Hi guys!
I used to be on here before, with my past two LDRs. One ended before we closed the distance. The other relationship, we managed to close the distance! But then he left me in the span of an entire weekend out of the blue, in a state that I moved to just to be with him. So needless to say, after I moved back to my home state (Florida) eleven months ago, I've just been working and focusing on school.
About a week ago, I was searching on POF just for amusement, since it was late and I was bored. I stumbled across this guy who was my age, shared all of my interests and was kind of cute. Naturally, I messaged him and from there, it went over to texts and we started talking and getting to know each other. That's when i found out that I'd underestimated where he lived, which was about six hours from where I am in the center of the state. (He's at the tippy top.). It was discouraging when we found out, but I was willing to keep talking and he said that he still wanted to talk to me and see where this went. From there, It moved to Skype, where I video chatted with him literally a day after talking to him.
He and I seemed to have a lot in common. We share the same interests, which is video games and anime and things along those lines, we both share the same views, we both are pretty ambitious about our futures (College, moving out of state, etc) and he loves to travel. I think I have more of a connection with him than I did with my last ex and it's pretty exciting.
The problem is, we're not 'official' yet, despite the fact we talk every day through texting, facebook and Skype. He says that he prefers to make it official in person rather than online. I'm trying to understand that, especially since my last two relationships were made official over the internet and as such, it's a bit odd for me to hear that. He lives about six-seven hours away from me. And due to him having low blood pressure that isn't treated yet, it's dangerous for him to drive and not faint, so the closest time he can get to come down to the center of the state is in a month, which is when he'll have the time and funds to meet me.
I don't actually MIND driving up to see him. I've done long trips before many times and that's not a bother. I'd prefer going up there to see him, actually. I'm just more worried that by the time I'll go up to see him, It'll be two-three weeks since we first met and that it's going to be too soon, despite the fact that I have seen and talked to him over skype and we've already found a bit about each other already. While I don't want to make him wait two months to make us official while I get to know him better (especially since he seems pretty eager to do what he can to help me get up there!), I also want to make sure I'm thinking straight and not just diving in head first by going to see him so soon. I'm trying to keep a level head throughout this, to make sure that it's not just my heart leading me irrationally into something that will get me hurt in the end.
Questions:
I hope you guys are able to help and give me advice! Thanks again for reading
I used to be on here before, with my past two LDRs. One ended before we closed the distance. The other relationship, we managed to close the distance! But then he left me in the span of an entire weekend out of the blue, in a state that I moved to just to be with him. So needless to say, after I moved back to my home state (Florida) eleven months ago, I've just been working and focusing on school.
About a week ago, I was searching on POF just for amusement, since it was late and I was bored. I stumbled across this guy who was my age, shared all of my interests and was kind of cute. Naturally, I messaged him and from there, it went over to texts and we started talking and getting to know each other. That's when i found out that I'd underestimated where he lived, which was about six hours from where I am in the center of the state. (He's at the tippy top.). It was discouraging when we found out, but I was willing to keep talking and he said that he still wanted to talk to me and see where this went. From there, It moved to Skype, where I video chatted with him literally a day after talking to him.
He and I seemed to have a lot in common. We share the same interests, which is video games and anime and things along those lines, we both share the same views, we both are pretty ambitious about our futures (College, moving out of state, etc) and he loves to travel. I think I have more of a connection with him than I did with my last ex and it's pretty exciting.
The problem is, we're not 'official' yet, despite the fact we talk every day through texting, facebook and Skype. He says that he prefers to make it official in person rather than online. I'm trying to understand that, especially since my last two relationships were made official over the internet and as such, it's a bit odd for me to hear that. He lives about six-seven hours away from me. And due to him having low blood pressure that isn't treated yet, it's dangerous for him to drive and not faint, so the closest time he can get to come down to the center of the state is in a month, which is when he'll have the time and funds to meet me.
I don't actually MIND driving up to see him. I've done long trips before many times and that's not a bother. I'd prefer going up there to see him, actually. I'm just more worried that by the time I'll go up to see him, It'll be two-three weeks since we first met and that it's going to be too soon, despite the fact that I have seen and talked to him over skype and we've already found a bit about each other already. While I don't want to make him wait two months to make us official while I get to know him better (especially since he seems pretty eager to do what he can to help me get up there!), I also want to make sure I'm thinking straight and not just diving in head first by going to see him so soon. I'm trying to keep a level head throughout this, to make sure that it's not just my heart leading me irrationally into something that will get me hurt in the end.
Questions:
- Should I go ahead with the two week visit? Or should I go ahead and wait a month before going to meet him? (NOTE: This all varies on my boss, who ultimately decides if I get the days off or not.)
- Am I acting irrationally in any way, shape or form? I don't want to be myself at 18 again. (That was a disaster!)
- Is it strange for someone to want to make a relationship 'official' in person? Or is it just me?
- How long should the visit be? I'm toying with the idea of it being three days, especially since I have a potentially 14 hour round trip ahead of me. However, At the moment, it's going to be two days.
I hope you guys are able to help and give me advice! Thanks again for reading
xo
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