Your gone... now what?

[mandy1992]

Warning- Depressing material below.

I was notified this morning by my SO's family that Dave passed yesterday morning. We spoke on the phone at 10 am his time for about 20 minutes. It was a heartbreaking conversation of I love yous and tears. He also made me promise that I wouldn't do anything stupid after he passes.
She informed me that he had passed away at 10:40. I was the last person he talked to and the only one he talked to yesterday.
She is now working on carrying out his wishes. Some of which include welcoming me to the family essentially. He also left some notes, artwork, ect. for me that she will be sending sometime soon. He is also to be cremated and some of his ashes are to be sent to me.
Now I just have to figure out where I go from here. I feel so lost, but I know that he is always here with me any time I need him.

[William]

I guess you should be there with his family.
And try not to isolate yourself too much, although I know that might be difficult

[nicole]

I'm so sorry Mandy, that is so terrible, I can't imagine what you are going through. =( And of course he is always going to be with you, the best you can to is try to live your life happily for him. I'm sure he wants you to have the most amazing life =) We are all here for you to offer any support we can xx My thoughts are with you.

[NaNi]

I'm so sorry.

[paulawriteslove]

*hugs* I am so sorry to hear this Mandy. I know you're going through a hard time, but he probably doesn't want you to be sad. He's going to want you to have a happy life. We're here for you!

[Erika]

*Big hugs* I'm so sorry for your loss, Mandy.

[freeskierpj]

that's awful I'm sorry you have to go through that. I think the best thing you could do is surround yourself a) by his family and help them in getting through this and b) your friends to keep you from isolating too much and getting depressed.

[Silviar]

Mandy, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Don't push yourself too hard to figure out where to go. You're grieving, and it takes some time to get righted to a place where you can make calm, thorough decisions. Grief can make you choose things that you might regret, so just try not to make any big decisions, ok? *hugs*

If I were in your shoes, I know I'd be completely lost. My heart goes out to you.

[annamorgan]

I'm so terribly sorry, neither you nor his family should have to deal with something as heart-wrenching as this. Like Silviar said, it's okay to grieve and mourn over what was lost, you don't need to figure out anything yet, it's too soon.

[LadyMarchHare]

Oh honey, my heart fell and I cried reading that. You've been so strong throughout this even if you felt weak. Be glad you brought love into his life and gave him the strength to go on as long as he could.

Someone told me once, when I was grieving, that they're alive so long as you carry their memory. They live on through you. I'm glad his family is doing all these things for you, that's genuinely sweet of them. Right now, just grieve and let it settle, don't force yourself into anything or to think anything. And remember, we're all here for you as we have been.

[Michelle]

I am so so so sorry for your loss :,( I can only imagine what you must be going through.

[Butterfly-x]

Such sad news Words cant possibly describe what you're going through.
Hugs*

[Snowy.Winter]

I'm so so sorry for your loss ): My thoughts are with you and his family. So sorry to hear this ):

[noodle]

oh my god Im so sorry
Stay strong! And spend time with his family, I know he's not there but I'm sure it'll make it easier for you. *hugs*

[Caity]

That's awful news to hear ='( . It's good that his family are involving you so much, yous should be able to help each other through this together better that way. You also have everyone here at LFAD to support you too. Big hugs and keep him in your heart.