What do you guys talk about with your So?

[bribri2729]

Hey lfad community,

What do you guys talk about with your So? Do you talk about your family and friends business, but keep the conversation between you and your So? With me and my So, I tell him everything that goes on because I trust him and he's my bestfriend, but everytime I ask him how his family andfriends are, he gives me one word responses. He says he trust me and I'm his bestfriend too and doesn't tell me because its a rule he has . He doesn't like telling other peoples business. We won't be able to see each other in who knows how long. So what do we talk about?

[silvermoonfairy3]

You could try talking to each other about things you did with your day, interesting articles you read, plans you have or want to make/things you want to try, update each other on your hobbies, talk about movies, etc.

[Ahava]

We talk about everything, the daily events, if anything interesting happens, news, also about family and friends if it comes up or is relevant. Movies, tv programmes, work, our kids and what they are up to, anything that springs to mind. And we even talk about the weather, what we eat etc.

Some people aren't comfortable talking about other peoples stuff. My ex didnt like me talking about our stuff with my closest friends.

[Jaac]

We just talk about whatever's going on, what we're doing and plans for the future.
Sometimes we have a couple of days in a row we don't talk a lot, and some days we do talk a lot.

[itsjen516]

Everything what happened for the day or at work family. We never really have a topic just we talk as things happen

[TwoThree]

To me the question would be more like "What don't I talk with him about"

And the answer would be "very little"

[Roxie]

We usually talk about communication and ways we can work on our skills of communication. The way we've made it challenging is by doing quizzes. We were about to start on "The 5 LOVE LANGUAGES" by Dr. Gary Chapman. I find it exciting when you learn to communicate this way, and we both except that we have things to change. I guess I'm not the best at communicating, but a key point is practice, and it will help. I continue to tell myself that so I get better at my relationship or the next. I wish I could give you more, but I guess until he begins the test with me I won't be able to tell you how it went.

[snow]

To me the question would be more like "What don't I talk with him about"

And the answer would be "very little"

This. There is some things I keep from him, that are not really important, but would only feed his anxiety issues. Other than that we really talk about everything and anything. Things that happened the day, things that happened with family, friends, interests we share, I tell him things that happened on LFAD too.

I get what your SO says though. When we talk about his friends, he keeps it short, because there really isn't much to say. If something bigger happens to them or with them he will tell me about it. I don't think he is keeping anything from you, he just doesn't like to talk about people - nothing wrong about this.

[NerdyChick]

We talk about everything, but I tend to have more to talk about considering I love to share with him and pick up on things more throughout the day. So everything from the weather, school, people I know, things I heard or saw throughout the day, current events, hypotheticals, TV, movies, us, our future, I ask him about his day and he'll fill me in. But when he talks, he tends to focus on things that directly effect him or us, I can ask about his friends and he may comment if they are doing good or what not, but he doesn't go into too much detail just a "he's fine" "they are fine" response about covers it. He doesn't talk much about his family in the present, but he sometimes will talk about the past, memories he has. Overall I am much more of a gossip than he is about day-to-day stuff. Your SO may be the same. I'm more interested about all sorts of interactions and day-to-day weird things, while he really thinks nothing of it and over looks those things because they don't really effect him. If his friends are generally doing fine, that's what he says and leaves it at that. I don't press, I just think that's a characteristic we don't share, but in the end, he's always there if I need him, and I'm always there for him as well. So I think that's really all the matters. He still seems interested when I talk about things generally though, at the very least he humors me.

[squeeker]

My SO and I also talk about just anything and everything that comes up. I do get why people might be hesitant to talk about other people's business, especially if it's really personal. I don't expect my boyfriend to tell me every little thing he does, but I know he will tell me the important to exciting things, or the things he knows I would find interesting.. I will tell him everything that he asks or I find he would find interesting, though of course not able to describe every detail of my walk outside and I will try not to babble on too much about the TV shows that I sometimes watch but I know he is not as into because they are girly or just not his style. :P But he lets me babble about them if I feel the need, like something really exciting happened or I got reminded of a scene by something we were talking about or something.

Though to categorize what we talk about.. we talk about what we do in a day, what we eat (because we both love food) especially if it's exciting/delicious or different, talk about news articles, talk about major events, if we find out something about a family member or friend we will usually mention it when we remember, though... I just thought of it more... and I think I realize... if my SO ever asked me how my sister is or my parents, I would just say "fine" or "okay" or some other short response, and he would do the same, because even if someone asked me how I was, I wouldn't know what to say, because where do you start? I think the better way is not to ask, or when you ask, expect a one word answer, that's saying they are good but not much new!! It might be different for someone who is super duper close with their family.. . but I don't think it's weird not to talk about your family and friends much.. though it would be a little weird if he never told you anything about them (like if you don't know their names, genders, ages, etc, and if his parents are still together, etc) but let him tell you things when something happens, hopefully good.

Don't stress about what you are or aren't talking about, just talk about things when they come up. And if you are stuck, look up for news articles, things that interest you both or interest your SO so you can talk about them together.

[Luc]

We talk about day to day stuff, common interests, such as music we share, video games we both like and TV shows we both watch, sometimes we talk about the future and what we speculate what it might hold for us, sometimes we talk about private and erotic stuff, such as sex and related topics. We really talk about a lot of things.

The only thing we rarely talk about is politics and political related topics. My SO really isn't the right person to discuss those topics with. I rather talk about those things with my guy friends. Same goes with topics related to women and relationships, I keep those topics for my guy friends, I don't discuss that with my SO.

[Sanja]

We talk about a lot of things but we mostly discuss our future plans together. It is nice to have a SO who is also my best friend.

[Sora1101]

My SO and I usually talk about whats going on at work, what I'm doing at school, we'll talk about books we're reading and shows/movies we've seen recently that we like. We talk about things we want to do when we finally close the distance and then we talk about weird topics like philosophy, religion, politics, psychology etc. etc.

The only time we really talk about family stuff is usually to complain and rant about our respective families. Sometimes he tells me what his parents/siblings are up to but we never really go in depth into personal things. I think we just respect their privacy too much to divulge information that probably isn't meant to be shared.

[NI_USA_love]

Everything, ever. There isn't anything I wouldn't talk about with him, and I would not have it any other way. That being said, to echo what some have said before me, not everyone is comfortable sharing details about the personal lives of their friends or family, and that is okay too. There is plenty of other stuff to talk about.

[François]

With my SO we are talking about all and nothing, how is our days, how we feel, we talk about our family and friends. We also talk often about our future life together, about childs education, witch one of us will move to join the other, ...
Sometimes its difficult to know what about to talk and we just stay on phone for few minutes without saying a word, just hearing each other breathing.
I am not someone who talk a lot but happily my SO usually talk for both of us