So I've been on this site before when I was pursuing another girl. That didn't seem to work out, but recently I met another girl on eharmony. We really seemed to match up well. We both have a lot of similarities, interests, long-term goals, and beliefs.
She is in grad school in Milwaukee. We started emailing, talking on the phone, and online/IM. The communication started off really well. Then as she started to get busier it went down. Which I understood, but then even during her holiday break the communication wasn't great.
Nevertheless, we both were trying. I had some fear that our communication was falling off, so I proposed we both meet sooner than later. To see if we really connected or not. She agreed so I planned a trip. Bought a plane ticket and planned the car rental/hotel.
However, I was flustered a bit by the lack of communication still. So I basically said, lets' call the whole thing off. However, she messaged me (without first seeing my break off email) and I messaged back saying I still would like to meet. So we still decided to meet.
So I went out there. We spent a whole Saturday together. Four hours at the Milwaukee Museum of Art which we both loved. Taking photos of our favorite paintings. Taking photos for each other (in fear of losing memory or battery life). We really seemed to feel comfortable with each other. We had breakfast, lunch, and dinner together. We hung out at coffee shops. Talked really well. On Sunday we went to church together (with a sermon that happened to be talking about relationships), I met her old roommate, we did a little shopping together, more studying she had to do together, some ramen, and later that night a few drinks together and talking about us. I told her straight out that I was interested in her. She said she still needed to think/pray about it. She seemed cautious due to being in grad school and also not sure where she will be working after she graduates. (We both live in different states). On Monday Morning before I left, I ran to drop off a book to her that she left in the car for school.
For Valentines I bought her some flowers, a gift (something that I remembered she liked at the mall), and a card. She seemed to really like them all. She is still very busy with school and I'm busy with work, but we both seem to be making an effort to talk, communicate. Even though we are both busy and both introverts.
So any thoughts? We met and hung out together after knowing each other less than a year. We seemed to really get along well. We both seem to be going in the same direction in life and similar interests. She is 35 and I'm 38. I'm really really ready to settle down with the right woman. I think she is thinking the same. I'm hoping she finds a job in a close by state so we can see each other more and plan on closing the distance some how.
Any thoughts, advice, etc? I'm hoping she invites me out for her graduation. Then I would meet her family. I think that would be a huge indicator. I keep having these stupid negative thoughts she might drop me like a bad habit, but I'm trying to be positive and it's helped for the most part.
-Monk
She is in grad school in Milwaukee. We started emailing, talking on the phone, and online/IM. The communication started off really well. Then as she started to get busier it went down. Which I understood, but then even during her holiday break the communication wasn't great.
Nevertheless, we both were trying. I had some fear that our communication was falling off, so I proposed we both meet sooner than later. To see if we really connected or not. She agreed so I planned a trip. Bought a plane ticket and planned the car rental/hotel.
However, I was flustered a bit by the lack of communication still. So I basically said, lets' call the whole thing off. However, she messaged me (without first seeing my break off email) and I messaged back saying I still would like to meet. So we still decided to meet.
So I went out there. We spent a whole Saturday together. Four hours at the Milwaukee Museum of Art which we both loved. Taking photos of our favorite paintings. Taking photos for each other (in fear of losing memory or battery life). We really seemed to feel comfortable with each other. We had breakfast, lunch, and dinner together. We hung out at coffee shops. Talked really well. On Sunday we went to church together (with a sermon that happened to be talking about relationships), I met her old roommate, we did a little shopping together, more studying she had to do together, some ramen, and later that night a few drinks together and talking about us. I told her straight out that I was interested in her. She said she still needed to think/pray about it. She seemed cautious due to being in grad school and also not sure where she will be working after she graduates. (We both live in different states). On Monday Morning before I left, I ran to drop off a book to her that she left in the car for school.
For Valentines I bought her some flowers, a gift (something that I remembered she liked at the mall), and a card. She seemed to really like them all. She is still very busy with school and I'm busy with work, but we both seem to be making an effort to talk, communicate. Even though we are both busy and both introverts.
So any thoughts? We met and hung out together after knowing each other less than a year. We seemed to really get along well. We both seem to be going in the same direction in life and similar interests. She is 35 and I'm 38. I'm really really ready to settle down with the right woman. I think she is thinking the same. I'm hoping she finds a job in a close by state so we can see each other more and plan on closing the distance some how.
Any thoughts, advice, etc? I'm hoping she invites me out for her graduation. Then I would meet her family. I think that would be a huge indicator. I keep having these stupid negative thoughts she might drop me like a bad habit, but I'm trying to be positive and it's helped for the most part.
-Monk
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