Getting married 2years from now? help please.

[nadia.muso]

There is no age to get married. It depends on what you feel for each other and how your relationship goes.

Definitely, if you don't feel that comfortable and see him as a stranger, there is a slight problem.
This step has to be done when both of you are ready to pass it together, ready in terms of stability, work, life and of course feelings.

[kikidee]

I don't think age matters as much as if you are ready. Is it sensible to get married right now? I know my SO and I would be fine getting married in 2 years (if we are still together which I am sure we will be), however what would be the point? We most likely will not be finished with schooling, will not have money to buy a house, and would want to save money for the wedding and honeymoon. However, we plan to be married in 4 or 5 years. xD So 25 may be young to some people as well (however we don't plan to have kids till 28/29), but it all depends on if you are ready, and if it makes sense.

[penelope_20]

I agree, sweetheart. It has nothing to do with your age. I was 30 and was asking the same question about my ex. I agree with squeeker, take your time. If he wants to be with you forever, a few more years won't hurt anything.

Don't worry about what you see going on around you, what your friends are doing, etc. There seems to be some societal pressure when you see others around you "growing up" and doing things you dream of one day doing. The thing you have to remember is you're not them. You're you. You have to live in your body the rest of your life. You might as well enjoy it

Short yet very helpful. Thank you so much i love hearing comments from different people with diff. prespectives. We still have forever to spend our lifetime together. I love it so much. I think i have my final decision.

[penelope_20]

I don't think there is a right age to get married, or an age that's necessarily too young. But if you are asking if it is too young, you probably are not ready.. there is never any harm in taking things slower and waiting. Marriage is a big commitment, so the right time is after you have been together long enough to feel confident you want to spend forever/a very long time with them. There should not be any rush, because like Unconditional had said, if you are going to be forever, there is no rush to get married. Getting married is just like a public declaration of your commitment to each other. You have to determine whether you are ready for that commitment. And it's always better to take things slow rather than rush into things. Good luck with sorting out your thoughts. And also, don't feel bad if you aren't ready, it doesn't mean you don't love him, it just means you are taking the commitment seriously. And especially when you have to get a visa, you want to make sure your relationship is solid, so having more time to solidify your feelings and everything is only a good thing. And just try and visit more before hand.

Thank you so much. I learned a lot from here. You're right im not ready i am just pressured about his proposal that time. Because i want to be sure and i don't want to regret it in the end. Thank you so much..

[penelope_20]

Errr.. did he ask you to marry him and you said yes, or did he say you guys should get married in 2016 and you're wondering if that's a good idea?

Your info says that you guys closed the distance (ie, are together in person) a couple months ago.. are you living in the US now, or is that part a mistake?

Have you been to the US, and specifically to California? Do you have skills that will be helpful in the job search, or is your partner going to be supporting you?

Personally, I think that if you're asking if you should get married, you probably shouldn't.

He asked me to marry him and with the consent of my mother only. And yes we've been seeing each other passing by when he was here in the Philippines. But we started dating when they migrated to California. But ive never been there.
Yes..i am a graduating student in college. I will work there and he will support me at the same time.

[penelope_20]

That's not to young at all I know people who have married at that age and it's been an amazing marriage.
Just see what the future holds for you. Age is just a number when you truly love the person.
People tell me I'm to young cuz I'm getting married at 25 but for me it's. Perfect age

I guess too. But i want my decision to be final. That's why i am seeking help. Thank you

[merlinkitty]

This. If you're asking, you already know the answer.

I agree, sweetheart. It has nothing to do with your age. I was 30 and was asking the same question about my ex. I agree with squeeker, take your time. If he wants to be with you forever, a few more years won't hurt anything.

Don't worry about what you see going on around you, what your friends are doing, etc. There seems to be some societal pressure when you see others around you "growing up" and doing things you dream of one day doing. The thing you have to remember is you're not them. You're you. You have to live in your body the rest of your life. You might as well enjoy it

[squeeker]

I don't think there is a right age to get married, or an age that's necessarily too young. But if you are asking if it is too young, you probably are not ready.. there is never any harm in taking things slower and waiting. Marriage is a big commitment, so the right time is after you have been together long enough to feel confident you want to spend forever/a very long time with them. There should not be any rush, because like Unconditional had said, if you are going to be forever, there is no rush to get married. Getting married is just like a public declaration of your commitment to each other. You have to determine whether you are ready for that commitment. And it's always better to take things slow rather than rush into things. Good luck with sorting out your thoughts. And also, don't feel bad if you aren't ready, it doesn't mean you don't love him, it just means you are taking the commitment seriously. And especially when you have to get a visa, you want to make sure your relationship is solid, so having more time to solidify your feelings and everything is only a good thing. And just try and visit more before hand.

[silvermoonfairy3]

Errr.. did he ask you to marry him and you said yes, or did he say you guys should get married in 2016 and you're wondering if that's a good idea?

Your info says that you guys closed the distance (ie, are together in person) a couple months ago.. are you living in the US now, or is that part a mistake?

Have you been to the US, and specifically to California? Do you have skills that will be helpful in the job search, or is your partner going to be supporting you?

Personally, I think that if you're asking if you should get married, you probably shouldn't.

[itsjen516]

That's not to young at all I know people who have married at that age and it's been an amazing marriage.
Just see what the future holds for you. Age is just a number when you truly love the person.
People tell me I'm to young cuz I'm getting married at 25 but for me it's. Perfect age

[Dezface]

My opinion; if SHE is asking complete strangers if she is TOO YOUNG.....then the answer is YES!

This. If you're asking, you already know the answer.

[TaraMarie]

My opinion; if SHE is asking complete strangers if she is TOO YOUNG.....then the answer is YES!

[Unconditional]

It's no problem, I'm here to help =)
It may be anxious, but it's exciting too, you'll finally be with the one you love!

[penelope_20]

Because we are after of the processing of papers so that i will be petition to go to USA cause it will take a year immediately after the marriage. I am just anxious youre right because of that huge decision in my life as a lady. Thank you so much for making time answering this i owe you a lot.

[Unconditional]

Well, if you are certain you'll be together forever, why rush into marriage? Why not take it slow and savor the courtship? If you'll be together there's no need to rush. However, that being said, you ultimately have to decide if it's best for you.
I'm kind of confused at why you're asking...is it because you're afraid getting married young will hinder the marriage's likelihood of being good? Or are you deep down anxious about such a huge life decision?
Last but not least, in the end you do have to sit down and think about if this is best for you and your relationship.
I assure you, 21 is not too young to make a marriage work, I've seen it done. It comes down to that specific relationship.