Anyone ever question your LDR?

[ChrissyAl]

There was a time that I questioned it because my girlfriend was at the hospital for attempted suicide. That wasn't the reason I questioned it though. We hardly ever got to talk since she was at hospital. I'm speaking of a once every two months opportunity.
But, I caught myself in the moment of doubt and reminded myself that she was indeed the love of my life and that I'd sworn to stay with her and wait for however long it would take.

I don't regret thinking twice. My beautiful girl has now told me that she's gonna come to Norway and propose to me.
I love her more and more every day, and except that one time I haven't ever doubted my LDR

[silvermoonfairy3]

Occasionally people ask me those type of questions, but I actually don't question it for reasons of being interested in people here, like.. ever. There is no one local-er that I'm particularly interested in. That's mostly because I'm the sort of person who only really has room in my brain for one person I'm attracted to at the level of attraction I have with M, but also because I just place so much importance on emotional and intellectual connections, and the one I have with my guy is not like anything, anything I've ever experienced with anyone else.

[AussiesPet]

I never thought of it in those terms. But no i don't feel I'm missing out on anything or any "possibles"..
It just happened that I am 'here' and he is 'there'... I've never known anyone like him. He is it for me..
Anyone that thinks otherwise well they can go errr well you get the idea.. Those that question are the
ones that try to get others around them to act the same as they do.. What fun would there be in that?
To do anything else would be setting myself up to always wondering and regretting..
I am very much in love with my SO. I spent a long time telling myself I wasn't, bout time I woke up!!
While it hasn't been exactly easy I'm not dead yet so we must be doing something right..
Yes the distance sucks but this is us and what we have to deal with.......

As the saying goes - "where the heart leads"

[miss_jaclynrae]

Ugh, I hate questions like that.
My best friend when DB left was hell bent on me "keeping my options open" all for the wrong reasons.
Because he is bald, older, and doesn't drink.


I could probably find someone who was closer to my age, still had hair, and could drink... but it wouldn't be him.
The truth is, that he is the best man I have ever encountered, and I have no urge whatsoever to be with anyone else.
I just told her exactly that.

She had been having a really difficult time in her relationship though, and I honestly think her unhappiness was the reason for questioning our relationship.

[miss_jaclynrae]

Ok, I see that I worded the subject badly. I know that others question it, I've put up with a lot of that. I meant do any of YOU question your LDR relationship and what you might be missing out on?

Just saw this.



No. Not at all. I have dated a lot of men, and already gone through one marriage. After seeing what is out there... I thank my lucky stars that I decided to go to Starbucks that cold night we met.
I guess my situation is a bit different though because we were together for 9 months before he left and this LDR has a definitive end point.
Still, never. Not at all... I couldn't imagine spending my life with anyone else. He is everything I have ever wanted in a man and my best friend, and even with the distance, things just get better and better.

[Lovebee]

Some time back in June time, I had a dream where I thought about my LDR and decided it was silly and not that great and decided I was going to end it with my SO. I woke up in a blind panic that I'd actually broken up with him!! So I suppose I tried it out in my subconscious and realised I didn't like that outcome...

There have been times when I've wondered if it wouldn't be easier to be with somebody closer to home, but it's never crossed my mind to even look - and like others, I'm told there's a string of guys who would be interested if I was available. The notion that anybody could possibly be BETTER than Cowboy is absurd to me, though. He's my best friend and I'm ferociously in love with him. Why would I ever want to doubt something so certain after we've made it this far?

[Benni]

Y'all have provided some great feedback! We are certainly a dedicated bunch!

[OperaDiva]

God I really needed to ask myself that question. I do. I dont doubt that I love him, or that he loves me, but the odds ... I know I sound overly dramatic, but is love enough?

[Benni]

A deep, all-encompassing love between the two of you? It's enough for me.

[lucybelle]

God I really needed to ask myself that question. I do. I dont doubt that I love him, or that he loves me, but the odds ... I know I sound overly dramatic, but is love enough?

I'll be the Debbie Downer, no- love is not enough to make a relationship last. Especially a long distance relationship.

[CanadianGirl]

I get asked the same thing every now and then, also with the added fact that he's the only guy I've ever been with. I don't blame them too much, it's hard to understand from the outside looking in.

Can't say I'd ever regret spending the money. There's just no way I would've been able to control falling for him. It's just how the cards fell. As for passing up a local relationship, the only local relationship I can see myself in is one with him.

[miss_jaclynrae]

I'll be the Debbie Downer, no- love is not enough to make a relationship last. Especially a long distance relationship.

This is really true.
It is definitely worth it if you can handle it and put the effort into making it work.
It is not guaranteed though, nothing in life ever is.

[Benni]

No, nothing in life is guaranteed. You have to be willing to take a chance, seek the adventure.

[emsimes]

I've occasionally wondered what my life would be like if I was in a CD relationship. Yes, it would be much easier in some respects, but in the end, I don't want to be with anyone but him, no matter this distance!

Many people have also asked me why I continue to stay in a LDR. Why don't I just date someone closer? My response to that is: Why would I give up such an amazing relationship with a man I love just to see what else is out there? In my eyes, no other guy can compare to my man

[conejita_hada]

I have not doubted nor will I doubt about the relationship. I hope it goes to marriage, we are planning on it, but we'll see where life takes us. When we met, I went into dating him already knowing we would need to be LD at some point and asked myself if it would be worth all the hassle of immigration, different lifestyles, etc. I decided early that I was ready for that with him and willing to grow with him. No one in my life has really doubted it either because they know I don't fall into relationships just for the heck of it. The only questioning came when they asked if I was still planning on finishing my educational goals and to that end, I tell them "of course!" after I have a little fun of telling them "no." hehe