I know I could be reading a lot into texts and things because with my last LDR, he ghosted after our first meet, but I'm starting to feel like B isn't as interested as he was. We've been communicating every day for almost 3 months, and this last 2 weeks I've felt that the communication has gotten stale, and he's no longer saying the sweet things he would before, or when I mention something sweet or something about how close the visit is, all I get is crickets or a changed subject. I've called him out on it point blank (like today we were texting and I said, "Do you know what today is?" He said "1week", and I sent him a screenshot of a countdown app I have that showed how many days, hours, etc. I got nothing in return. After about 15 minutes I said, "No excitement? lol" and he replied "Haha Yay! lol" I mentioned it more seriously one day last week that I felt like he was pulling away, and he said that wasn't true, that everything was fine, just to relax. Well, those words are always red flags to me.
I'm frustrated, because I can definitely tell a difference in our communication, and I've asked him about it, and he says nothing's wrong. If I keep pressing, it will irritate him, I'm sure, but we talked early on about how if one of us changed our mind, we needed to be upfront about it so we could keep our friendship, and he agreed.
On Tuesday I was in a minor fender bender, and yesterday I found out that I may not be able to rent out my house due to mortgage restrictions, which would put a crimp in the plan of me moving. I made the mistake of telling him, and now I get the feeling that he's starting to not want to deal with someone who may not be there soon, as was the original plan. He says all is good, but you know how you can just tell when someone's demeanor obviously changes.
I know that all I can do at this point is just try not to worry and just wait to see how things go on our visit, but it's hard to really open up and be yourself when you feel like the ball could drop any minute.
I'm frustrated, because I can definitely tell a difference in our communication, and I've asked him about it, and he says nothing's wrong. If I keep pressing, it will irritate him, I'm sure, but we talked early on about how if one of us changed our mind, we needed to be upfront about it so we could keep our friendship, and he agreed.
On Tuesday I was in a minor fender bender, and yesterday I found out that I may not be able to rent out my house due to mortgage restrictions, which would put a crimp in the plan of me moving. I made the mistake of telling him, and now I get the feeling that he's starting to not want to deal with someone who may not be there soon, as was the original plan. He says all is good, but you know how you can just tell when someone's demeanor obviously changes.
I know that all I can do at this point is just try not to worry and just wait to see how things go on our visit, but it's hard to really open up and be yourself when you feel like the ball could drop any minute.
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