Relationship gets wrose when apart

[innocentbutterfly]

Youre together only 7 months and already have issues like that. Usually if after 6 months u already get problems like this id think this guy is not serious about you. Im sorry. But if ull keep pushing just because u dont wanna give up later ull be just more hurt. If u cant find the same levels even now i dont wanna imagine how it would would be 2 years down into marriage

[Ejoriah]

I'm not in an LDR anymore but my SO pretty much does not get in touch with me very much when we're not together - and that includes whole days/weeks when he is working out of town. Funnily enough, after almost a year of dating, he's finally getting to the point where he checks his phone more often and actually tries to get in touch more, after I told him many times how I felt, seemingly to no avail.

I guess what I'm saying is that some people just don't carry their phones/check them all the time and don't understand the need some of us have for more regular communication.

[TaraMarie]

Face it.. LDR's are hard. We see each other almost every weekend, FaceTime daily, talk on the phone everyday, and text all day long. But there are times when I just have too many things to do and don't want to talk. When you are together, silence is ok, BECAUSE you are together. In a LDR, you automatically assume there is a problem, or he doesn't care. It's the nature of the beast, and it's hard. But it is what it is. Take it one day at a time. If it's meant to be, it will be.

[AussieAmericanGirl66]

Slow down! What is the hurry? If you are still in high school, have only been in a LDR for 7 months, and are having communication issues like this, you need to slow down, step back, live your own lives, and use your LDR to get to know each other better. For you to have any hope of a long-term relationship, which normally is the idea behind a LDR, you need to learn to compromise, even if one of you has to lose a little sleep over it, or change priorities a bit. And to keep yourself from getting depressed and making yourself crazy, as can happen, you need to make your own life a priority, too... finish your education, get a good job, start planning for your future, and have fun with friends, family, hobbies, etc.

[Cristiana]

Slow down! What is the hurry? If you are still in high school, have only been in a LDR for 7 months, and are having communication issues like this, you need to slow down, step back, live your own lives, and use your LDR to get to know each other better. For you to have any hope of a long-term relationship, which normally is the idea behind a LDR, you need to learn to compromise, even if one of you has to lose a little sleep over it, or change priorities a bit. And to keep yourself from getting depressed and making yourself crazy, as can happen, you need to make your own life a priority, too... finish your education, get a good job, start planning for your future, and have fun with friends, family, hobbies, etc.

I already do this, being in a LDR doesnt mean I cant live my own life, indeed, I truly believe that this is the positive side of a LDR: being able to live your own life as hobbies, friends, family, study, more widely being apart from your SO.
This is not something about going fast/slowing down, is something that has to do with my character that sometimes gets really paranoid or sad without meaningful reasons.

Anyway the first week after he goes away is always like this. I can see how these days he writes to me in the morning and during the day. He has a different reaction to our parting, and these are his times. I guess I just have to respect them.