Hey everyone,
So! i know that valentines day in an LDR is probably a sore subject, but this is my first valentines day, in my first relationship that just happens to be long distance!
My SO is having a very hard time with the whole "I have a girlfriend but cant even be with her on Valentine's Day" thing. I was just hoping i could get some advice on how to help him through this....I tend to be more positive about these things, Im sending him a small meaningful care package, a card, and my 14th is pretty open so that he and I can have a while to skype and talk to each other.
But my So on the other hand, he tends to be more negative...and that makes things really hard...
He has told me that his biggest reoccurring problem is that in his hometown he feels like everyone he knows, even the most rude people, all have someone to physically stand next to on Valentine's Day. and he is mad that he cant take me on a date, or hug me, kiss me, hold my hand... He just wants to be together already and he hates that we have to wait until MAy to see each other again (because i am in school).
I just dont know what to do...I have tried to talk to him about trying to think more positively, that we are lucky to have someone we love. That just because we cant stand next to each other, we can at least see each others faces...
Last year on Feb. 10th his first love, and first really serious girlfriend broke up with him, and i feel like he has that memory still very fresh in his mind, and i can tell it is making him very sad and very angry...
today we talked on the phone and he said (not for the first time) that he feels like the world is just handing him one shitty card after another...I know he is just sad and that he misses me, but sometimes I wonder why it seems as if he doesnt realize that I am physically alone on valentines day too...I am just trying to make the best of it :/
Any advice is welcomed and very very appreciated!
thank you
So! i know that valentines day in an LDR is probably a sore subject, but this is my first valentines day, in my first relationship that just happens to be long distance!
My SO is having a very hard time with the whole "I have a girlfriend but cant even be with her on Valentine's Day" thing. I was just hoping i could get some advice on how to help him through this....I tend to be more positive about these things, Im sending him a small meaningful care package, a card, and my 14th is pretty open so that he and I can have a while to skype and talk to each other.
But my So on the other hand, he tends to be more negative...and that makes things really hard...
He has told me that his biggest reoccurring problem is that in his hometown he feels like everyone he knows, even the most rude people, all have someone to physically stand next to on Valentine's Day. and he is mad that he cant take me on a date, or hug me, kiss me, hold my hand... He just wants to be together already and he hates that we have to wait until MAy to see each other again (because i am in school).
I just dont know what to do...I have tried to talk to him about trying to think more positively, that we are lucky to have someone we love. That just because we cant stand next to each other, we can at least see each others faces...
Last year on Feb. 10th his first love, and first really serious girlfriend broke up with him, and i feel like he has that memory still very fresh in his mind, and i can tell it is making him very sad and very angry...
today we talked on the phone and he said (not for the first time) that he feels like the world is just handing him one shitty card after another...I know he is just sad and that he misses me, but sometimes I wonder why it seems as if he doesnt realize that I am physically alone on valentines day too...I am just trying to make the best of it :/
Any advice is welcomed and very very appreciated!
thank you
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