My boyfriend is moving where I live

[sarahjane1992]

I'm going to be honest. This whole thread is really confusing and it really does seem like you two are rushing to meet each other and maybe close the distance. You haven't been clear about what you're looking for from this thread, or your blogs. You haven't given us all the details really, and if you have, they're all over the place. I can see why everyone is confused and not sure how to reply.

If he has no money and no place to stay, why is he coming to visit you? What are you guys even going to be able to do? If you're paying for him to come visit, shouldn't you have thought about where he could stay and discussed that with him before mentioning it to him? This just all seems like really poor planning.

Do you have enough money to cover his hotel/motel room if he can't stay with you? Will you guys have transportation when he gets there? Why can't he stay with you? I understand that you live with your parents, I do too, but when my boyfriend comes over, he stays at my house. Granted, he sleeps in my room with me, but if your parents aren't okay with that, would they be okay with him sleeping on your couch or basement? Do they know he's coming to meet you? Do they know about him?

You guys should really wait until you both have enough money to sort this out. If you really love each other, there's no rush in meeting. Some of the couples on this site have gone months, even years, without meeting their SO's.

As for him going to school, how is he going to pay for school and pay for his dorm, if he plans on staying on-campus? Can his parents help him out? Will he be getting a scholarship or a loan? If he wants to go to school to run his own business (which is very, very vague), he's probably going to have to major in Business or Business Management. Has he thought about going to a vocational/tech school? Those are usually cheaper and the programs are shorter. I went to one for Dental Assisting before I decided to go back to college and work on becoming a Hygienist. My program was 9 months. Those types of schools usually teach subjects/positions that are always in demand.

I totally agree with this! I don't see why the OP feels the need to rush. Enjoy getting to know each other and save money/plan your meeting. Seeing as you haven't met yet, I would advise against closing the distance. You need to know each other better and have a plan before you do. That's a huge step.
The questions whatruckus brought up are really important also.
You and your SO need to really give those a lot of thought.

[differentcountries]

If you can pay for his visit, you could cover the two of you a motel room, too, or he could find somewhere to stay for free for a weekend through Couchsurfing.com.