age, where do I begin?

[Kalina]

I was 15 when I met him. when I began to fall for him. Only issue was that he was older then me. He was 19. I first posted on this site about this issue and I was extremely rude to some people who were just concerned about the age difference.

This was over a year ago. I'm now 16, turning 17 at the end of the year (31st Dec-NEW YEARS EVE BABY!) After have a deep think about what people have said to me about the age, the law and such and such..I realized that dating someone who was so much older than me wasn't the right thing to do.

I've kept in touch with this person ever since we stopped dating. We try to talk everyday, I'm going to be in my final year of high school so the workload is a lot so I'm occasionally busy. Not to mention the time difference.

My parents do know that I talk to him and they know that I had feelings for him. I have explained that I know their concerns and all that. I do miss him very much but knowing that I can email him and he's on the other side makes me happy. So I just have a question..

As I'm about to turn 17 and he will be 21- when do people think it is right to begin dating again? I know a few people will say 18. I'm in no rush and we have spoken of closing the distance in a few years (like 5) after I complete uni as well.

Another thing that will make it easier for me and him is that I work for an Australian airline so the flights will be cheaper for us both.

[Rugger]

As long as there's not sex involved until you are of age, I don't see a problem with it. Any pictures you send him underage could be considered child porn and that is bad news for the both of you. Why not continue being friends until you come of age and then go for it.

Take it slow. I'm normally against large age differences but 18 and 22 aren't that far away that it's creepy.

[sarahjane1992]

As long as there's not sex involved until you are of age, I don't see a problem with it. Any pictures you send him underage could be considered child porn and that is bad news for the both of you. Why not continue being friends until you come of age and then go for it.

Take it slow. I'm normally against large age differences but 18 and 22 aren't that far away that it's creepy.

I agree. I'm 2 and 1/2 years older then my SO. He's 18 and I'm 21. Personally, we don't mind the age difference. I don't even notice it. We just work I think it just depends on the couple. That's my two cents!

[vanessamechelle]

My s/o and I started dating right after I turned 18, not because of the fact that I had turned 18, but because that's just when we started dating. I think it would be a good idea to wait until you're 18 anyways though, just because there would be no legal issues to get in to. There's nothing wrong with just being friends for a while, it actually helps you guys get to know each other better. As for the age difference, I like older guys as well. My boyfriend is 24 and I'm 19. I just think that guys my age are way too immature.

Anyways, good luck with your guys' relationship

[teachernicole]

My fiancé and I met when I was 16 and he was 24. Obviously we couldn't date so we were friends and just happened to start dating a week after I turned 18. I would say if you want to be together, be together. Just don't be intimate until you're of age! It sucks honestly because you feel older than you are, I know how it is but it's worth the wait

[lovefrom2800milesaway]

My LDBF and I started dating when I was 17 and he was 20. We are now 19 (almost 20) and 22 (almost 23). That would give us a 3 year age difference. In the beginning, I found it kind of hard to grasp too. Like, why would a guy in his 20s be into someone as young as me? I didn't feel it was right and doubted our relationship a lot but I slowly began to figure out that he was serious about us and that age would eventually become nothing bu a number.

With that being said, I waited until I was at least 18 before we got intimate/sexual. Just as long as you're careful with what you show and what you say, 4 years isn't bad at all.

[Kalina]

Thank you so much for your support guys! You have no idea how much this means to me!

[Squishy Orange]

Hi guuuys!!! I'm Mike, the dude she was talking about. I'm so happy to have all of your support, and I absolutely can't wait to see her!!!

[moonsong]

really, as long as there isn't any sex going on it should be fine and don't worry about the age gap, age is just a number plus my and my S.O have an age gap but i am not sayin

[Laural007]

I started dating my kids father when I was 16 and he was 19, we married at 19 & 22. I don't see anything wrong with it as long as you are both mature enough. One piece of advice: don't consider marriage until you are both over the age of 25.

[Xanahtas]

I was 15 when i met my SO, and he was almost 19. I dont see any issue with the age gap, we were 'intimate' the first time we met which was when he was just a month off 19 - Maybe im the odd one out here but i see no problem with that

[haley]

I'm about two and a half years older than my boyfriend, and I've never really noticed it. No one has ever been concerned about the age difference either.

[haley]

I was 15 when i met my SO, and he was almost 19. I dont see any issue with the age gap, we were 'intimate' the first time we met which was when he was just a month off 19 - Maybe im the odd one out here but i see no problem with that

I agree, I don't think there's much of a problem either. I mean as long as it's not too drastic, of course.

[Rugger]

I was 15 when i met my SO, and he was almost 19. I dont see any issue with the age gap, we were 'intimate' the first time we met which was when he was just a month off 19 - Maybe im the odd one out here but i see no problem with that

In most places, it's illegal to engage in intercourse with anyone under the age of 18. You can be charged with statutory rape, which is a felony and requires the defendant to register as a sex offender for the rest of their life.

None of us has a problem with the age gap, but the law might

[LadyDaemon]

One piece of advice: don't consider marriage until you are both over the age of 25.

I personally wouldn't go that far. There's nothing wrong with marrying at 22. I'm 22 and engaged and I'll be 23 when we get married. I think as long as lines of communication stay open and both parties know what they want among other things then it's fine. Just my 2 cents.

OT: I agree with the others who said just wait until you're 18 to be intimate/send intimate pictures so that neither of you wind up suffering legal ramifications from it. As long as you refrain from the things mentioned above and both of you are ok with it then feel free to date. I dated one of my ex boyfriends when I was 15 and he was 21,we never met (thank gods x.x) or became physically intimate though. Me and my current SO have a 9 year age difference. I'm 22 and he's 31. So like I said,just do the right thing as far as the waiting and I think you'll be ok.