He's home, but all is not good

[butlerfly]

Nearly 3 weeks later and he still hasn't told his best friend we have broke up... Even when he has asked how I am..

I don't understand why he wouldn't say??

[Photonut]

You need to stop talking to him and anybody thats friends with him. Talking to him isnt helping you move on, its only causing more drama.

[Hollandia]

Stop contact with him for a few weeks. He is now your good friend and not your BF, you need to adjust to that line of thinking. Go out and if only for a few hours with your galpals go try to look at other men as potential future "mates", don't even talk to them if you don't want to. Just go guy watch with your girlfriends. Let the healing begin. That was then and this is now. Move on.

[piratemama]

Stop contact with him for a few weeks. He is now your good friend and not your BF, you need to adjust to that line of thinking. Go out and if only for a few hours with your galpals go try to look at other men as potential future "mates", don't even talk to them if you don't want to. Just go guy watch with your girlfriends. Let the healing begin. That was then and this is now. Move on.

I agree with this. I know you are sad, and you wish he were sad. He may be hurting, too, but he's a guy and won't show it the same way you do. However, it doesn't matter now. For you to be okay, you must cut the ties completely. Stop caring if he is talking about it. Stop caring what he thinks or does. Start looking around you for others that need you and care about you. Reach out to others that are going through tough times. Forget this guy, so you can move on and be happy. You'll never heal, if you keep picking at this wound. Good luck. Remember, we aren't trying to hurt you on this forum. We care and want the best for you.

[onehappyisland]

Maybe you should tell him you want the relation to end ! Even if that is not what you truly want.
You only realise what you had when it's gone ! And be brave and act asif you are ok !
You have to find out if he wants to go for it a 100% ! You dont want to find yourself a year from now having thrown away all that time for nothing.
But it's hard ! I know ! xxxx

[rachel.guffey]

I can't imagine not knowing whether or not it was going to last. No matter what happens, life goes on. You get through it. Idk how, but you do. I promise things will work out the way they're supposed to. I'm so sorry. I can't even fathom what you must be feeling right now. Best of luck to you sweetie.