[Backstory] My SO and I met here in Canada in an internship and we spent 3 months together before he went back home to NL. A couple of months later, we're still together and in an LDR.
[Rant/Worry]
This weekend my SO went with his friends to Dublin because they've never been there. And partly because my SO's friend took her PhD in Ireland and invited him over there. To which, he complied almost instantly and brought his friends along. And he met that girl here in Canada and he met her a month earlier than me.
I guess I feel upset and worried over this because (1) when he talks to me, he never talks about wanting to close the distance or even wanting to visit me, (2) Of all friends that he made here, why was she the first one he visited after he went back home? He met a lot of people here and have offered their homes when he feels like visiting, but why her first? (3) When I ask if he still talks to anyone he met here, he would always say that he talks to the girl every time.
I am just feeling jealous and possessive about it, overall. And it's more upsetting because I can't express these feelings to him because he doesn't like conflicts. Whenever these things happen, he would not reply to me through text, divert the conversations into something else, or not see me on Skype. So I end up mulling over my own feelings.
Do you have any experiences with this? And if so, how to best deal with this?
Thanks!
[Rant/Worry]
This weekend my SO went with his friends to Dublin because they've never been there. And partly because my SO's friend took her PhD in Ireland and invited him over there. To which, he complied almost instantly and brought his friends along. And he met that girl here in Canada and he met her a month earlier than me.
I guess I feel upset and worried over this because (1) when he talks to me, he never talks about wanting to close the distance or even wanting to visit me, (2) Of all friends that he made here, why was she the first one he visited after he went back home? He met a lot of people here and have offered their homes when he feels like visiting, but why her first? (3) When I ask if he still talks to anyone he met here, he would always say that he talks to the girl every time.
I am just feeling jealous and possessive about it, overall. And it's more upsetting because I can't express these feelings to him because he doesn't like conflicts. Whenever these things happen, he would not reply to me through text, divert the conversations into something else, or not see me on Skype. So I end up mulling over my own feelings.
Do you have any experiences with this? And if so, how to best deal with this?
Thanks!
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