Haven't had the best of luck in having my love gone.. I wasn't so happy to hear about his indiscretion but I have loved him for a long time so I put my hang ups about it away an helped him out with his bills. The day after that he called me once then no calls...no nothing it's been weeks..Then today at the store I went to get something with my kids for our thanks giving meals his family starts yelling at me.....I didnt even know what to say... I don't know what he is telling them but wow I feel like a villian...I just feel alone....
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I am not sure I understand your post, I am sorry that you feel disconnected and are having family issues. Many of the people in these forums have bee through family issues also and had a successful relationship regardless. If there is something specific you want to ask us, then feel free to share. We are here to help. -
I just feel well ashamed of feeling so alone.. I don't understand why. Im not allowed friends or to go to family because he don't want me to..I've read something's he wrote about me on his Facebook such as how no one helps him.. So I can understand how I'm seen as a villain.. But when i asked him about this be just said its nothing..so in light of that he said to turn off Facebook .It's just I feel so betrayed by his actions lately I'm lost.. I know at least once a month I will get a call because he wants money which I don't mind I love him so much I always will. But I really need him somedays are harder than others... But I can't tell him that cause he says I'm selfish.. I can't tell him I love him cause he says I'm making it harder for him ... It's just what can I do are there limits.. Should their be?Comment
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Limits? Yes, there are Limits!!
They start the Moment anyone forbids you to have friends or to go see family! They go on where he calls once a month and needs Money and at the same time basically shuts you off when you need him for Support.
Why do you let him treat you like this?
To be honest, from what you write in here and in your other thread in "International" I do not get the Feeling that this relationship is balanced at all.
Maybe I don't understand true love or the concept of loving someone, but what your SO is showing you there isn't true love.
If my SO would not allow me to have friends or go see my Family, I would hex him into oblivion within a heartbeat.happiness can be found in the darkest of places, if only you remember to turn on the lightComment
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Stop giving him money...money that should be put away for your children's future. You cannot buy love.Met Online : July 2013
Met in person : April - May 2014 (3 wks)
2nd visit : June - August 2014 (2 months)
3rd visit : December - Jan (2wks)
Proposal : December 2014
Closed distance : February 2015
Married : April 5, 2015
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Is he saying you should not keep bad friends, or No friends at all? I think you know the last is wrong....I made love to him only twice, she thought and looked at the man laying asleep beside her. And yet still it is as if we have been together forever, as if he has always known my life, my soul, my body, my light, my pain
- Paulo Coelho, "Eleven minutes"
"Bız yüzyılın aşkı vardır" - We have dated since Sept. 2013. To see our full story, click here https://members.lovingfromadistance....and-our-visitsComment
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If he seriously forbids you to lead the life you want, then that's a big red flag. He has no right to tell you not to see your friends or family. I'm not one to jump the gun, but that kinda thing is the hallmark of an abuser. You should seriously re-evalute this relationship. He has no right to run your life.
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It'll take a lot more than words and guns
A whole lot more than riches and muscle
The hands of the many must join as one
And together we'll cross the riverComment
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I also wonder if your SO has mental problems that he doesn't receive help for. If so, it can destroy him, your relationship and you. If you love him, you want him to be the best version of yourself. If you love yourself, ask if exchanging your former life with just staying with him and his family has brought happiness and meaning to your life and the lives of your children.I made love to him only twice, she thought and looked at the man laying asleep beside her. And yet still it is as if we have been together forever, as if he has always known my life, my soul, my body, my light, my pain
- Paulo Coelho, "Eleven minutes"
"Bız yüzyılın aşkı vardır" - We have dated since Sept. 2013. To see our full story, click here https://members.lovingfromadistance....and-our-visitsComment
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You really ought to drop this guy off at the curb where garbage belongs.
It feels like he's using you for money, and he's manipulating your good nature and genuine feelings for him in order to get it. Furthermore, he's controlling and emotionally abusive. You can't even TALK to him, because you're afraid/already know how he's going to react. There is absolutely NO reason anyone worth having would ever treat you the way he's treating you. You deserve to have friends, you deserve to be able to enjoy a holiday with your family, and you deserve to to have someone who is going to love you and regard you as the incredible, loving person that you are instead of malign you as the villain you're not. There's no love coming from his end if this is how he treats you. You deserve much better than this, and you absolutely will find someone better than this.
There is something very wrong in a relationship if you find yourself perpetually walking on eggshells in order to keep everything complacent. There's something very wrong in a relationship when he only really talks to you when he wants money, and doesn't even pretend to care about anything else. I understand you love him dearly, but you need to also love yourself, and love yourself enough to know that you need to walk away. You owe him nothing.
Just get rid of him. Broken hearts heal.
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Aaaaaahhh I sooo agree!!! WTH??.... And why would his family be snapping at you??... Can we say dysfunctional??... You may be lonely now, but these are all serious warning signs if not stop signs!! Anyone who tries to forbid you from seeing and communicating with the people who love you have serious insecurities... It has nothing to do with anything you have done, or haven't done.... Try to remember when one door closes, another opens.. My suggestion??.. Close this one and move on... Take care...Comment
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