90 day fiancé

[abc123]

This question is for Americans: do you guys watch this? What do you think? I love Amy, but Danielle makes me cringe

[Sarah96]

I secretly love that show lol but I'm so far behind!! I need to watch it but I've been so busy with studying and doing homework I haven't had time. I'm definitely going to watch all the episodes I have missed during the weekend so I can catch up. My boyfriend made fun of me when I told him I watched it lol... although I think there are times when people that are not familiar with LDR's may only see the show as the whole "mail order bride/groom" thing, they don't see that they are real relationships, so that's one of the problems I have with it.

[mllebamako]

This is definitely a guilty-pleasure of mine! And I love reading these hilarious recaps after watching. I appreciate that season 2 has a few couples where the immigrant is male, unlike season 1 where they were all female.

Love Amy and wish she would run away from that weird new family she's marrying into I liked Chelsea in the beginning but I think it's pretty selfish of her to not want them to move to Chicago, where he would have a better chance of a music career. (Disclaimer: I haven't watched this week's episode yet so I don't know if these things have changed). I really like Evelin but am not a big fan of her fiancé. I mean, he didn't tell his family and then he was surprised that they weren't full of congratulations? Although his sis-in-law took it way too far! And Mohammed/Danielle, I can't even comment on this trainwreck.

Okay...I'm obviously way too into this show! Off to watch this week's episode!

[differentcountries]

I liked the 1st season and I might give season 2 a go, too!

[lucybelle]

I can't get into it. I hate so much the premise of "deciding if you want to marry in 90 days". That's not how it works. So I can't even bring myself to watch.

[mllebamako]

I can't get into it. I hate so much the premise of "deciding if you want to marry in 90 days". That's not how it works. So I can't even bring myself to watch.

This is what I originally thought too. But, to be honest, that IS how it works for a lot of people. I think of many of the couples I see on VisaJourney and there are people who met their SO online or abroad and spent a very short amount of in-person time together but end up doing the K1 visa because they don't have the option or don't want to go live abroad in their SOs country. What I like about Season 2 is that 1 of the couples isn't that way...it's a girl (USC) who was living in Nicaragua doing volunteer work and lived with her fiancé before moving back to the US. Also, half of the couples met in person while traveling abroad while the other half met online.

Anywho, I think a lot of people who do the K1 visa are more like these couples we see on this show. They meet (online or while traveling abroad), spend a few weeks together (spread out over several trips), have tons of online communication, and end up doing the k1 because it's their only option.

[dizzyupthemeg]

This is definitely a guilty-pleasure of mine! And I love reading these hilarious recaps after watching.

These recaps are going to make watching the show totally wrote it!


I watch the show, but it annoys me On some level. I think I'm just jealous because Canada doesn't do a fiance visa, so I'm married and still waiting to live with my husband while these people aren't even sure they want to get married.

[differentcountries]

Some people might actually have the feel of "deciding in 90 days if they should get married", or for others they already totally decided forhand but perhaps never got the uppertunity to spend as much as 90 days together in either country and also do a major part of the wedding preperations in that time. I think the show spins on the dramatic elements, but sure life has some dramatic elements on his own. It is not easy learning another culture, and to do that proper you really have to spend a big ammount of time in the country, or otherwise have tons of conversations about things you would otherwise just experience (but having them happen live is stil a different matter). I still feel I haven't been to Turkey long enough/enough visits to really get to know his world (perhaps because I have been in his home town only once). He hasn't until now been allowed to come to my country. A lot of the dilemmas on the show are pretty real if a big enchanced. I would love to know more in-debth about each couple, but then I guess they would have to structure the show differently and also show more about the meets/communication uptil the 90 day visa. What I like most about the show is that it really shows that it is hard for "normal" people to understand LD. The show is not perfect, but it is not half bad.

[Petals]

This is what I originally thought too. But, to be honest, that IS how it works for a lot of people. I think of many of the couples I see on VisaJourney and there are people who met their SO online or abroad and spent a very short amount of in-person time together but end up doing the K1 visa because they don't have the option or don't want to go live abroad in their SOs country. What I like about Season 2 is that 1 of the couples isn't that way...it's a girl (USC) who was living in Nicaragua doing volunteer work and lived with her fiancé before moving back to the US. Also, half of the couples met in person while traveling abroad while the other half met online.

Anywho, I think a lot of people who do the K1 visa are more like these couples we see on this show. They meet (online or while traveling abroad), spend a few weeks together (spread out over several trips), have tons of online communication, and end up doing the k1 because it's their only option.

This trivial notion of the fiance visa process and relationships that begin online are the reasons I dislike this show. Meeting your partner online or while traveling abroad does not diminish the quality of a relationship over people who are CD. Most people who apply for a fiance visa have already decided that they are getting married and the 90 days is not to decide whether to marry. The 90 days to give you enough time to plan your wedding and make the necessary applications for the next step in the visa process. People do need time to a plan a proper wedding.

The show eliminates all the paperwork and proof that you have to submit to prove to immigration that you have a genuine relationship. Immigration does not issue a visa if they believe you are unsure about the decision to marry.

Argghh... this show pisses me off!

[snow]

I can't get into it. I hate so much the premise of "deciding if you want to marry in 90 days". That's not how it works. So I can't even bring myself to watch.

I haven't watched it yet, but since I've been through the hassle of this visa process, I simply can't watch something that simplifies it to "decide if you want to get married in 90 days".

[lucybelle]

I haven't watched it yet, but since I've been through the hassle of this visa process, I simply can't watch something that simplifies it to "decide if you want to get married in 90 days".

This is how I feel about it. I went through so much damn work for our visa the near notion of only giving half the story drives me mad. I know there are couples who use the 90 days to decide, I know there are couples who marry only to get to the USA, but it's those couples who make it so damn hard for the rest of us! So I don't like it.

