how to deal with a break?

[maja]

We are on a break.
We had long conversation about our relationship and where we stand at this point in life.
We both came to the conclusions that none of us can do this any longer the way things are right now, such as my constant bad mood and my puking whenever i feel bad, if i or how he didnt at all seem to care about me when i was sick, how we never really fight and jist hold in everything and how thats created an emotional distance and some other stuff.
I dont know how it came up but we ended up deciding to take 2 weeks break to then see how we feel about this relationship after having so much time to think.
I didnt wanna set a rule that forbids me to talk to him every once in a while cos i do still care about him and wanna know hes alright. So far so so good.
This all sounds really calm and reasonable, i suppose, i just wanna start thinking about it all right now, cos i really really cant stand it i dont know how to deal with this ive been crying ever since we ended the call without saying "i love you" to each other and i cant focus on anything, no matter how hard i try, i was crying the whole night and even in school the whole time
Has anyone ever experienced a long distance break?
If so, how did you deal with this?

Id be glad abput any advice given, i really dont know how to deal with this and cant do 2 weeks of this
Im so scared this is gonna ruin us

[Jovan]

I know how you feel right now because my SO has been 'leaved' me before. I can't give any good advise. I'm so sorry for you. Just be strong and stay positive. Right now, i had also been thinking wanna keep distance and keep gap with my SO. She is now in Germany for Exhibition. Our problem is kind of similar thou...

[noodle]

I had a similiar situation a few weeks ago. I cried so much I couldnt take it, I cant remember feelin such a pain inside my chest.
I can say that I was lost completely I didnt know what to think, say, feel, do, whatever, it didnt matter. My SO noticed that (he already saw me cry on cam) and he said that he couldnt take it leavin me cause he just loves me too much. So we basically decided to not take a break but to calm down a lil, focuse on school, friends, family and all that.
And its workin again.
Its good that you guys talked about it and Im sorry that it had to come this far but maybe it was needed. Just try to distract yourself. If you dont feel like goin outside than let friends come over. Or do things with your family, just anythin. Distraction is the best I guess you can do right now.
All the best *hugs*

[LadyMarchHare]

I think right now you need to focus on yourself and who you are as a person with and without him. At least for the first week or the first few days. The next week write down what bothered you about your relationship and see if you can come up with solutions yourself, or maybe do a pros and cons list of being with him, see which side is bigger. But don't let this stress you out, it doesn't mean he's gone forever. You guys need individual time to salvage your love.

[sameboip]

I am in this situation right as of this morning I don't know what to do! She suggested that we go on a 'break' but still wants to keep in contact as she doesn't want to lose me as a friend. I thought that just sounds like were already broken up for good and I told her that I think we should have a few days without contact just to see how we feel. I really feel your pain and hope that you can talk out your problems after the break as I think that is the only way to solve the situation for good. Good luck.

[Kirschlein]

Uh, i am so happy that ,when me and my SO decided to take a break, we both couldn't even take it to think about it more. We both cried and said we don't want this. I guess already at that time we realised how much worth we are for eachother.
If it would have really happened, then i would have focussed on the important things, even though my concentration is dead by those thoughts. What i learned is, that friends can always make you feel better by distracting you. And besides that you should focus on what you miss and think what you did wrong. Write it up and when you talk again to your SO tell him those things and also ask him what he realised. And who knows, maybe he can't take it either and he will come back again and say, lets stop this.

I wish you much luck.

[Karringtyn]

I think right now you need to focus on yourself and who you are as a person with and without him. At least for the first week or the first few days. The next week write down what bothered you about your relationship and see if you can come up with solutions yourself, or maybe do a pros and cons list of being with him, see which side is bigger. But don't let this stress you out, it doesn't mean he's gone forever. You guys need individual time to salvage your love.

ABSOLUTELY.

I really think taking a step back will do you both a lot of good. While loving someone fully is wonderful....you shouldn't be getting sick either....I wish you the best and blog about this...and vent...we are ALL here to listen...we understand..

[Silviar]

I think right now you need to focus on yourself and who you are as a person with and without him. At least for the first week or the first few days. The next week write down what bothered you about your relationship and see if you can come up with solutions yourself, or maybe do a pros and cons list of being with him, see which side is bigger. But don't let this stress you out, it doesn't mean he's gone forever. You guys need individual time to salvage your love.

Completely agreed. I understand crying, and it's ok to give yourself a little time to cry. but you need to pick yourself up, evaluate yourself and see how you are feeling as an individual for the next two weeks. Now's a good time to really think about what you liked and didn't like, and if there are things you'd like to do to make things better, or if it's better to be apart. A two week evaluation break doesn't mean the end - it's an opportunity to make things better. Use it.

[paulawriteslove]

I think that this time is YOU time. Spend the time on yourself. This break must have happened for a reason and crying isn't going to fix it. I think that you need to pick yourself up and figure out your feelings. These 2 weeks can help make your relationship stronger! Take advantage of them Best of luck!! *hugs*