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    Visiting while SO has work/school?

    My SO is coming in about a month for about 3 weeks, and then since our plan for me to go to school there in January fell through, both our parents suggested I just fly back with him for the rest of my break. I really want to, plus I have a few things to do while there (visit the college, see SO's family, etc) and of course I'd love spending extra time with him. The problem is that my boyfriend goes to school 8:30-4:30 every week day, and works 5:30-10 Mon-Thurs (taking off work is not an option). I'd be there for about 2 weeks. I know a lot of you have probably been in this situation as well, so I'm wondering how that experience was for you and how you felt during that time? I can probably find ways to occupy myself, I even thought about getting a bus pass for the month and just going out around town while he's at school/work, but there's really only so much to do. Maybe you have a few more ideas?

    Anyway, I'd love to hear what you guys think and your stories about situations like this.
    started dating: 12/08/12
    "i love you": 04/12/13
    el paso: 07/24/13 - 08/05/13
    montreal: 12/13/13 - 01/03/14
    el paso: 01/05/14 - 01/19/14
    montreal: 05/30/14 - 07/27/14
    el paso: 07/27/14 - 08/18/14
    el paso: 12/27/14 - 01/16/15
    el paso: 06/02/15 - 08/17/15
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    #2
    in a lesser extent, I have the same 'problem'...
    My SO is comming next friday but 3 of those days I have college from 7 to 7-ish (this is including traveling)
    Feel a little strange about that as well
    So if someone likes to share his experiences with this, please
    "If you say you can't, you just don't want to"

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      #3
      In my opinion, its better than not seeing them at all.
      Made it official: 12-01-10
      First visit: 3-29-13/4-09-13
      Closed the distance: 07-31-13

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        #4
        My SO and I are having the same sort of problem.
        We want to have a visit in December but we're not sure how to plan it around my work/school schedule.
        It's very frustrating to say the least!



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          #5
          In Spring 2012, my SO came to visit me during my spring semester at university. On the days I went to school, he came to school with me and stayed in the library while I was in class. Then I met up with him afterwards
          My SO works from his computer for his job, though, so he had plenty to do while I was in class. A few times, my professors even let him come into class with me, which was really nice
          Also, during other times when I had to go to work, I would drop him off at Starbucks or the mall beforehand, so he chilled there for a few hours until I picked him up. Other times, he would simply stay at my house and watch movies or play with my dog.
          I'm sure there will be plenty for you to do when your SO is busy with school/work! Does he live in a big city? Is there a lot of sightseeing around where he lives? I think a bus pass is a great idea as well.
          Good luck!

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            #6
            I've been visiting my SO while he's been in school, and I'm not going to lie; it was rather boring and painful. On the other hand, I stayed for the entire summer and had visited right beforehand.... I would still go though, it's worth it to me
            We part only to meet again ~ J.Gay

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              #7
              my SO is working 9-6 so if I visit him while he's working I spend awesome evenings with him, It's so nice to see him after whole day. I picked up cross-stiching when I was bored when he wasn't at home, cooked, baked, catched up on all the tv shows I'm watching, spent time with his dad, fixed his mum's laptop, tidied up his room, wen't to the city center and did some shopping, went sightseeing, slept through whole day... You can ALWAYS find things to do.

              And the morning when we have breakfast together or dinners together, movie nights or evenings when you lay down just listening to each other's breath is worth it.
              “We're all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness — and call it love — true love.”
              ― Robert Fulghum, True Love

              Met UK 3.08.2012-5.08.12 ->UK 1.12.12-3.12.12->PL 8.02.13-16.02.13->PL 1.06.13-9.06.13->UK 3.08.13-17.08.13->UK 26.10.2013-02.11.2013->PL 30.11.2013-08.12.2013->PL 22.03.2014-29.03.2014->UK 31.05.2014-07.06.2014->PL 06.09.2014-13.09.13->UK 20.12.2014-03.01.2015
              Closed the distance >21.03.2015
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                #8
                In prior LDR this quite often happened... And I never really complained. I had my own things to do, and was already happy with dinner together, sleeping together, and wakening up next to him...

                Now this LDR, we'll see how it works... Only saw him while not working, now first time during a normal working week for him...

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                  #9
                  It can be fun if you have things going on during the day. I'd start researching different activities and such and then get the bus pass as you planned. Also, if there are any classes you'd want to take like cooking or whatever you could probably find one..

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                    #10
                    getting to know his family will help you get to know him better. others had great ideas. Unless you are a total introvert, get out and explore. Since you want to go to school there, take a day or two and explore the school. learn the area.
                    everything happens for a reason. We may never find out what that reason is/was, but there is a reason.

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                      #11
                      I like the idea of taking a class of something. I'm a little bit of an introvert, but I wouldn't mind doing something like that. Most of my time will probably be spent exploring. :P Maybe with a little research I'll find some cool activities or places to go. Thanks everyone for the good ideas
                      started dating: 12/08/12
                      "i love you": 04/12/13
                      el paso: 07/24/13 - 08/05/13
                      montreal: 12/13/13 - 01/03/14
                      el paso: 01/05/14 - 01/19/14
                      montreal: 05/30/14 - 07/27/14
                      el paso: 07/27/14 - 08/18/14
                      el paso: 12/27/14 - 01/16/15
                      el paso: 06/02/15 - 08/17/15
                      san antonio: 02/04/16 - 02/08/16
                      san antonio/el paso: 06/03/16 - 06/21/16

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                        #12
                        I've almost always had this problem with visits! It's really not that bad. Get to know his family, see where he lives, and spend time with him when you can

                        a gente se completa neste abraço

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