What may be going on in his head?

[JC2122]

Ive been talking to this man that I met online for the past month we talk every single day off and on. When we first started talking i explained my religious reasons for still being a virgin, he understood because he was practicing my religion for a long time but doesn't presently. I have strong feelings for him, in fact I told him I loved him last week, because it was a reoccurring feeling I couldn't shake, so I just said it. He hasn't said it back but its ok. We were talking about sex again this evening and we were talking about female smells and things and he tells me "luckily you only have one partner, multiple partners makes things insanely bad down there" the thing that caught my attention is that he said I only have one partner...I am a virgin. Does that mean he is thinking of me as being his wife one day? We were talking one day and I said maybe one day we will be married and he said "maybe one day indeed" and I said I think you really like me and he said "I think so too" so is this man considering me as his life partner? when I asked him what he meant by saying I only have one partner he shut down on me so.... what do you all think
Thanks for the help

oh and he is 40 i am 22

[Petals]

Hi,

Try not read too much into what he says. Until he tells you directly that he sees you as his wife someday then don't interpret that from anything else that he says. You have only been communicating for a month, which is not long so just try to get to know him better and not get ahead of yourself. Observe him and see if his actions match up with his words over time, then you will know if YOU see him as a life partner. Right now you are a bit infatuated and don't know enough about him to know if he's right for you.

I can't tell you what's in his head, but he's probably thinking "I like this girl but it's too soon to know if anything serious will develop." One day at a time

All the best!

[rubydissolution]

So obviously you are a virgin waiting for marriage to have sex. Meaning whether its him or another man you will only ever have one partner. I think that's what he meant.

[differentcountries]

He likes you lots, he is not proposing yet. Step back a little, let him get to know you more before you start planning your future.

[Sanja]

You've only been talking for a month. It's too soon to start making plans of that sort.

[rhabdoviridae]

"luckily you only have one partner, multiple partners makes things insanely bad down there"

...um, what? Number of partners doesn't have anything to do with the health or status of your lady parts.

I agree with the others though; it's far too early to be thinking so far ahead.

[Malaga]

"luckily you only have one partner, multiple partners makes things insanely bad down there"

...um, what? Number of partners doesn't have anything to do with the health or status of your lady parts.

I agree with the others though; it's far too early to be thinking so far ahead.

They both sound a bit unhinged tbh.

[Ahava]

"luckily you only have one partner, multiple partners makes things insanely bad down there"

...um, what? Number of partners doesn't have anything to do with the health or status of your lady parts.

Multiple partners actually does increase the risk of catching HPV (human papillomavirus) and thus cervical cancer. A condom doesn't necessarily protect you because it spreads skin on skin.

[rhabdoviridae]

Multiple partners actually does increase the risk of catching HPV (human papillomavirus) and thus cervical cancer. A condom doesn't necessarily protect you because it spreads skin on skin.

My understanding from numerous scientific, peer-reviewed journal articles is that condoms absolutely reduce risk of HPV. Obviously this assumes safe practices at all times, but that's necessary for most aspects of sexual health.