My Story :/

[Nashaelid96]

Hi, I'm Nashaelid! I'm 18 years old; a senior in high school. I've had many relationships in the past but nothing like this one. I met my boyfriend Chance threw Facebook. I've been with my Chance for about 5 months now; about to be 6. When we first started talk I lived up in Massachusetts; he live in Florida which was 1,000 miles apart. We talked for a little and then made it "Facebook official" (July 18, 2014). I went down to Florida that same month with my uncle, aunt, and 2 cousins! While I was down there I was always texting him, even when I didn't have time to! At that time he smoked weed, drank alcohol, and partied really late. One day I went to Disney world, Epcot, and Hollywood studios with my uncle's family and I got a call from him that he was arrested! I started crying and panicking. After he told me what happened and how he was illegally searched, he told me that he had weed on him but the police couldn't find it; he ended up giving it to them and the police was proud! Anyways before all that happened I got into an arguement with my bestfriend from Massachusetts! She was telling me I was choosing guys over her and that I'm fake and talk shit about her! I ended off telling her off because of the fact that she was disrespecting me. We are no longer friends and I promised myself I would never be friends with someone like that again(didn't go into too much detail). Threw all that my boyfriend was always comforting my and making me feel better. He helped me get threw one of the hardest moments of my life.(back to his arrest) after he was arrested he went to court; we were both worried he would get time. He got probation, community service, and has to pay 150 dollars I believe plus an essay. We were relieved! At that point I had gotten back to Massachusetts after being in Florida for a month; and things were going good! I was falling in love with him; he was so kind and sweet, he always knew the right thing to say. He did get me mad at points but we always talked it out! He was so into music as am I but he wants to become a rapper! He is affraid I would be a distraction but I told him all I want to do is support him and help him. (He's really good) I was in Massachusetts for about 2 months when my parents said we were moving to Florida! I had a choice to go down or stay! At that point I seeked the oppurtunity of being closer to him! ( at this point we were 3 months) So I moved down to Clearwater, FL; he lives in Palm-River, FL. Which is about 30-45 minutes away. I haven't gotten to see him! So when I moved down I thought maybe I'll be able to see him now that I'm closer; I was wrong! A month passed and I didn't see him! I asked him to come over he said he it was a lil far but one day he will. (At this point he has been clean from drugs for 4 months) I asked to buy him a Christmas present and he says no. He didn't want anything! That made me kinda sad. He didn't get anything from his parents because they didn't have the money so I feel bad! His birthdays coming up and so is Valentines and I'm hoping I can get him something. It's been 5 months and I still haven't seen him in person! One day I went to Palm-River, not knowing I was going; two days before his phone was disconnected(he has been using his moms phone and his friends phone and McDonald's wifi to keep in contact). I told him I was in his town if he could come see me for a lil just to say hi. He was about 6 minutes distance in a car and 20 minutes walking! He didn't end up coming because "it was a distance". I was very upset because I was once 23hrs away from him and once I was 20 minutes away he didn't want to come see me! I felt like I wasn't worth anything. Made me feel horrible inside. He kept telling me he didn't want to see me until he was off probation. Which I was fine with but I've been so patiently waiting and it's getting harder! I play basketball, my senior night is on Wednesday and all I want is for him to be there, I even told him my mom could probably get him! He still says he doesn't want to come until he's off of probation! On top of all of this he doesn't want to meet my family! We talked it out and the reason is because of a past experience. I told him he has to let that go and stop letting his past relationships affect ours. All of this is so stressful but I'm so in love with this guy and I want things to work. What should I do??

[Unicorn26]

Wow. This does not sound good. Have you ever seen him on video chat or anything like that? Are you sure he is who he says he is????

I think it's pretty bad that he didn't want to drive 6 minutes away to see you, wild horses could not stop my SO if I were that close! One time I was supposed to go to NYC (sadly it fell through) and my SO was gonna drive there from Chicago to see me....

