This might be somewhat of a long story but I figure the more detail I give the better.
I met this guy, i'll just call him Texas since that's where he lives currently. I met him while trolling on Omegle a year or so ago, and although I never intended to make a good friend that day we kept in contact for almost a year. He was basically a texting buddy for me, we would talk on the phone very rarely and I'm 99% sure I was the only one to initiate phone conversations. Talking on the phone is sort of important for me because texts can be so ambiguous. We even wrote each other letters and sent Christmas gifts. Anyway, we continued to remain very close until I got into a relationship with someone else because I never knew if Texas wanted to be in an LDR with me even though he texted me as if we were a 'thing'. Yet we never actually came out and said whether we together or not. I did try to ask him at one point but it seemed that he did not want to give me a straight answer, due to this I don't want to ask him any serious questions through text.
So Texas and I cut contact completely, or I should say I cut contact with him completely since I was with my boyfriend at the time. Eventually me and my BF broke up around April 2013. I decided to look up Texas on facebook in June (about a year of not talking) and when he saw that I had added him he seemed extremely excited when he messaged me. Then BAM, we hit it off again and went right back texting constantly. He would send me good morning texts everyday, and if he was a bit late a good afternoon instead, how was your day texts, I miss you texts, yadda yadda. It seemed weird that he would jump right back into it so quickly, and I did not ASK him to do those things but he seemed to enjoy it and after I got over being suspicious of him I began to like it as well. Again, I was the only one to want to initiate phone conversations and when we would talk it just seemed like we connected so well. He told me he would come see me and buy me gifts again this year and all that stuff. He also emphasized that he didn't think I would disappear again since he has me on facebook now, I guess trying to say he wants me around for a while. He has had computer issues since we've started talking again so we havn't skyped at all yet. So far there's been constant excuses as to why he can't talk. The first excuse was that his sister who is newlywed had his laptop because it had music for the wedding on it. It took him weeks to finally receive it from her then when he finally did he texted me a picture of his laptop with a big white screen on it, I guess because it broke. Now he just does not have the money to replace his laptop just yet. So, i've decided to be patient because there is no way of me figuring out whether he is lying to me or not. Plus I really don't know his financial situation. (BTW, if the thought was running through your head I don't think i'm being Catfish'd. He's not terribly attractive but who knows. I guess I shouldn't rule that out so easily.)
Anyway, now I regret getting used to his awesome texts because a few weeks ago his texting patterns drastically changed. I decided to ask him why he wasn't texting me much anymore and he claimed that he was just busy helping his sister move and other things like he just did not have service, or had to help his cousin etc. However, he still isn't texting me much, particularly when he gets off of work. I talked to a different friend about this issue because I was starting to feel a bit sad/stupid about the whole situation and the friend suggested that I just stop replying to his texts for like a week so that I could see whether he makes an effort to keep contact with me or figure out where I went. So I figured sure why not.. even though if my aim is to get him to text more why would not texting him solve that? *Shrug*. Anyway... this is day 2 of me ignoring him, he sent one text yesterday and one today.
All I really want to know from this guy is if we are ever going to be more than texting buddies, and the last thing I want to do is receive that answer THROUGH A TEXT MESSAGE. I tried to initiate a phone conversation with him around the beginning of the week and told him that I needed to talk to him about something. However, he was busy and didn't text me for the rest of the night. The next day is when he claimed that he was sorry for not texting and not calling and that he couldn't because he was in a completely different state helping his cousin move to Texas.
