I'm having a lot of trouble with my SO, to the point that I told him we needed a break (this happened yesterday morning). My SO and I have been distanced for about two months now. We had lived together for two years before he left, and I had grown accustomed to the fact that romance was not his forte. That was fine when we were together because at least I had his presence to make up for the lack of cutesy, Hollywood romance. But I thought things would be different when he had to move because absence makes the heart grow fonder. I was wrong. Sure, he says he loves me and misses me, but nothing more than that. I'm worried he doesn't love me at all.
I don't really know how to handle this. I'm resentful because of all the times he's made me feel insignificant and the amount of money I've spent thus far just to make him feel special, even at a distance, which is damn near $2000 for a plane ticket and care package. I don't care about the money, I just wish he could understand that I'm willing to do anything to make him happy, and I wish he would do the same.
I've talked to him about how I feel countless times. No matter what language I use, English, Spanish, French, Indonesian, alien, anything, he just doesn't get it. No matter how many times we've argued and made up, nothing changes. And I'm pretty sure that wanting to feel loved is not a lot to ask for. But if there are any of you who have dealt with such a problem, what would you recommend to mend this situation? At this point I'm just apathetic and helpless. I love him so incredibly much, I mean, beyond comprehension, but I can't keep being vulnerable and dealing with constant let downs. It's far too heart wrenching.
Please help
I don't really know how to handle this. I'm resentful because of all the times he's made me feel insignificant and the amount of money I've spent thus far just to make him feel special, even at a distance, which is damn near $2000 for a plane ticket and care package. I don't care about the money, I just wish he could understand that I'm willing to do anything to make him happy, and I wish he would do the same.
I've talked to him about how I feel countless times. No matter what language I use, English, Spanish, French, Indonesian, alien, anything, he just doesn't get it. No matter how many times we've argued and made up, nothing changes. And I'm pretty sure that wanting to feel loved is not a lot to ask for. But if there are any of you who have dealt with such a problem, what would you recommend to mend this situation? At this point I'm just apathetic and helpless. I love him so incredibly much, I mean, beyond comprehension, but I can't keep being vulnerable and dealing with constant let downs. It's far too heart wrenching.
Please help
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