I need advice. Please?

[Hollandia]

They only lived together before because her parents abused her and she needed somewhere else to stay. They had separate rooms and stuff.

Were they actually dating? Did they make out? Did they live at his place or his parents?

[LFAREALLYLONGD]

I don't know. I'm just gonna trust him. She made a pass at him before when we were already together and he snubbed her and he told me about it. I can't live without him so I'm just gonna see what happens and hope for the best. Thanks a bunch, everyone! I love this community. It just makes me stronger and more hopeful about our future together. So thanks.

[MissButterfly]

I don't know. I'm just gonna trust him. She made a pass at him before when we were already together and he snubbed her and he told me about it. I can't live without him so I'm just gonna see what happens and hope for the best. Thanks a bunch, everyone! I love this community. It just makes me stronger and more hopeful about our future together. So thanks.

I'm hoping for the best for you, too! Keep us updated. It's a pretty complicated situation then, but your SO seems to know what he's doing so it's great that you can trust him. Just make sure you keep openly talking about it, not that he gets annoyed whenever you bring it/her up. You have the right to know exactly what's going on, if it comes to them living together. Even though he might be trustworthy, you don't know if she's secretly hoping for more...
Good luck

[Rugger]

I'm hoping for the best for you, too! Keep us updated. It's a pretty complicated situation then, but your SO seems to know what he's doing so it's great that you can trust him. Just make sure you keep openly talking about it, not that he gets annoyed whenever you bring it/her up. You have the right to know exactly what's going on, if it comes to them living together.Even though he might be trustworthy, you don't know if she's secretly hoping for more...
Good luck

Even if she does, it doesn't really matter as long as he doesn't. It takes two to tango, so if he doesn't want to and keeps pushing her away, it's never gunna happen.

OP, I really admire the degree of trust you have in your SO. It's very healthy. I hope everything works out!

[MissButterfly]

Even if she does, it doesn't really matter as long as he doesn't. It takes two to tango, so if he doesn't want to and keeps pushing her away, it's never gunna happen.

Very true! But I can imagine that it would be less fun/more awkward for him to live with her again as well, if that is the case. If he has to constantly tell her he's not interested, it might get annoying and he won't end up having such an amazing time in the city as he imagines it. Not saying any of this has to happen, obviously, but just some thoughts

[LFAREALLYLONGD]

He does get annoyed sometimes. It's because I get jealous of her all the time even though they're just texting or catching up or something. >_> He's my first boyfriend so I don't know what he'd be like if I talked to an ex. It's just too bad! But yeah. I'll keep asking him what they're doing or like, demand to video chat so I'd actually see what's happening. XD I just hope they'd be too busy to hang out with each other.

Rugger, I try. It's hard, but I try. When I'm feeling doubtful, I just talk to him and let him reassure me that nothing is going on. And we've been through a lot. If he didn't really love me, why stick with me until now? He's not really getting anything from me since I'm halfway around the world. So it just doesn't make sense if he's gonna cheat on me.

MissButterfly, he said she's been appropriate since the only time she did something I wasn't too happy about. Well, that one time then another one when she sent him a picture of her even though he didn't ask. I just can't believe why some people are like that. It's a shame, really. :/

And yesssss. I'll keep you guys updated, if you want. Still hoping and praying it won't happen though. All my fingers and toes crossed!

[mellif]

Sounds like a sticky situation, but everyone's already given great advice-- so good luck, hope it works out!!

[Pvt FlamingRage]

I wouldn't want her to move in with any male. Regardless of their relationship (unless family) or sexual orientation. If I was in your shoes, I would tell him it is not okay to live with any girl and if he does I couldn't be with him.

[snow]

When I moved out from my apartment that I shared with my ex, my parents weren't very happy about that and my man and I did talk about me going back there and living with him again just so I can keep the majority of my money and have a place to live.
I know this is a different situation, but not really. If my parents didn't start to be more respectful towards me, I would have done it and my man would have been fine with that, because there were obviously no feelings involved on my side.

[Black_Halloween]

The only thing i worry about is that shes come onto him twice knowing hes in a relationship. Not very smart move on his pary.

[ThePiedPiper]

I think my issue with this situation is less the circumstances and more the fact he's apparently really close to her, but yet, can't tell her about his girlfriend. It's one thing if you're not close with someone and are embarrassed or made to feel awkward about your LD situation. It's another thing entirely when it's someone you're close to and speak regularly with and yet for some reason, don't want to share the part about being in a relationship? Weird.

[LFAREALLYLONGD]

She knows he's in a relationship. He said they don't talk about me much though because they don't talk about relationships.