But I've also never seen the show, just judging the book by its cover.

[differentcountries]

None of the couples in the first season used the 90 days to decide. Sure they had some doubts along the way, especially those meeting their future inlaws and future new country for the first time, experiencing lots of culture crashes and suspiciuos friends /family, but they came to marry, they all left their jobs etc and brought enough stuff to live there. Several people were homesick or felt alone without their family and close friends, or it was difficult for the partner to se them change to try to fit in. The title doesn't cover what it is all about.

[vicks5721]

I watched some this show to see how it would work out for some of the couples and I watched it for a while, my take on it is it makes things dramatic on the show and I felt like some of the people were just marrying the american so they can live there and I felt like their attitudes needed an adjustment, also I felt sorry for the women who felt unwelcome, and I think it was very strange that one guy didn't tell his family about his fiance until she came, also I felt bad for the mum of three teenagers in her 40s, I felt like the guy meant well but no real connection between the couple, unless he had culture shock. The other one I remember was the girl who's fiance is from Nigauria, that the manager of the pop band was really rude and unreasonable. I have stopped watching the tv show now as I don't like the way the show makes LDR's look bad to people who have never been in one.

[Riyko]

I watch this show, it's okay but I also don't like a lot of the couples, here's my opinions on the couples so far. Jason and Cassia, she's just a very controlling person seriously telling him having playboy magazine in the house isn't okay yet she was snooping through this stuff while he was gone and then saying he can't have a bachelor party because it'll be in vegas with strippers and as she says prostitutes, plus not even sure if she was going to meet him in Rio. Justin and Evelin While he should of told his family he had a fiance in the end it's his life and his choice, I don't like his sister in law jen though. I can see them lasting, but not sure for how long. Danny and Amy cute couple I can also see them lasting for a while, but his dad not accepting her could be what ends the relationship. Mohammed and Danielle, won't work out he's too worried about her money situation and is only with her for a green card, he says she's just acceptable for him and then gets mad at her telling her he lost everything to be with her, if it works out he seems like the abusive type. Brett and Daya I couldn't stand Daya from the day they showed her, the flowers were wrong, the diamond might be fake. She seems like she's in it for the green card and that's it. Chelsea and Yamir Can't stand Chelsea while the manager of Mala Vox wasn't very nice to her, it also wasn't right she made him leave what he loved doing and that was singing and now she's being very selfish for not even wanting to move to Chicago for him to get his music career going when she even said she'd support him and his music career in the US 100%. I can see them getting married but not lasting if she won't get over herself and make a sacrifice for him (he sacrificed his music career to move to the US to be with her).

[CynicalQuixotic]

This show is my ultimate, horrible, shameful guilty pleasure. I LOVE IT. I mean, I hate it, but I love it. A certain member on here that I will not name as to keep her reputation untarnished and I keep a running commentary by Facebook message. My (completely random, very tongue-in-cheek) verdicts:

Jason and Cassia
Cassia is immature and controlling, but I can't help but feel for her. You're stuck with a guy with major child molester vibes who still lives with his dad in cultural wasteland Florida and who tells you that people don't wear bikinis in America. Yeah, no. She'll move to New York as soon as her US residency is secured and end up working at a coffee shop somewhere when her "modeling" career falls through. She'll share an apartment in Queens with Amy until she meets a rich investment banker that she accidentally spills coffee on. Luckily, it was lukewarm (Cassia was never a very good barista), and he will fall for her charm. He will use his money and influence to push through her divorce with Jason, because she somehow had forgotten that they were only separated.

Justin and Evelin
Controlling, sexist, womanizer creep with genuinely normal woman who he does not deserve. Why else would he not want to introduce her to his family? He didn't even ask her if he wanted to elope. They'll divorce after having exactly one child. Evelin will set up a successful dance studio in SoCal, and her son will get very into tap-dancing to spite his douchebro father. Evelin and Martha will talk regularly on Facebook.

Danny and Amy
Danny and Amy will divorce amicably when Danny comes out in 5-10 years. Amy and Cassia will move into an apartment in Queens. They'll bicker, as Cassia is a neat-freak and Amy grew up a tiny bit coddled due to Only Child Syndrome, but they'll make up quickly and bake cookies together. Amy will become an atheist and study international law. After Cassia marries her investment banker, she'll move in with her boyfriend Arthur, who wears glasses and plays the upright bass in an acid jazz band. They will very cheerfully refuse to marry. She and Danny will be on Christmas card terms for the rest of their lives. Arthur is cool about this.

Mohammed and Danielle
I can't even snark on this. We all know how this is going to end, folks.

Brett and Daya
Brett and Daya will be mostly happy together. Daya will take classes to become a jeweler and open her own store, "Only Real Diamonds Please". Cassidy will spend her summers working in the shop, and though her relationship with her stepmother will always be friendly-with-a-side-of-occasional-arguments, Cassidy will become a dedicated socialist, rolling her eyes every time she pronounces her mother's name. "Chanel. Can you get any more consumerist?" Brett will giggle nervously throughout all of this. The two elderly lesbian roommates will make frequent appearances. Sue side-eyes Daya every chance she gets.

Chelsea and Yamir
Chelsea will work at a small organic food and cosmetics store in Chicago, eventually inheriting the business when its elderly, childless proprietor dies. Yamir will make an attempt to break into the latin music scene, and will release a series of (very) mildly successful album, of which his most successful will be "Check It Out!" Yamir supplements his income working at a record store, and will always look back on his days in Myla Vox and Chelsea's involvement in his leaving the group with the tiniest bit of resentment, but not enough to do anything about it. Chelsea will make her own kombucha and hum a lot, oblivious. They will have several children with names like Echo and Zephyr.