I appreciate he's trying to get his life sorted out but there are so many red flags here. He's been in a lot of trouble already for someone so young, and please don't think I'm some old fuddy duddy because believe me, I have lived!!!! If he was truly committed to you, he would want to know all about your family and want to meet them.

You deserve better than this, you really do....

[R&R]

I'm going to be honest and not sugar coat this - you need to let go and move on without him. A relationship takes two people and you are apparently the only one who is still emotionally vested or involved in this relationship.

He's that close and doesn't want to see you and he's saying due to probation? For what happened, there would be nothing in his probation to stop him from seeing you unless you have an arrest record or are a felon. It's an excuse.

Focus on finishing high school. Spend time with your friends. Continue with your sports. There is no reason at your age that you should be dealing with this much stress from a relationship. Your life should be full on your own and then a relationship should enhance that, not provide stress. You will eventually find someone who treats your properly and makes you and the relationship as important. Don't settle for less.

[Sarah96]

I agree with Unicorn and R&R... it's just really weird that he wouldn't want to see you, especially since you two are now so close to each other. Either he's lying about who he is or he just doesn't care about the relationship. You're in a new state, a new school, meeting new people, I think that's exactly what you need to do. Allow yourself to meet new people and find someone you have a connection with that will treat you properly and the way you deserve to be treated. I wish you the best!

[Honour]

I got cat-fished once. Ever heard of that term? Basically means that the person who you thought you were seeing was actually someone completely different and they've lied about who they really are.

Agreed with the above. Either he's lying about who he is, or doesn't care as much as you do. I'm sorry OP, but this guy... he's dragging you down.

[differentcountries]

Do you really have to ask? He will not bring you any good, and you know it.

BTW, your exclamation marks after every sentence gives me a head ace.

[conejita_hada]

OP, I agree with the others. He doesn't sound good for you, real or catfish. You deserve better.

BTW, your exclamation marks after every sentence gives me a head ace.

DC, with the whole inappropriate comments thing that just went down, this comment should have been omitted. It adds nothing. Sometimes the way a person writes can be aggravating. In such a case, just move to a different thread.

[Moon]

Do you really have to ask? He will not bring you any good, and you know it.

BTW, your exclamation marks after every sentence gives me a head ace.

Probably shouldn't call someone out on their use of exclamation points when you can't spell ache correctly. Just sayin'.

[Ahava]

BTW, your exclamation marks after every sentence gives me a head ace.

Out of nearly 60 sentences:
there are about 25 (!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!).
32 sentences ending to a full stop (................................).
And one question mark (?).

Edit: okay two question marks, but at the end of one sentence

[Miasmata]

I concur with the others, this raises a bunch of red flags and I really feel like you are investing way more than he has or will. Be honest with yourself, is this really what you want?

[differentcountries]

Probably shouldn't call someone out on their use of exclamation points when you can't spell ache correctly. Just sayin'.

I highly doubt my speiling error gave someone trouble breathing while reading. I seriously had trouble following her story because it looks like she is screaming.

[differentcountries]

Out of nearly 60 sentences:
there are about 25 (!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!).
32 sentences ending to a full stop (................................).
And one question mark (?).

Edit: okay two question marks, but at the end of one sentence

I am thankful for your thorough counting.

[snow_girl]

I highly doubt my speiling error gave someone trouble breathing while reading. I seriously had trouble following her story because it looks like she is screaming.

THIS IS SCREAMING Not this!

[vicks5721]

I agree with everyone who has commented, either he doesn't care as much as you do or he is a catfish, not wanting to meet because he is not who he says he is. Your story has so many red flags and I personally would be wary that he has commited crimes and you haven't even met him yet, how can you be sure he is safe to be around? Have you guys ever video chat at all? As it's really important I feel to build on the bond and also to know that they are definitely telling the truth.

[lykim]

There's something up with this guy. Watch the TV show Catfish and check if there is any similarities. The arrest thing could be a lie to manipulate you. Be careful.