I've been with my LDR boyfriend for 16 months now. We've had our share of ups and downs just like any other couple. I'm seeking advice on a few different things and I welcome any opinions that you may have. All I ask is that you're respectful if you decide to reply to me. Also, sorry if this blog is too lengthy.
We're both jealous but I'd say that he's more jealous than I am. I have one good friend that I can actually hang out with without it feeling forced. It happens to be a male that is closer to my age than my current significant other. I'm shy and introverted and would rather hang out at a coffee shop and listen to good music rather than go out and party. I do better hanging out with people when it's one on one or if I know all the people I'm around. How should I go about balancing my best guy friend and my significant other? He gets mad every time I hang out with him but then says he hates when I'm sad and lonely and encourages me to hang out with people.
My boyfriend hates to acknowledge that he's with me and I take it as a slap in the face. For instance, he doesn't want to be in a Facebook relationship because he is scared that people will judge me. I told him that none of his friends can see any of my information but the questions he came up with when we were talking about it made me feel like I was incredibly inferior and they hurt me. I told him that all of the people that are important in my life know about him so why can't it be the same way on his end? Am I being too sensitive about this? Also, we took a trip together last month and he met a girl he had class with there (her boyfriend came too) and there were a few things I noticed about him that didn't come off as normal to me. I'm not legal to drink yet and they wanted to meet at a sports bar that was for 21+. We didn't know it was that way until we got there but when we found out, we obviously had to change the plans because of me. I told him that I'd find something to do but he said he'd fix it. He acted mad at me for it and wasn't really talking to me; just sitting next to me. He texted her to let her know the news but he didn't mention I was his girlfriend, he just said "friend" and to be honest it sorta pissed me off because we've been together for awhile. When I mentioned it later he said that he hadn't even mentioned he did it but I don't believe him at all. He also hardly talked to me the entire time we were at dinner with them. Am I in the wrong here? Should I of mentioned it? What would you do if you were me?
We're both jealous but I'd say that he's more jealous than I am. I have one good friend that I can actually hang out with without it feeling forced. It happens to be a male that is closer to my age than my current significant other. I'm shy and introverted and would rather hang out at a coffee shop and listen to good music rather than go out and party. I do better hanging out with people when it's one on one or if I know all the people I'm around. How should I go about balancing my best guy friend and my significant other? He gets mad every time I hang out with him but then says he hates when I'm sad and lonely and encourages me to hang out with people.
My boyfriend hates to acknowledge that he's with me and I take it as a slap in the face. For instance, he doesn't want to be in a Facebook relationship because he is scared that people will judge me. I told him that none of his friends can see any of my information but the questions he came up with when we were talking about it made me feel like I was incredibly inferior and they hurt me. I told him that all of the people that are important in my life know about him so why can't it be the same way on his end? Am I being too sensitive about this? Also, we took a trip together last month and he met a girl he had class with there (her boyfriend came too) and there were a few things I noticed about him that didn't come off as normal to me. I'm not legal to drink yet and they wanted to meet at a sports bar that was for 21+. We didn't know it was that way until we got there but when we found out, we obviously had to change the plans because of me. I told him that I'd find something to do but he said he'd fix it. He acted mad at me for it and wasn't really talking to me; just sitting next to me. He texted her to let her know the news but he didn't mention I was his girlfriend, he just said "friend" and to be honest it sorta pissed me off because we've been together for awhile. When I mentioned it later he said that he hadn't even mentioned he did it but I don't believe him at all. He also hardly talked to me the entire time we were at dinner with them. Am I in the wrong here? Should I of mentioned it? What would you do if you were me?
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