Ever since I came back from my visit to see my SO last August I have been putting money aside each paycheck to buy my next plane ticket. I have a decent amount saved up now. I new that once I got my tax return I'd definitely be able to go and buy it when the time came this summer.But earlier today I came with a huge crossroads, at least for me.
My dad asked me when I was going to make a payment for our dentist bill. On top of that, he is also asking me to give him a portion of my tax return. I should also mention, that he hasn't a job for almost two years now. He keeps applying and looking, but no luck has come his way yet.
My sister and I give my parents money every month to help pay bills and food and I am more than happy to help my family when it comes to that. It's a good thing that my mother has a job babysitting now. It helps. BUt of course it's not like how it was before.
I love my family, i really do.......but is it so horrible and selfish if I want to use this money to see my SO. I want to say no to my dad, I mean I would at least give him something to help, but not as much as he's expecting.
I was doing a lot of thinking before and I came to the conclusion that this would most likely be my last visit. After this time, I want to get all my bills paid off and my credit card as well. This way, when the time comes, I will be able to start my life with him on a clean financial state.
This is very difficult for me to make this decision. I've asked a couple friend, but they haven't given me much help.
On the bright side, at least I'll see him in April. He bough he ticket to visit.
My dad asked me when I was going to make a payment for our dentist bill. On top of that, he is also asking me to give him a portion of my tax return. I should also mention, that he hasn't a job for almost two years now. He keeps applying and looking, but no luck has come his way yet.
My sister and I give my parents money every month to help pay bills and food and I am more than happy to help my family when it comes to that. It's a good thing that my mother has a job babysitting now. It helps. BUt of course it's not like how it was before.
I love my family, i really do.......but is it so horrible and selfish if I want to use this money to see my SO. I want to say no to my dad, I mean I would at least give him something to help, but not as much as he's expecting.
I was doing a lot of thinking before and I came to the conclusion that this would most likely be my last visit. After this time, I want to get all my bills paid off and my credit card as well. This way, when the time comes, I will be able to start my life with him on a clean financial state.
This is very difficult for me to make this decision. I've asked a couple friend, but they haven't given me much help.
On the bright side, at least I'll see him in April. He bough he ticket to visit.
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