This could get a bit long, but will condense as best I can!
I met a guy online in July and though he lives 2 hours away (which I know isn't anything really) we talked and talked and eventually met up.
He was unemployed when we met but has since started a new job (and they're messing about his pay and paid for less than half the shifts he's worked) so I travel the couple of hours to see him once every 3-4 weeks due to his finances, however he has said in the last couple of weeks he'd like to visit me in the new year. I have a young son so I tie it in with when he stays with his dad at weekends.
My choice is to stay in a hotel as he lives with his 2 brothers, but he's never introduced or mentioned to introduce me to his family at all. He is a Christian man so has asked if we can wait for us to be too intimate until we are staying at mine, as I live alone and we won't be disturbed, and not in a hotel. I am happy with this as I've been hurt before in physical relationships and happy to take it slow- he knows this.
We are dating exclusively, yet when I referred to us (without thinking) as in a relationship he replied 'the relationship eh? ' and it wasn't mentioned again.
He has told me I'm very special to him, that he wants to visit and that he thinks our interactions could go far, by which he elaborated by 'far' he meant far into the future. So it's all good I feel.
We spoke last night (Xmas night) for 2 and a half hours on the phone, having texted most of the day. I mentioned I may be able to see him tomorrow (27th) and he said it was such short notice, and he seemed surprised. I've since called that plan off as I'm poorly.
There are so many good things that make me feel positive about us, but I need some frank advice. I know there is an issue with money for him at the moment, but I've had a couple of people say I'm doing too much and he isn't. He is a lovely man, and I really care about him, and know it's only early days, but wondered if anyone in the same boat has had this kind of uncertainty around 4/5 months?
I know 2 hours isn't far and in the new year am hoping we both have proper schedules so we can work out proper visits and such, but I'm feeling a little uncertain about it all and would love to get another take on it.
Thanks for reading- I know that's a crazy long post!!
I met a guy online in July and though he lives 2 hours away (which I know isn't anything really) we talked and talked and eventually met up.
He was unemployed when we met but has since started a new job (and they're messing about his pay and paid for less than half the shifts he's worked) so I travel the couple of hours to see him once every 3-4 weeks due to his finances, however he has said in the last couple of weeks he'd like to visit me in the new year. I have a young son so I tie it in with when he stays with his dad at weekends.
My choice is to stay in a hotel as he lives with his 2 brothers, but he's never introduced or mentioned to introduce me to his family at all. He is a Christian man so has asked if we can wait for us to be too intimate until we are staying at mine, as I live alone and we won't be disturbed, and not in a hotel. I am happy with this as I've been hurt before in physical relationships and happy to take it slow- he knows this.
We are dating exclusively, yet when I referred to us (without thinking) as in a relationship he replied 'the relationship eh? ' and it wasn't mentioned again.
He has told me I'm very special to him, that he wants to visit and that he thinks our interactions could go far, by which he elaborated by 'far' he meant far into the future. So it's all good I feel.
We spoke last night (Xmas night) for 2 and a half hours on the phone, having texted most of the day. I mentioned I may be able to see him tomorrow (27th) and he said it was such short notice, and he seemed surprised. I've since called that plan off as I'm poorly.
There are so many good things that make me feel positive about us, but I need some frank advice. I know there is an issue with money for him at the moment, but I've had a couple of people say I'm doing too much and he isn't. He is a lovely man, and I really care about him, and know it's only early days, but wondered if anyone in the same boat has had this kind of uncertainty around 4/5 months?
I know 2 hours isn't far and in the new year am hoping we both have proper schedules so we can work out proper visits and such, but I'm feeling a little uncertain about it all and would love to get another take on it.
Thanks for reading- I know that's a crazy long post!!
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