Anyone getting withdraw symptoms?

[Talent_2]

I think its a normal feeling to go through! i always find the first few days after i leave my SO the hardest, it literally tears me up inside. But i have found that filling my days as much as pos helps. Ive taking to doing loads of overtime just so im not alone and hanging out with my friends loads. But i find the nights the hardest, no one to cuddle up to and i really struggle to sleep i find myself staying up til im so tired i cant keep my eyes open. Unfortunately its just making me feel drained and tired, but its a cycle i cant get myself out of. I think you just gotta stay positive and keep busy, as long as you and your SO do everything you can to communicate and keep the LDR alive youll get there. Just gotta remember why we want to be together and we make the most of getting to know each other deeply through conversations and texts. We all have hard days just gotta concentrate on the good times!!!

[machstx]

i know what your going through except when i would get mad id take it out on him and would subconsciously start fights with him because i missed him so much. i was a mess. he was totally supportive and began to communicate how he wanted to talk to me instead of just calling. it made a huge difference for my emotinally. sounds like your bf is great too

[JoMarie]

I'm CDR right now. I say right now because if Kevin stays in the Navy, starting next year we will be LDR again for about 3 years. (Navy deployments are 3 on 3 off, and of his last three on sea duty he was away for pretty much 2.5 years with the other half being random visits home between places.) I do know what you are talking about because I too went through it. I find it was always harder after visits though, like the others have said.

[Mio]

I think is normal to go thru this temporary stage

[angel85]

Hey everyone . I got this feelings just this week . Because hes sad and worry . He trys to keep far . We are 3 months in the relationship . Hes worry of how our relationship will go . I'am being positive even though its really hitting me as I miss him alot . Was it like this for everyone in the beginning ? Iam planning on sending him a letter written by me . I really think that if our love is strong nothing can break it . Can anyone give an advice as to what to say to him because its not good to see him sad .

[loveonspeedial]

I think everyone that used to be in an CD suffers that, didn't you post a thread once about closing the distance with your SO?

I definately appreicate my so more then ever and I think it's helped our relationship millions, now when she calls me I try not to complain as much, I listen more, then again we're only 3 hours apart and still in the same time zone and I've still been seeing her almost weekly since she left and I still cry my eyes out when she leaves.

[BillW]

Being in a LDR sucks! I love her so much that I would never end it and wish she would move here immediately. But, she won't (needs time) so I have to deal with it. I now have one of her nightgowns to sleep with along with a large pillow and the nightgown (smell of her on it) made a big difference. Crying because I miss her seems to be part of the deal. Hang in there. Someday this agony will end.

[Trethsparr]

Getting weened off my bf is giving me withdraw symptoms and making me very irritable.
Any of you experiencing this or an LDR after being CD?

*raises hand* :'(

[Talent_2]

I completely understand what your going through. I always try to stay positive whereas my boyfriend gets very down, although i do have my down days too. We are into our 9th month of being together and if anything it gets harder being apart but we know we want to be together more than anything and will eventually become CD in the future. We find that being in contact on a daily basis makes it easier whether that be via text phone email or skype. Also we always plan a visit ahead that way we always have something to look forward to rather than wondering wen we will see each other again. Hope this helps. Letters are a great way of letting him know youre thinking of him even when apart

[Belle]

loveonspeeddial: first off, i love the display name =) and yes, i posted a thread when we first talked about moving in together. I recently moved to NY for medical school and we are hoping to move in together next summer. The way things are going though, it doesnt seem like that will be possible. I wont be much help in the money department and i dont want to put all the pressure on him.
I think thats one of the reasons ive been experiencing more withdraw symptoms lately. Moving in together is gonna take more work than i thought. The longing always used to be worse right after he left but now, its getting terrible. I also act distant sometimes or make him feel bad by bringing up the fact that this is hard.

AM I ON A RELATIONSHIP SELF DESTRUCTIVE PATH?
BillW: ill be waiting for the agony to end. thanks.

[Belle]

Yeah. I do. I wanted to spend my time with my SO before we met for the first time, but after we spent 5 weeks with each other... I miss everything. I miss all those things that normal CDR couples can do. Holding hands, going out, kissing, making love... just everything. It was really hard going back to just writing emails or talking over Skype after all that.

Its the contact that i miss the most, too. Its kind of hard to go back. But I wouldnt want to be anywhere else (with the exception of by his side) other than waiting for him =).
Theres couples who havent yet met so we should cherish the memories =)

i know what your going through except when i would get mad id take it out on him and would subconsciously start fights with him because i missed him so much. i was a mess. he was totally supportive and began to communicate how he wanted to talk to me instead of just calling. it made a huge difference for my emotinally. sounds like your bf is great too

I dont cause a fight but i act distant when i get in the really bad moods. I know its not making anything better so i try not to. Hes been sooo amazing. My bf is super great =). I feel bad that im going through such a rough patch right now when i know hes so supportive. I think it might just be the stress of a new school thats making me so crazy.

But i have found that filling my days as much as pos helps... I think you just gotta stay positive and keep busy, as long as you and your SO do everything you can to communicate and keep the LDR alive youll get there. Just gotta remember why we want to be together and we make the most of getting to know each other deeply through conversations and texts. We all have hard days just gotta concentrate on the good times!!!

Great advice, thanks =)! And welcome =3

[KyleTheMan]

Well i don't go through that too often. Mainly because we talk for hours all the time everyday. Well, i talk for hours, she just listens as always. Anyways! I think we talk too much and... yeah! I used to get really lonely a lot and i used to go through that withdrawal. But lately i don't really feel anything. I feel just fine not talking to my SO for weeks.

Oh! She woke up just now. Her twitter message looks... annoyed? What did Kyle do now? Oh boy, lets find out.

[Karringtyn]

yes. yes. yes.yes.

[Ozzigirl]

I have withdrawals from my bf as well when he left 7 months ago, I was really sad every day and would cry a lot and I felt a bit depressed coz I missed him so much... over time it got a bit better but I still miss him like hell and miss everything with him, like simply BEING with him. And seeing people make out on Tv or just like in public is like somebody would hit me with the fist in the face, making me so sad..

[mattheww65]

I Miss my SO all the time... its really strange actually.

We try and talk every day, if we cant Skype we just send a few texts back and forth just to remind the other we're thinking of each other. Never tend to say anything important, just what we're upto that day and that we love and miss each other.

Its kind of annoying because on her plan its really expensive for her to text abroad, so we use a thing called 'Fishtext'. BUT for her that only works in her uni room. So she can only really text me from her room, unless its really important....

Sometimes i'll be fine, text her, and if she responds thats great, if not then i'll know she's just busy etc. But other times i'll literally sit there waiting for my phone to buzz, and sometimes even re-send the message i've sent previoiusly just to make sure she's got it (long story).

Is it normal to be so up and down?