Hello to you all
Yesterday my girl and me at anniversarry for 8 months and we are very pleased with that.
Last periode we had some dificulties with each other since our last meeting in begin of September.
We had often argues about stupid things, we not realy could talk the things out. Because often then
we started to blame each other for the reaction. It was not a nice periode.
Last week on wednesday we had a long deep talk. We did manege to talk totally open to each other with out
feeling attacked/blamed or what ever other person did say. More like informational talk how we both did experienced somethings together.
It was a good talk. To know how other person did feel it. And it made things more clear why other person did react on someway.
There for we tried to find a way how to talk about such stuff. So we ended with agreeing to make a diarry of every day.
And write there short good things and bad things. So we learn what we like and not like from each other. So we can both
work on it to become better for each other. And understand each other words more better.
And then later after a week make a evening free for it. And show to each ohter the things that we did wrote down. And talk about it.
That night it became bit of late. So the talk about diarry was not totally finished.
Next day i started again about it and asking what kind of moments she would like. I told her for me tuesday or wednesday would be fine to plan the talk for then.
She did reacted a bit on it. But not saying when she wanted it or agreeing with me when i wanted it.
Sunday i said again something about it and said that i not wanted the talk about it on tuesday because it was our 8 months anniversarry. She said yeah ofcourse not then.
BUt no reaction when then.
This morning we talked and yeah again i started about if she was okay if we had the talk in the evening. She said I dont know.
It feels bit like weird. LIke she not want to do this. We both where enthusiastic about plann around diarry, that it was for us a good way to talk about it.
But now i just get feeling like she dont want to do it. And put effort to become better together and understand her better. If she now realised it for her not the way
to do it, then she can tell that to me. Thats no problem. But i do have to know it then.
Probably it was better to not question all the time about it, and just waited till she said something about the diarry. But i just had to ask about it.
Is my feeling right that she not want the talk about it? Or what should i think about it all?
Yesterday my girl and me at anniversarry for 8 months and we are very pleased with that.
Last periode we had some dificulties with each other since our last meeting in begin of September.
We had often argues about stupid things, we not realy could talk the things out. Because often then
we started to blame each other for the reaction. It was not a nice periode.
Last week on wednesday we had a long deep talk. We did manege to talk totally open to each other with out
feeling attacked/blamed or what ever other person did say. More like informational talk how we both did experienced somethings together.
It was a good talk. To know how other person did feel it. And it made things more clear why other person did react on someway.
There for we tried to find a way how to talk about such stuff. So we ended with agreeing to make a diarry of every day.
And write there short good things and bad things. So we learn what we like and not like from each other. So we can both
work on it to become better for each other. And understand each other words more better.
And then later after a week make a evening free for it. And show to each ohter the things that we did wrote down. And talk about it.
That night it became bit of late. So the talk about diarry was not totally finished.
Next day i started again about it and asking what kind of moments she would like. I told her for me tuesday or wednesday would be fine to plan the talk for then.
She did reacted a bit on it. But not saying when she wanted it or agreeing with me when i wanted it.
Sunday i said again something about it and said that i not wanted the talk about it on tuesday because it was our 8 months anniversarry. She said yeah ofcourse not then.
BUt no reaction when then.
This morning we talked and yeah again i started about if she was okay if we had the talk in the evening. She said I dont know.
It feels bit like weird. LIke she not want to do this. We both where enthusiastic about plann around diarry, that it was for us a good way to talk about it.
But now i just get feeling like she dont want to do it. And put effort to become better together and understand her better. If she now realised it for her not the way
to do it, then she can tell that to me. Thats no problem. But i do have to know it then.
Probably it was better to not question all the time about it, and just waited till she said something about the diarry. But i just had to ask about it.
Is my feeling right that she not want the talk about it? Or what should i think about it all?
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