Night Owls vs. Early Birds

[hellojamie]

So I'm visiting my SO this weekend. He's dogsitting and we're staying over there on Friday. Originally he had told me we were just going to feed the dogs on Friday and stay at his place, but the owners are getting back a little later, so we're staying there. I was excited, since they have a pool and stuff, until he said we'd leave Saturday morning.

I asked him to define "morning" and he said that he would like to LEAVE by 8. As in, be showered, dressed, packed, ready to go.

UGHHH. For one, I've had mono all summer, so I'm tired all the time anyway, and two, I am not a morning person at all. Especially on Saturdays for no reason. He's an early bird and likes to get out and get stuff done- he's born and bred a farmer, so of course he's used to getting up at dawn and going to bed around 9-10. I'm the exact opposite. I'm never in bed before 12, and I prefer not to be up before 9.

I hate that we never sleep at the same time when we're together. I'm usually not tired by the time he's ready to crash, and he wakes up way before I even want to think about being awake. He feels that sleeping in "wastes" the day, but I just like being cuddled up with him, since it's something we never do.

Anyone else deal with this problem with their SO?

[agentholli]

Oh man, that has got to stink!! I don't have this problem, both me and my bf are night owls and we stay up talking on the phone until wee hours in the morning. Usually like 2-3 am his time. And he has to be up at 6-7 am for work.

Maybe you should take a sleeping pill or something, like even just benadryl for the time you are together?

[milaya]

I myself am a night owl. I go to bed very late and get up very late.
I'm not fully sure what my SO is - but think he is a night owl as well. Meaning, when I first met him in his parents house (I was a homestay student), we started talking together because we always was the only ones up late and we both got up late as well. But when he's with me in Denmark, we actually go to bed earlier than we did in Japan and of course then also get up earlier. I actually think our sleep pattern adapts very well to each other. We're sleepy around the same time and we wake up around the same time.

I just think I'm the ones who is best at "getting up". meaning... I love to sleep and getting up before 10-11 o'clock on a weekend for me unheard of, but if I "have to" get up - like because of school/work/appointment, then I get up as soon as the alarm clock rings. I could never imagine using the snooze button. Where my SO often turns the alarm off and says "just 5 more minutes."
Maybe that is why he often starts our skype conversations by saying "I overslept a bit." (we skype just before he starts work). Since I'm not there to say "get out of bed you lazy bum!"

[JoMarie]

My problem is sort of the same but slightly different. I am a person that has a hard time sleeping any longer than five hours. I'm not a sleep for 8-12 hours. Five hours is what I consider sleeping in. Kevin on the other hand would love to sleep 10-13 hours a day! I normally just turn on the TV and cuddle with him until he wakes up, sometimes staying in bed makes me fall back asleep for a little longer too.

[polkapiggy]

Alex and I are exactly the same. I go to bed around 11pm to 1am and given the option, I won't get up until like 10am XD Alex is the total opposite, he's in bed by ten and he gets up at like 5am! To me, it's INSANE but he has no idea how I can stay up so late!

[noodle]

I havent been with my SO in person together but I think we would get along just perfectly when it comes to sleepin ^^
We both like to sleep in and I usually stay up till 11pm or a lil later and he as well changed his sleepin time to 1am laaatest so I dont think it'd be a problem
Seein as he wakes up before you, if I was him I'd just lay there and snuggle up or just watch my SO sleep Dependin on how much longer you sleep lol And the same with goin sleepin

[NaNi]

When we were together we never had that problem. We were out all day and went to bed after midnight. We also always woke up around the same time. It was perfect! I can't comment on when we're not together since my SO is 10 hours ahead of me right now anyway, so we never go to bed or get up at the same time.

[annamorgan]

My problem is that I go to bed usually pretty early and wakeup pretty early too, but my SO will sleep in until 12-1pm. I always tell him how ridiculous that is. It annoys me :|

[Karringtyn]

MY SO works nights....as our relationship has went on I have become more and more like him...I am a night owl and sleep late...buttttt school will be starting back up and then I have to be up early with the kids...so this will be interesting...

[paulawriteslove]

Me and my SO usually go to bed around the same time. But when it comes to mornings, he likes to sleep in and I love waking up early.

[Rane]

That has got to be really challenging! >.< Garnet and I are lucky in that we met playing an online game, so our usual bed time if there's no work in question is around 6-8AM... Who needs to be awake when there's daylight, right? And I thought "I" was pale before I met her... >.> <.<

[LilyPanda]

I haven't actually gotten to be WITH my SO with this problem. But, we have it. He liked getting to bed a bit early (usually before 12.. and before 11 during school. heh), and I usually don't sleep. I'd gotten into the habit of staying up really late at night, way past 12 all summer. Lately, it's gotten better with his help.. but bleh. I hate it when he says he has to go to sleep.. I like talking to him before bed and while I'm falling asleep (and that happens rarely, it seems).

But yeah.. same situation here! It's getting better though. He's stayed up a bit later than usual lately, and I've tried to get to sleep earlier (Except for tonight. He was out around 12:30, and I'm still up at... 2:10. haha!)

[machstx]

he likes to fall asleep to the tv on where i hate doing that when im with him because we end up watching tv instead of talking before we fall asleep. plus with the tv on i dont sleep well and end up waking up in the middle of the night to turn it off. he always wants to get up early because he doesnt want to waste the day away which i agree because when we only get a little time together why spend it asleep? buuut he expects me to stay up late partying with freind then get upearly? i think NOT. and he gets annoyed when i have to shower n starighten my hair and do my make up. i HATE that. so i end up sleeping a little later and taking an hour n half to get ready. but ohwell! lol

so i get you on the whole different time sleeping and all that haha

[SSUgirl]

I have sleep issues with my SO too. I am not a good sleeper and probably sleep on average only 5 or 6 hours a night. My SO, on the other hand, will sleep for HOURS! And not just at night. He will takes multiple naps throughout the day and then I just end up sitting there while he sleeps. Its not fun!

[Zephii]

Obi and I have this problem, but, as he points out it is partly my fault. Who got him in the habit of staying online talking til dawn? *innocent face*

I'm the early bird in our relationship. He's happy to sleep in til 11am, but doesn't like waking up alone. I hate to waste the day, and can't sleep alone at night when I go to bed. We actually have a rule that he goes to bed when I do - tired or not - and he has to stay there until I fall asleep. If he can get up again without waking me he's free to do so, but that rarely happens.
Because I've been forcing him to come to bed at around 10pm every other night for the past 11 months, he's grown used to it, and often falls asleep before I do even if he says he isn't tired. If he misses pulling all-nighters like a teen, he doesn't whinge about it. Mornings where neither of us work, I compromise with him. I wont get him up unless we have plans, and I'll lay there just holding him for upto an hour, so he doesn't feel abandoned. And sometimes I'll cook him breakfast in bed or turn things naughty if I really want him to get up lol. (Pun not intended!) Sleeping late often just annoys me, but I try and have my alone time then because when he's finally awake he's ready to go immediatly, whereas I might get up at 6am, but I'm not really functioning til 8