her, doing all of those things that honestly aren't me. My parents would have been so disappointed. He and I share the same morals, but it's because of him that my morals have gotten stronger. I hold myself to a higher bar because of him. He is a wonderful influence on me, and I thank God that He put him in my life. It scares me to think about where I might have been today without him.

You should come and visit too.
This is a good time to share our stories and be proud how we changed and how better we are now.

[Karoshi]

My SO changed my view on relationships in general completely. Now I know that stable relationship is something you both have to work for, and that communication is the key to everything. I realized that me and my ex never really talked about our relationship, so when he broke up with me I was quite surprised because I didn't even know there's something wrong lol. And I can say that I changed his life too - when we started talking, he was in terrible mindset because of how his ex treated him (she was terrible person, cheated on him multiple times etc.), he completely lost his self-confidence and he once told me that I helped him to build it again

[Chris516]

My SO changed my life, by caring in ways I never expected!!!!

[alittlemind]

Where to begin, where to begin... First thing about our relationship that changed me is that I realized I could truly be myself and someone would love me for that. It took me a while in my last relationship to realize that I needed to be myself, not who he wanted me to me. Joe accepts and loves me for all my faults, quirks, and downright weird things about me, and that is an amazing feeling. He even goes so far as to turn my flaws into reasons to love me even more. I don't know how he does it. :P Another thing, is he makes me feel beautiful. For a long time before him, I never felt good enough. He makes sure that everyday I am feeling happy, beautiful, supported, and all that good stuff. He's really changed my outlook on myself, and even though some days I don't feel the prettiest, or the skinniest or whatever it is, I am working on feeling okay in my own skin because he believes I am beautiful. He's also changed my outlook on my future and he's pushed me to pursue what I want to do with my life, not what my parents or the rest of the world thinks. He's helped me through my panic attacks. When I was feeling overwhelmed when I was meeting his family, because I was scared they wouldn't like me, he told me that it doesn't matter what they think of me, what matters is that he will still love me no matter what they think. That meant the world to me. He's always there for me when I need him. I could go on forever, but I'll have to stop at some point, ahah. Most important, he just wants me to be happy. And that's the best thing I could ever ask for. He's my best friend, my other half. And if he lets me, I'll spend the rest of my life trying to make him as happy as he's made me.

[MZVIRGO82]

I love reading these stories and seeing that ldr's can truly work or even be a life saver!

My SO and I have known each other since 2011 when he contacted me through Facebook. We would always message each other off and on but I was in a relationship and never really thought anything of us talking. It wasn't until June of this year he messages me (out of the blue) and we started talking again.

At the time, I was about 9 months out of a horrible relationship. All of my past relationships ended horribly and I was using my single time to focus on me and better myself. I had no intention of meting anyone, let alone be in a relationship when he contacted me. During our chat, he made it known that he always liked me even though I wasn't available. I told him if he wanted to get to know me to call me, we exchanged numbers and have talked every single day since.

We met in person August 2nd when he asked me to come with him to his hometown on a visit to his family. So not only did I meet him for the first time, but I met his brothers and mother! It was the most amazing visit ever and by the end of the visit we made it official!

In the short time that we have been in contact I will say that so far he is the best man I've had. He is a man of his word and we have so much in common, our relationship grows day by day. I'm excited to see what the future will bring us. He came into my live when I least expected him to and I have to say this unexpected relationship is truly wonderful. He came at a time where I finally am getting comfortable being in the skin I'm in and at a time where I feel like I can truly be capable of loving someone else, because now I truly love me.

I am visiting him again in 5 days and I think during my visit, I will actually tell him that I am falling in love with him.

[hanabana]

It's hard to put into words how my boyfriend has changed my life, but I am going to try.
We met about roughly a year ago, and from the start I felt comfortable with him. I had gotten out of a bad relationship in the winter, followed by another one in the spring, so I really wasn't looking for anything. I actually enjoyed being single and only having to worry about myself for once. My grandfather had also recent passed away, and he really touched me with his own story of how his mother passed away. He really helped me to cope and begin to move on with my life. We began talking a lot, through texting and on the phone. We would talk on the phone every day for hours on end. As we got to know each other more, I learned that he has had a pretty rough life, but has done well for himself despite unfortunate situations. I felt like he was my best friend, and I told him everything.
After about 6 months of talking, we decided to meet. During his visit, we both agreed that we wanted to be more, and now here we are!
We are complete opposites, although we share the same core beliefs. He calms me when I get anxious, impatient or even too silly. He grounds me when I wander too far, and he supports me in my schooling and tons of other things I want to accomplish. He SHOWS me that he loves me, which is what I was missing from other relationships in the past. He is my first love, and I couldn't imagine being with anyone else.
What we have as a couple has forever changed my life, and dammit I really miss him!