LDR ?

[Chris516]

If a woman definitely wants you to come see her. But when talking on the phone, you are doing most of the talking and she even says she doesn't know what to talk about. My inclination is that she doesn't really want me to come out to see her.

What are other peoples' thoughts'?

https://www.howtogetthewomanofyourdr...in-dating-you/

#'s 1 n' 2 don't apply since we don't text. #3 applies because we have spontaneously called each other. #4 doesn't apply since we are obviously not in the same locale. #5 I have been thinking about doing to see what she is really thinking and what she really wants. #6 I will also skip. #7 She told her grandmother about me. Her grandmother's response was something like 'We will see if he ever shows up'. #8 doesn't apply yet, since we aren't physically together. #'s 9 n' 10 don't apply yet, because of location.

[Zapookie]

Maybe you could try asking her.

[Chillosaurus]

If a woman definitely wants you to come see her. But when talking on the phone, you are doing most of the talking and she even says she doesn't know what to talk about. My inclination is that she doesn't really want me to come out to see her.

What are other peoples' thoughts'?[...]

There might be times where she would like to have you arround and times where she rather wants you to stay away.
What do you mean by the talking part?? I am afraid that you might be projecting your own interest level onto the women. Her not knowing what to talk about is not a very promising sign. If you have any doubts on her attraction towards you, don't go.

[snow_girl]

Maybe you could try asking her.

What?!! Why on earth would he do that?

[Ahava]

What?!! Why on earth would he do that?

LOL
I think we might need a thread for "Is she/he into me?"

[Moon]

LOL
I think we might need a thread for "Is she/he into me?"

Agreed! Then I can avoid these kinds of threads altogether

[TwoThree]

And to think that in the very guidelines of this forum, Michelle said that it is useless to ask "what is he/she thinking? What's going one with them?" because none of us are psychic...

[Chris516]

Maybe you could try asking her.

Done that twice. She said both times. That she wants me to come out to see her. But she also says that she doesn't know what to say on the phone.

There might be times where she would like to have you around and times where she rather wants you to stay away.
What do you mean by the talking part?? I am afraid that you might be projecting your own interest level onto the woman. Her not knowing what to talk about is not a very promising sign. If you have any doubts on her attraction towards you, don't go.

I agree with you, that her not knowing what to talk about is not a promising sign. I am not going any time soon. If at all.

At the same time that I may be projecting my interest. Her ambiguity as to her interest(or lack thereof), is eating at me.

Edit: Maybe she is the type that talks better in person, than on the phone, or online. But that is just a guess.

[CanGirl]

Some people are really bad at talking on the phone. I know I was when I first starting calling with my SO. It's better now but the most we ever talk is probably about an hour and a half. Not much when I hear people saying they talk on the phone for 3 hours but it's enough for us. I hope things change soon and you can get this figured out!

[Chris516]

Some people are really bad at talking on the phone. I know I was when I first starting calling with my SO. It's better now but the most we ever talk is probably about an hour and a half. Not much when I hear people saying they talk on the phone for 3 hours but it's enough for us. I hope things change soon and you can get this figured out!

In my previous LDR. We were on the phone for upwards of six hours. That LDR went on for five years. But the phone conversations lessened in length of time, as time went on.

My present 'situation'(if she doesn't think of it as an LDR) is such that, she sounds overjoyed to hear from me. But I can always hear the television in the background. That is why I want to get out there soon. So I can spend some time with her, to see how things really work.

[differentcountries]

She could be shy or introvert. I don't think I have talked to anyone on the phone 6 hours, ever. Once me and SO Skyped for about 4 hours, that is to us "the time we Skyped all night ". And we really like each other, we just prefer to write more than we talk.

If she sounds thrilled to hear from you and wants a visit, why dont you go?

[Chris516]

She could be shy or introvert. I don't think I have talked to anyone on the phone 6 hours, ever. Once me and SO Skyped for about 4 hours, that is to us "the time we Skyped all night ". And we really like each other, we just prefer to write more than we talk.

If she sounds thrilled to hear from you and wants a visit, why dont you go?

I just have to save up the $(I have almost 50% at this point) for an airplane ticket.

[Elizabeth123]

I am not going any time soon. If at all.

It seems you already may have doubts...

[Chris516]

It seems you already may have doubts...

Not doubts. Just lack of $ for flight. I just hope what 'differentcountries' said, is true.