Now I just feel frustrated and hurt because I had really begun to develop feelings for this guy and it just seems like he doesn't care anymore. Or maybe he is really busy and I should get over it. If he doesn't want an LDR and just wants a friendship I just want him to tell me so I can move on. I think i've been more than patient with him. So for anyone reading this have you ever been in a similar situation? Should I continue to ignore his texts for an entire week? Should I just get over wanting to have this important convo over the phone and just ask him what we are over text? What should I do
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I met this guy, i'll just call him Texas since that's where he lives currently. I met him while trolling on Omegle a year or so ago, and although I never intended to make a good friend that day we kept in contact for almost a year. He was basically a texting buddy for me, we would talk on the phone very rarely and I'm 99% sure I was the only one to initiate phone conversations. Talking on the phone is sort of important for me because texts can be so ambiguous. We even wrote each other letters and sent Christmas gifts. Anyway, we continued to remain very close until I got into a relationship with someone else because I never knew if Texas wanted to be in an LDR with me even though he texted me as if we were a 'thing'. Yet we never actually came out and said whether we together or not. I did try to ask him at one point but it seemed that he did not want to give me a straight answer, due to this I don't want to ask him any serious questions through text.
So Texas and I cut contact completely, or I should say I cut contact with him completely since I was with my boyfriend at the time. Eventually me and my BF broke up around April 2013. I decided to look up Texas on facebook in June (about a year of not talking) and when he saw that I had added him he seemed extremely excited when he messaged me. Then BAM, we hit it off again and went right back texting constantly. He would send me good morning texts everyday, and if he was a bit late a good afternoon instead, how was your day texts, I miss you texts, yadda yadda. It seemed weird that he would jump right back into it so quickly, and I did not ASK him to do those things but he seemed to enjoy it and after I got over being suspicious of him I began to like it as well. Again, I was the only one to want to initiate phone conversations and when we would talk it just seemed like we connected so well. He told me he would come see me and buy me gifts again this year and all that stuff. He also emphasized that he didn't think I would disappear again since he has me on facebook now, I guess trying to say he wants me around for a while. He has had computer issues since we've started talking again so we havn't skyped at all yet. So far there's been constant excuses as to why he can't talk. The first excuse was that his sister who is newlywed had his laptop because it had music for the wedding on it. It took him weeks to finally receive it from her then when he finally did he texted me a picture of his laptop with a big white screen on it, I guess because it broke. Now he just does not have the money to replace his laptop just yet. So, i've decided to be patient because there is no way of me figuring out whether he is lying to me or not. Plus I really don't know his financial situation. (BTW, if the thought was running through your head I don't think i'm being Catfish'd. He's not terribly attractive but who knows. I guess I shouldn't rule that out so easily.)
Anyway, now I regret getting used to his awesome texts because a few weeks ago his texting patterns drastically changed. I decided to ask him why he wasn't texting me much anymore and he claimed that he was just busy helping his sister move and other things like he just did not have service, or had to help his cousin etc. However, he still isn't texting me much, particularly when he gets off of work. I talked to a different friend about this issue because I was starting to feel a bit sad/stupid about the whole situation and the friend suggested that I just stop replying to his texts for like a week so that I could see whether he makes an effort to keep contact with me or figure out where I went. So I figured sure why not.. even though if my aim is to get him to text more why would not texting him solve that? *Shrug*. Anyway... this is day 2 of me ignoring him, he sent one text yesterday and one today.
All I really want to know from this guy is if we are ever going to be more than texting buddies, and the last thing I want to do is receive that answer THROUGH A TEXT MESSAGE. I tried to initiate a phone conversation with him around the beginning of the week and told him that I needed to talk to him about something. However, he was busy and didn't text me for the rest of the night. The next day is when he claimed that he was sorry for not texting and not calling and that he couldn't because he was in a completely different state helping his cousin move to Texas.
Now I just feel frustrated and hurt because I had really begun to develop feelings for this guy and it just seems like he doesn't care anymore. Or maybe he is really busy and I should get over it. If he doesn't want an LDR and just wants a friendship I just want him to tell me so I can move on. I think i've been more than patient with him. So for anyone reading this have you ever been in a similar situation? Should I continue to ignore his texts for an entire week? Should I just get over wanting to have this important convo over the phone and just ask him what we are over text? What should I do
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