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Hi everyone,
New to the forums, and I'm sorry in advance for spelling and grammar since english is not my first language. Stumbled over the site last year and thought it was something to save with all tips of activites etc. I was hoping to not be in need of help/advice like this, but now I am.
Tried to search on the forums, but every problem is unique, and I didn't find anything that could help me.
So, we started talking in june last year and everything was wonderful. She made feel wanted and loved me for who I am.
In august she moved up to her mom, and was going to stay there for about a month. But then something happend. She suddenly started to not reply back for some reason. Started to feel distant. And this happend a few days before she made the travell.
Time passed and things didn't get better. She ended up staying with her mom. And I thought she was living there until I contacted her sister and found out she moved back down, without telling me. I started to have trust issues wondering if she was hiding something else.
Things got a bit better after she quit her second job. And eventually it got worse again, until now recently when I spoke up and told her how I felt about everything, her behavior. That she often read my messages but don't reply. Never ask if I have time for skype or calls. Games with friends seem much more important as she can dissapear in mid chatting when they get a hold of her. Never text good morning or good night really. Not sharing about her life as before. Not as playfull, not to say almost never.
Yet, she still say she love me. And our plans for visiting the first time since we got together still seem appealing (had some major setback time after time).
She told me she didn't knew why she changed and that she is an reserved and drawn back person. This change happend over a day. Went from eagerly wanted to talk with me and I would say open person, to very drawn back and distant and shutting me out. Still the skype calls we have indicates that she still loves me.
There are many details that I feel I want to include but I don't know if it will help or make it a bigger mess than it is. Hope it makes some sense.
I just want to feel important again, that she wants to talk with me.
I'm honestly afraid..
New to the forums, and I'm sorry in advance for spelling and grammar since english is not my first language. Stumbled over the site last year and thought it was something to save with all tips of activites etc. I was hoping to not be in need of help/advice like this, but now I am.
Tried to search on the forums, but every problem is unique, and I didn't find anything that could help me.
So, we started talking in june last year and everything was wonderful. She made feel wanted and loved me for who I am.
In august she moved up to her mom, and was going to stay there for about a month. But then something happend. She suddenly started to not reply back for some reason. Started to feel distant. And this happend a few days before she made the travell.
Time passed and things didn't get better. She ended up staying with her mom. And I thought she was living there until I contacted her sister and found out she moved back down, without telling me. I started to have trust issues wondering if she was hiding something else.
Things got a bit better after she quit her second job. And eventually it got worse again, until now recently when I spoke up and told her how I felt about everything, her behavior. That she often read my messages but don't reply. Never ask if I have time for skype or calls. Games with friends seem much more important as she can dissapear in mid chatting when they get a hold of her. Never text good morning or good night really. Not sharing about her life as before. Not as playfull, not to say almost never.
Yet, she still say she love me. And our plans for visiting the first time since we got together still seem appealing (had some major setback time after time).
She told me she didn't knew why she changed and that she is an reserved and drawn back person. This change happend over a day. Went from eagerly wanted to talk with me and I would say open person, to very drawn back and distant and shutting me out. Still the skype calls we have indicates that she still loves me.
There are many details that I feel I want to include but I don't know if it will help or make it a bigger mess than it is. Hope it makes some sense.
I just want to feel important again, that she wants to talk with me.
I'm honestly afraid..
I´m sorry for your situation, it doesn´t sound very good to me. You know, not talking in LDR is kinda like not having the relationship at all, when talking is pretty much all we have, right? You should have a serious discussion with her about what´s going on. Do you think her mum could have said something that would make your SO to change the attitude?
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