Hi! 2nd time posting
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 week after meeting online two months ago (on a dating website). At first we emailed, texted then called and once we started skyping, we would talk for hours or just stare at each other in lulls of conversation. Well once we incorporated playing some games or watching some tv shows/movies...now this all he wants to do. I told him quite a few times a couple weeks ago about it and he said he understood but isn't a huge talker - he mostly likes to listen. And he doesn't like to be asked questions and whenever we have serious conversations, he doesn't like them, gets uncomfortable, as he is one of the most laid-back, low stress guys I have ever met. So I keep getting frustrated or crying (in frustration) why we aren't talking much and he is happy as a lamb when we play games or watch movies. And that's pretty much our skype dates - we text throughout the day but lately it's shorter and not as frequent. He says I make him happy....only when we were first talking and in October - he would compliment me and call me beautiful and baby...and now nothing. I want to get to know this guy more - his family, childhood, more dreams. We have core things in common - faith. hopes the future (family etc...) and he wants to move West so we will be closer together but maybe not for a few more months. He's a bit of a procastinator so goals/deadlines aren't huge. He takes it step by step. My main question is - how do we bridge this gap of communication - because while I may fill his tank of playing games or watching movies etc...my tank isn't getting filled and I've tried so many ways to explain it to him. Why the sudden change? Is it because I'm his girlfriend now? Plus making plans to visit each other (see boyfriend doesnt want me to visit post) He is super chill about just seeing where things go and not rushing it. I'm like - okay I know, let's visit, see if we connect, then go from there. I have no clue how to meet in the middle (haha literally maybe) with communication - does anyone have any advice? And believe me, all the suggestions from this website at top - he wasn't interested....sigh
Is it me - like Cher in Clueless - did my hair fall flat??? LOL
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 week after meeting online two months ago (on a dating website). At first we emailed, texted then called and once we started skyping, we would talk for hours or just stare at each other in lulls of conversation. Well once we incorporated playing some games or watching some tv shows/movies...now this all he wants to do. I told him quite a few times a couple weeks ago about it and he said he understood but isn't a huge talker - he mostly likes to listen. And he doesn't like to be asked questions and whenever we have serious conversations, he doesn't like them, gets uncomfortable, as he is one of the most laid-back, low stress guys I have ever met. So I keep getting frustrated or crying (in frustration) why we aren't talking much and he is happy as a lamb when we play games or watch movies. And that's pretty much our skype dates - we text throughout the day but lately it's shorter and not as frequent. He says I make him happy....only when we were first talking and in October - he would compliment me and call me beautiful and baby...and now nothing. I want to get to know this guy more - his family, childhood, more dreams. We have core things in common - faith. hopes the future (family etc...) and he wants to move West so we will be closer together but maybe not for a few more months. He's a bit of a procastinator so goals/deadlines aren't huge. He takes it step by step. My main question is - how do we bridge this gap of communication - because while I may fill his tank of playing games or watching movies etc...my tank isn't getting filled and I've tried so many ways to explain it to him. Why the sudden change? Is it because I'm his girlfriend now? Plus making plans to visit each other (see boyfriend doesnt want me to visit post) He is super chill about just seeing where things go and not rushing it. I'm like - okay I know, let's visit, see if we connect, then go from there. I have no clue how to meet in the middle (haha literally maybe) with communication - does anyone have any advice? And believe me, all the suggestions from this website at top - he wasn't interested....sigh
Is it me - like Cher in Clueless - did my hair fall flat??? LOL
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