Next Step: How to Break up with the unlucky guy?

[Samanthabear]

Ok guys, thanks for all the input on the last thread, now comes the next step....how to break the unlucky guys' (I'm not saying who I chose lol) heart? I want to be nice but firm, its hard because as many of you know an LDR is a REALLY big undertaking with its own special set of challenges from the beginning and I'm not sure how to approach the long distance break up. Should I wait until we are face to face? Or over Skype? Txt? Input is appreciated....

Thanks!

[noodle]

uhm just tell him? lol
either while camin or on the phone, its more personal but as far as I got it you werent even officially datin both am I right?
Cause if you were just havin a thing every once in a while with him just tell him you dont want it anymore
its not that hard

[milaya]

Yes, all you can do is tell him.
The most important thing is that you have reached a decision you're fully content with.
Guess there's never an easy way to break up with a person...
How to approach it, well depends on when you will be face to face again (because if it's not anytime soon, maybe it's not the best way) or else I guess skype is also an okay solution.
I don't really like the idea of breaking up in a text... maybe that's just me.

I hope things work out for you.

[LadyMarchHare]

Be straight and to the point. "I'm looking for more than you've shown you can offer me in a relationship, it's over." There's no need for any pomp and circumstance or beating around the bush. The best you can do is call and say it and be respectful.

[paulawriteslove]

Be straight and to the point. "I'm looking for more than you've shown you can offer me in a relationship, it's over." There's no need for any pomp and circumstance or beating around the bush. The best you can do is call and say it and be respectful.

Agreed!

[Karringtyn]

Being honest and forthright. You said it has been going on for 5 months right? Just tell him and speak from your heart. YOU are taking care of YOU. Let us know how it goes...

[freeskierpj]

Be straight and to the point. "I'm looking for more than you've shown you can offer me in a relationship, it's over." There's no need for any pomp and circumstance or beating around the bush. The best you can do is call and say it and be respectful.

Yea just be straight up. The only thing I would say is don't do it over a text. I wouldn't wait to break it off because that would just be leading him on further or if you started to show him less affection because of not wanting to lead him on, he will probably wonder what he did for that to happen. So ya just be straight with him.

[MTK]

Don't do it over text as it is something that is considered to be very rude and to be honest, a douchebag move to do.
Use skype if you have to and let whoever know that they are not the right one for you and that it is not going anywhere so instead of stringing him along breaking up is the best.

And i agree with Noodle, tell him. There's nothing more to it.

I would just like to add my two cent and say that i get the impression that the way you are going about this makes me feel like you might not be taking this seriously. The use of words like "How to break the unlucky guys' heart" Makes it seem like it is all a game, in my opinion.

[Samanthabear]

Hey Guys,

Thanks for all the input. No its not a game! I'm sorry my verbiage isn't more eloquent! If I didn't care at all I would just not txt him back and wouldn't have made the thread. Skype I think is the consensus view that the best way to break it off. I've always told my other ex's in person (and to be honest I'm usually the one that gets dumped) but in this case its a long way to drive to tell someone in person you don't want to move forward.

I will let you guys know how it goes, I'm not looking forward to this conversation one bit!

[Karringtyn]

Whatever way you choose to do it...I am sure you will use care and concern..I know it isn't easy...but in the long run...it will be ok.