Finding a Balance

[BraveTangledPrincess]

I keep having the issue of him coming home and getting distracted by the TV, and taking up skype time. Either he gets caught up before we skype, or during skype. What is the balance between letting him have his TV time and putting my foot down about actually having time (quality time) to skype?

[RachelAnne]

Just ask him if he can schedule certain days to Skype you, without any distractions Or find a time that works good for ya'll, that way he can have his TV time, and you can have personal time to yourself as well. Just communicate with him about days/times that work

[Noodle]

Yes communication is key here. He needs to know that you are bothered by this so you two may work out a solution.

[squeeker]

I think maybe you need to find the days he can have quality time with you without the TV distraction.. if he watches shows every day, maybe he can record some or watch them online later or buy the DVD(s) to watch later. Make sure you talk it out and come up with a plan that is suited to both of your needs.. giving enough quality talking time per week and allowing him to have his TV time. Good luck

[Moon]

How many hours are you expecting to Skype everyday? If it's only an hour or two, tell him to turn his damn TV off! If you're Skyping several hours a day, well, that's different and you both need to learn how to divide your time so you're both happy.

[whatruckus]

Let him know this bothers you! And like everyone else has said, ask him if there's a way you two could maybe schedule some quality time together. :]

Personally, when my boyfriend starts to ignore me when we're chatting on FB (which happens...ALL the time), I tell him. He will usually "disappear," as I call it, for like an hour, or half an hour, in the middle of a conversation because he ends up going downstairs in his house to shoot some darts, and then he comes back to see my message that I'm annoyed with him.

I'm not going to lie though, it might not always work for you, because my boyfriend still does it. -_- But, on the other hand, your SO might be different. Lol.

Definitely let him know this bothers you and you'd like more time with him. :]

[sarahjane1992]

I get your frustration! When my SO and I first started talking, we spent a lot of time together on FaceTime. When I went back to school for the fall semester, we had to adjust our schedules. Especially when I started working too.
Now that we've been together for a good while, there are many times we'll be on FaceTime and be doing our own thing. When there's something important that I need to talk with him about, I make a point and we focus on each other. Sometimes there is a dry spell in the things we talk about and we just enjoy "being" with each other over FaceTime.

I also agree with the other posters. Make a point and let your SO know how you feel. You both have to work around/with your schedules. It is hard to find that balance but it can be done. Good luck!

[AussieAmericanGirl66]

This happens to us on chat all the time, but I'm finally used to the distractions that go along with our LDR. If it isn't his job, or his kids needing attention, it's friends stopping for a visit. Sometimes he gets back with me, sometimes he doesn't. He's good about letting me know if he's going out, and he makes it fun, by sending me photos where he's going, while he's there. Like today he went to a local football game, and sent me photos of the place, and a selfie of him. I'm doing the same thing now, too, with my new phone. It's fun!