Embarrassed by your LDR?

[FloridaLovesChicago]

Let me start off by saying that I am in no way embarrassed by my relationship - but I have been asked if I am.

While discussing my love with an old friend I hadn't seen in a while, she of course asked how we met. I proceeded to tell her that we met on Xbox live in 2012 and from there, it's all history. She thought that was really weird and told me that if she was me that she would make up some other story to tell people. Like we met when he was in town on a business trip or something. I just kinda laughed it off and said "yeah, probably easier explaining things that way". But I would never do that. I love that we found love in such a place. We are both avid gamers and it's great knowing we have that in common, and it's what brought up together! If I didn't play video games, I wouldn't have met Kris and wouldn't be madly in love...so no, I won't be making up another story to tell people just so they don't judge me. Judge away...I'm probably in a happier/healthier relationship than 75% of the people I know.

I'm curious...Anyone else ever deal with this situation? Or ARE you embarrassed to explain your LDR to people?

[whatruckus]

I'm not embarrassed anymore. At first, I was, because we met on a dating site. But, now, it's so common that people are like, "OMG good for you!!!" Or, "Those things really work?! Maybe I should try..."

[Miasmata]

My SO and I met on a My Little Pony forum. I'm not embarassed by that at all, but he is, at least in front of his family. They are pretty oldfashioned and would scoff at him for liking something intended for girls. To them, we just say we met on a dating site. Once we live together and they visit us, though, they'll just have to deal with pony posters and plushies Friends don't think it's stupid or embarassing though, so that's all good.

[differentcountries]

We didn't meet online, we met at his workplace when I was travelling there. However, there are some friends who think it is weird that we got attracted without talking much together. And with him declearing boldly towards my whole travel group that I would date him! I guess sometimes you just know. I usually just say we met on holiday. I am not ashamed of anything, exept perhaps that I went on dates as the leader of the group which was bordering unprofessional, but I think I was pretty descreet about it.

[douglas2275]

I would not say I am embarrassed but at the same time I have a hard time explaining how I met her (group messaging app). My family and friends are very conservative Christians and they do not all approve of the structure of my relationship or how it started. They view me as "going through a stage". I know I am being judged for my decision to continue this relationship. But honestly, I really don't care. I know I am making the right choice, we belong together. I'm not going to deny this relationship, we may have a less then ideal starting or distance between us, but I love her. These things are a part of OUR story and I would not change them. They make us who we are and that is enough for me.

[Unicorn26]

I met my guy through a Facebook page, we have the same breed of dog and I admired his dog one day and that's what got us talking. We discovered we had a freaky amount in common and are practically the same age, just a few weeks between us. We would joke we must have been twins in a previous life because we often think the same thing at the same time or text each other at the same time. We were just friends for a long time, I think we were both in denial as a LDR was not what either of us were looking for, neither of us really believed you could fall in love with someone you never met, but eventually we did admit our feelings...

It's been a long road, we are still yet to meet in person but something my SO always says is that we went into this "ass backwards" (I love that term) and we got to know each other inside first. Tbh we didn't really find each other that attractive, but now I think he's soooo hot and he thinks the same of me too. We swoon like teenagers at each other when we FaceTime, it's really quite pathetic as we are both 41 haha! I just hope there's chemistry when we do finally meet in person. If not, I know I have a friend for life in him. Whatever happens, we met for a reason and we will always have that solid friendship. I know that for sure.

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, it's your life, your relationship. As long as you're both happy, it's no one else's business. Don't be embarrassed. The world is changing and people meet in different ways now, it's not always a bad thing. I found out all sorts of things from my SO that would have been difficult to talk about face to face but writing it down or texting it is easier. Personally I feel closer to my SO than I ever did to my (ex) husband.

[Sarah96]

I guess since I still have my awkward teenage moments, there are times when people ask and I do kinda worry about what they will say in reaction to me telling them we met on a forum. I'm not embarrassed by how we met or that we're in a long distance relationship or that he's slightly older than me. None of that is embarrassing, I'm just an awkward person at times and when people react negatively to it I usually don't know how to respond and it upsets me. I know I'll eventually grow out of it since I don't really worry about what people say or think anymore, but there are times when people say things that are mean or hurtful that I just can't ignore and get over them easily.

[itsjen516]

My husband and I met in Disney world . Some people give me a weird look cuz they think we met while waiting in line for some ride but we both worked there became ffriends and now are married

[jennaygump92]

Good! Dont make up another story to tell people. People who havent been in a LDR dont understand and therefore are too quick to judge. And i feel the same way about how im probably in a much happier and healthier relationship than most in person relationship that i know of! I met my SO in Guild Wars 2. Its very nice having something to do that you both know the other loves.

[Petals]

I met my SO online and I am not the least bit ashamed of that. Our love story is already a great one and it will be even greater as we take the next step. One day, I imagine us telling our children how we connected over 10000 miles between us and survived 14- 16 + hrs time difference and watch their faces light up with wonder.

[R&R]

We've never hidden how we met. We met on meetme.com when it was myyearbook. I don't even remember how the conversation started - I just knew he had a lot of women vying for his attention and I wasn't going to be one of them. It turned out he didn't want someone who would just fall all over him but instead wanted a friendship first and it went from there.

The first time I flew to him was on Valentine's Day. Our waitress was like "wow, you two are a couple in love". She asked how long we'd been together and how we met. It was fun explaining that it was our first meeting, that we'd only been together in person for less than an hour at that point and it was a LDR. She thought it was great. My friends and family are very accepting of the relationship and my SO.

[dizzyupthemeg]

Not only did we meet online but we met online through my ex boyfriend. It's a rather long, confusing story for most. I go back and forth depending on who I am explaining the situation to. Sometimes I say "we met online." Sometimes it is "we met through my ex." I have no shame in either, and I have found that most people don't care how we met and are more interested in the fact that we talked for almost 10 years before we got serious with each other.

[snow]

I was never really ashamed of it, but I knew that my family would not understand it if I told them. They joked about it when I did, but now I simply say we met online through a video game whenever someone asks and I usually get weird looks when I explain that the game was "Zombie Panic" haha

[FloridaLovesChicago]

I guess I just expect people to be more accepting of it. Especially nowadays where it's so common to meet someone online, etc. But I do realize people are judgmental of things they do not understand so if they haven't been through it, I can see them being negative. I'm just a very accepting person I suppose, and I have a hard time with people not being the same way. All I know is that I wouldn't trade my relationship for anything, and I've never been more excited for my future than I am now. Because he's in it. Even if we did meet shooting people in the face, online, while probably screaming obscenities at our televisions

[Lostviolinist]

A little. I kind of expect people to be skeptical about us. Especially since we haven't met in person. But if the topic comes up, I'll usually be honest about it. Most of the people I told were actually pretty supportive, so I guess I just hang around nice people. haha. I feel that once we meet and things become much more concrete, I'll actually be proud that we could have made it work and would happily tell people that we met online on opposite ends of the world.